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I think it's weird to go and have a beer alone after work. T thinks it's totally normal. Would you do that? Would your DH?
Btw, HE wanted me to ask you guys. lol
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I would NEVER do that. Driving home from work, that would just never even cross my mind. I guess it's more acceptable for guys. A mom might get the side eye. lol
At a bar? Abnormal.
At home? Fine.
Honestly, though, I think some guys just like the atmosphere of bars. I'm not sure what the appeal is, but some guys just like them. Like going to a hair salon for women, I guess.
And no, my DH doesn't do this. I don't think I've ever even been in a bar with him - ever.
If it is the local hang out with familiar faces and known bar tenders, not too weird. I don't think I (or my DH) would do that. But it is because of our introverted personalities. I can see that a people person would see it as perfectly normal. I would have a beer at home by myself. Is that different?
wow, i edited to fix some grammar problems
weird? no. A possible symptom of a problem? Yes.
my DH is a recovering alcoholic. this is something he would do back in the day... "needing" to have a drink at any time = an issue. There's nothing social about having a drink alone ... I'd question the need - not being weird or not.
I also think anyone who says they go to a bar and have ONE beer is kidding themselves --- one usually means 2, 3+, etc... and then you are talking about a drunk driving issue.
My DH quit drinking after he got a DUI and in an accident (luckily nobody was hurt)... that was 7.5 yrs ago. Getting a dui FVCKS your world up -- and can really screw everyone in your family if you end up killing someone or yourself, obviously - so i'd have real issues with it... questioning this "one" beer thing.
It's not something I would personally do because I don't like beer all that much.
DH has done this, he makes beer as a hobby so it's easy for him to grab a glass and have one in the evening. With him I think it's part of enjoying what he made.
ETA: Umm I read it wrong. I thought you meant having a drink alone at home. HA! No, neither of us would specifically stop somewhere alone to get a drink.
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Alone? No.
DH agrees. He'd go with company but not alone.
neither DH nor I would do this, but I really don't see any issue with it, if it is not a regular basis type thing.
I agree with pp - a bar is a guy thing. If your guy is friendly, then there is a social aspect of it without too many ties. If you go with friends, you are kinda reliant on them. If you go by yourself, you can come/go as you want. Talk to the bartender, watch whatever sport is on TV.
As long as he isn't that creepy lonely guy in the corner eyeing every chick, then no problem for me.
Well... I wouldn't think twice about going to Starbucks for a coffee after work, so I guess it's about the same. In fact, some nights I really could use a trip to Starbucks alone!!! I don't do the bar thing, but plenty of people do, and I don't necessarily think it means there's a problem. But I've never dealt with alcoholism like the pp, so I can't really say definitively.
DH wouldn't either, but we each get one night a week for ourselves (I go to yoga, he does whatever) and it's a blessing to be able to have your own schedule once in a while! Maybe it's just your DH's way of winding down and not having to come home right away - a way to retrieve some of that freedom from before kids, ya know?
This.
With friends? Sure!
Alone?
The only reasons I can think of for most people drinking alone in a bar are:
1. Alcohol abuse problem.
2. Looking to get sum.
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I guess I am weird because I would not find this strange. When my husband was single he worked very long hours. Sometime he would take a break go, walk down the block, have a beer and catch up on journal articles. Other times after would he would grab a beer and shoot a game of pool. He is not strange and he does not have a drinking problem. Do people find this more acceptable if the person has a burger with their beer?
ETA: We lived in a city so there was no driving involved, even after one beer.
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