Question about IUIs. Longish.

BeachCole · June 2010

Back story - before this pregnancy, DH and I went back and forth on the "IUIs while he's deployed" thing. After this loss, we both really want to go ahead with it. RE hopes that closer monitoring could make a difference, so I've spent the morning calling and getting things set up.

Anyhow, they got us in for Friday, at 8 am, and that's all the works with DH's schedule. They recommend 3-5 days of abstaining for the deposit to maximize the number of vials they get out of one deposit. Last we did anything was Saturday late night, putting it at 5 and a half days. I was told that pushing day 6 was usually okay, but I'm being admittedly paranoid, because we can't do another deposit. Doing something today would only put us at 2.5 days.

Am I being totally insane to worry about an extra 8-10 hours? If you've done IUI's, how long does your SO abstain? I'm sorry if this is really stupid, I'm just so nervous about all of this.

rjl07 · June 2010

I think you should probably be ok with Saturday or even having sex tonight after work. We were usually told to have sex the night of the trigger so that doesn't really help you, but that would be about 36 hours in advance. I hope it works for you!

writergirl5786 · June 2010

i have no answers! but i'm super happy you guys are getting to move forward with this! love you more than words! ((hugs))

damabo80 · June 2010

::Lurking::

It depends on if he has any MFI. Usually, if the sperm aren't the greatest, then the RE will recommend a longer abstaining time: 3-5 days. If there's no MFI, then only 36-72 hours of abstaining is recommended.

The "fresher" batch means that you will have less chance of the old decrepit sperm making their way into the ute.

My DH doesn't have any MFI, so with the last IUI, we BDed on Sat night (per RE's orders), and IUIed on Monday afternoon. His SA numbers on Monday afternoon were "super great" (RE's terms, not mine.)

KelinandKevin · June 2010

rjl07:
I think you should probably be ok with Saturday or even having sex tonight after work. We were usually told to have sex the night of the trigger so that doesn't really help you, but that would be about 36 hours in advance. I hope it works for you!

This for me too. And good luck!

BeachCole · June 2010

Thank you ladies! He had great numbers on all fronts in his SA results, so perhaps we will do stuff this afternoon instead then. If you girls did around 2-3 days, I'm sure it would be fine with his. I'd rather have less attempts with better sperm than the sample being not as high quality for pushing the timing. I really appreciate it!

Mocha Girl · June 2010

BeachCole:
Thank you ladies! He had great numbers on all fronts in his SA results, so perhaps we will do stuff this afternoon instead then. If you girls did around 2-3 days, I'm sure it would be fine with his. I'd rather have less attempts with better sperm than the sample being not as high quality for pushing the timing. I really appreciate it!

I don't have knowledge to share about IUIs, however, what everyone else said made sense to me and I think you are making a good decision! I'm so glad that this is an option for you!!! (((hugs)))

TravelinMama · June 2010

I was on vacation when I heard the news, I'm so sorry hun.

Wishing you lots of luck.

kew243 · June 2010

I don't have info on IUIs, but I am excited for you! Good luck on your upcoming appointments!

celestej619 · June 2010

Hey love, I don't know anything about IUIs but I just wanted to say my fingers are crossed for you guys. I'm so glad this is an option for you guys while dh is deployed. Good luck girl!

kndeckar · June 2010

writergirl5786:
i have no answers! but i'm super happy you guys are getting to move forward with this! love you more than words! ((hugs))

This. GL to you!!!

butterfly843 · June 2010

As long as his numbers are good that you will be fine abstaining only 2.5 days. Dh and I usually abstain only 2-3 days when I know he has to give a deposit. I am glad that you will be able to do IUI while your dh is deployed. WIll keep you in my thoughts.

mlmtgg · June 2010

My RE recommends sex 3 days before "deposit" so that DH is "refilled and refreshed" - waiting too long before can cause #s/quality to decline actually. Either way I think you are good.

Good luck!

jcath · June 2010

I just did my first month of IUI, my RE's office says abstain 2-4 days before giving the sample but my RE personally says he thinks fresher sperm is better and actually my dh's sample on the second day had higher counts and better movement - so if your dh is up to it - go for it now.

Good luck - I hope this works for you!