Would I be a rude biatch if...

MSTie24 · June 2010

So DD has enough clothes by now to choke a horse, and I really, *really* don't want to receive any more at this point. Don't get me wrong, we totally appreciate all of the generous clothing gifts, but between what I've gotten her, what my mom's bought, hand-me-downs and the shower gifts we are beyond set. However, I literally have only 2 baby-appropriate books (thick pages, safe for chewing on) and just a few infant toys. I know in our family we usually get a gift for the baby when he or she is born, so I would really like to pass the word that if someone wanted to gift DD with something at her birth, that we would really like some age-appropriate toys and books only. I am ok with looking a little snitty because, hey, I'm 8 months pregnant and am feeling a bit entitled but I want to phrase it nicely. MIL will probably have a cow no matter what I say (because she thinks it's "tacky" to even ask someone what they might want for a birthday or holiday gift) but whatever. So am I a horrible person for planning to do this or is it considered a forgivable etiquette sin if done nicely?

Seattle_JiLLn · June 2010

I don't know that I'd make a big announcement about it.. I would just say things when you talk to people like 'OMG I can't believe all the clothes this baby has already!! But no books. She's going to look pretty but she needs stuff to do!"

MSTie24 · June 2010

Ah sorry, guess I forgot to say I wouldn't make a big deal of it...just mention it casually to my close family (that I'd feel comfortable bringing it up with) and ask Mom and MIL to pass the word in case anyone asks.

cmcmillan · June 2010

I agree with Jill. You can also exchange things, once your ready those quick shopping trips are a good excuse to get out of the house.

FWIW-I exchanged more then I thought I would since W is fitting into M's summer clothes, since he's bigger then M was. I switched out about 8 outfits at Carters and got him toys and onsies.

greenmtbride · June 2010

Personally I wouldn't do it...you can always exchange the clothes for bigger sizes...or for toys depending on the store. We had tons of stuff for when DS was little but now that he's a year I'm back to shelling out for clothes

MSTie24 · June 2010

Oh and P.S. I LOVE your new siggy pic. You have the handsomest boys; in about 15 years you'll be beating the teenage girls off with sticks, big time.

greenmtbride · June 2010

oh, I'd also add that as I got closer to my due date people came out of the woodwork asking me what I still needed...in that case I would tell them or point to my registry.

newmommy74 · June 2010

I would just tell your Mom what Jill said & ask her to spread the word around for you! I too had far too many clothes for Cooper when he was born. Some of the stuff that I even brought I returned & others if I couldn't return them because they were a gift and I didn't have the receipt then I just exchanged for bigger sizes. Good luck Shane!

zazzu · June 2010

People are going to get you what they want regardless. Even if you requested books, they might not be books that you would use. In my case my mom passed on that I didn't need any more clothes and her friend got me some religious baby books, which in my case was not something that I would have asked for.

KNemo · June 2010

I agree with PP. You don't want to come off the "bad guy" for requesting stuff. Just keep reciepts for the stuff you get gift reciepts for and return the things you don't want.

I did; however, request that one of the three showers that people threw me be a "Build Max a library" shower. That one was my favorite. It is especially nice because my boy is a bookworm. And I did return a lot of stuff for the things that I needed. It is also a great reason to get out of the house once baby is born and you need to get out before you go stir crazy.

MSTie24 · June 2010

Yeah, I don't want to be the bad guy (although for my mom's side of the family at least I don't think there'd be any issue- they are very into getting people what they want and aren't shy about gifting questions) and I certainly don't mind exchanging things if necessary, but we've already been given some clothing items from DH's side in particular that we simply can't exchange because it would cause all kinds of issues. (Including that we've been told we need to take pics of her in these outfits that DH and I think are borderline awful.) So I'd rather avoid that if I can. I would have loved to have had a book shower...I am a reading fiend and have LOTS of kids' books for when she's a bit older but would really enjoy having things for now. Big props to zazzu for being my awesome and only book gifter...and books about cats, no less!

adhdfashion · June 2010

I think its fine for Mom and MIL too pass the word around about toys and books. You will still get more clothing! LOL But some toys too. Also kids to grow at lightning speed so ask for 2T and up. I know at first you think my child will never need clothing till there 5. But my kid is almost 11 months old and already in 2T. She is in the 95% for her height. So all that cute baby clothing lasted about 6 months. LOL

braveangel2 · June 2010

Like a registry, I'd tell the key people - mom, best friend, and let them spread the word or bring it up - how they do it is up to them.

And these were my favorite soft books when E was little - they're washable!

https://www.etsy.com/shop/childrenswoodland?section_id=5248939&page=2 (I have Raggedy Ann and Spot)

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