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MillersXing
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"Go see what 'normal' is" (vent)
MillersXing
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My mom called yet again to say she would help with the house, and I turned her down...yet again. She was none to pleased.
I told her she was making me feel like crap and I was taking her approach to "help" as very judgemental. I told her she was not being constructive and I felt like "Why bother? It doesn't matter how hard I've worked, or how far the house has come." And I mentioned she was making me feel like I was some kind of head case that would wind up on a hoarding show.
She said she was not intending to be judgmental or make me feel bad, but she was concerned. I asked what would make her "unconcerned". And she said....wait for it...
"You should go over to other peoples houses and see what normal is."
I'm still fired up about this and it's a day later. At this rate I don't want to be around her at all she's stressing me out so bad.
By the end of the week the house will be totally done. Nursery put away and done. Things where they belong. And a nice vacuum/dusting/wipe down for all rooms. Get off my butt.
I know this baby could come whenever he/she wants but they're not coming home to a total sh!t hole that is unfit for humans. Seriously.
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Re: "Go see what 'normal' is" (vent)
I've posted before about how my mom wants to "help" with the house. We've gone through a total bathroom renovation which set back getting the nursery done (had to tear through a nursery wall). Cribs were in the living room and nothing baby related could be put away.There were a couple set backs with the nursery as well so that's why at 37 weeks we can finally finish.
On top of that we were going through everything we own trashing and giving away so we could start fresh and be organized. This is where I think my mom gets the hoarding thing from.
I haven't seen your house or anything, but honestly, it sounds to me like you guys have it totally together and you're doing wayyyy better than most people!
"Normal" in my book, is people shoving things away where you can't see them just so they can keep their stupid crap and make it 'look presentable' then it just tricks people into thinking their house is clean.
What you're doing (at least what it sounds like) is actually making a stress free environment for yourselves and making room for things that matter, things you'll need in the future, and NOT keeping things that are unneccesary.
I'm sure your mum can be a lovely woman, but I think her impending grandmotherhood might be making her just a touch insane.
Good luck with keeping her off your back - I really hope she lets up. I know I can't stand it when people tell me what to do with MY house/stuff.
Sounds like a normal "construction zone". Wtf does she expect? I am 38.5 weeks and I still don't have everything put away in the nursery.
Has your mom ever been through such a major renovation??? They take over the house, there's really no avoiding it, and there's nothing much you can do in the meantime but make the best of it, which sounds like exactly what you're doing! We started renovating our kitchen right before Thanksgiving, and your house sounds just like mine did for the first few months. I say just ignore her if you can. Sounds like she means well but has no tact to just back off.
Oh yes! She pointed out that when she and my dad were first married, they renovated an entire house from the ground up and she managed to keep it clean!!!
Then I think Paul Bunion showed up with his ox named Babe to help with rebuilding.
I have no excuse. For shame!
Anyway, some family was just here for the first time. Upon receiving a tour of the barn (which has come a looooong way since I was first here), one of them said, "Living here is like being a pioneer!" I just laughed, because that was from someone who really likes her creature comforts.
It sounds like you are way ahead of us!
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OMG! Because you're PREGNANT and it's taking you a little longer to finish everything up than she'd like, that makes you abnormal?
She sounds like quite a lovely lady. Just stick to your guns and keep her out of your house. You'll get it done when you get it done.
Moms can be so insensitive.
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THIS! You can barely walk through our apartment right now lol
Does your mom and my SIL know each other? We are renovating, too and my SIL dropped in the other day with her DS and told him, "Uh, you might want to keep your shoes on, Gavin," as she looked around our house in horror.