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Think Twice about bringing a 0-3 month old to a wedding reception

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DH and I decided to bring our 0-3 month old to a wedding reception for a few good reasons

1.  I was in the wedding party, I breast feed and had to spend a night away from my family.  We thought it would be good to have DS close to the boobs as soon as possible although I pumped while away.

2.  We have yet to really leave DS unattended with a baby sitter and felt awkward imposing on extended family to babysit.

3. We thought it wouldn't be so bad considereing that there were 2 other infants there (4months and 5 months)

We were so wrong.  We didn't take into account how loud the music could be at the wedding reception. DH refused to bring our son in the ballroom and attended to him in the lobby while I did my appearances as a member of the wedding party.  When I wasn't doing things for photo ops, I had to run back and forth to DS and DH to make sure DH was getting served in the lobby and just spend time with him.  As a result DH couldn't really enjoy himself and I barely ate and felt so frazzled.  There is a reason why most receptions are adult receptions and regardless of what other parents are willing to tolerate, it was not worth having DS in a situation where he could experience hearing damage.  Think twice...

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  • IrishBrideNDIrishBrideND member

    I would never bring a baby to a wedding reception so I agree.

    We had a wedding to attend at 3 weeks. We left her at home. I'm glad we did.

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  • BrewtowngrlBrewtowngrl member

    We took DS1 to one at 4 months.  They sat us by the DJ so it was too loud.  We ended up leaving by 7 because it was a huge reception and it was just too loud. 

    I tried to use DS as an excuse to not go, but bride and MOB insisted that he was invited and wanted to see him.  This was DH's aunt and cousin so I felt obligated.  Glad we went and made everyone happy though. 

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  • mrsjennimrsjenni member
    I'd never bring a baby to a wedding.  Ever.
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  • chazlewochazlewo member
    Hmmm... I just took my 6 week old to a wedding reception this past weekend.  I'm an audiologist, so I'm certain it wasn't too loud...  DS slept through almost the whole thing, and since we had a lot of out of town family there that wanted to cuddle with him, DH and I were able to relax and we had a great time! 
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  • teelamanteelaman member
    Both me and DH were in our close friends wedding when LO was a month old, and the bride (my close friend) specifically wanted her there. She was even in a dress to match the theme. My parents were also invited, so they held her during the ceremony (which she slept through), and DH and I took her during the reception - and we had no problems whatsoever.
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  • robinsokjrobinsokj member
    I was MOH in a wedding a couple weeks ago.  Both boys came (as did my parents) and slept through the ceremony.  The reception was loud, but the location was set up so we could put them just outside of the room on their playmat and they did great.  It all depends on the situation
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  • norman25norman25 member
    We just got back from a reception this past weekend. I do not regret it. It was with family we barely see, so we went so people could meet DS. We visited and ate dinner from 430-8 pm. We left the hall after the music started and visited with people outside.  We left by his bedtime at 9. Easy as that.
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  • Stratton28Stratton28
    I wouldn't think it would be too loud for a baby at a wedding (unless you are sitting right next to the DJ/band speakers).  I purposely keep it pretty loud in the house during the day so Bri doesn't get used to complete quiet and end up being a light sleeper
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  • shortstuff15shortstuff15 member
    See and I've never ever been invited to an adult only wedding.  Every single wedding I have been to, including my own, had kids (from newborn to teenager age) there.  We brought our daughter to my husbands cousin's wedding at 4 months (travel was two 1 - 3 hour flights and then an hour drive after we landed) and she did great.  She basically slept through the whole wedding and reception.  I just kept her away from the speakers.

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  • ToBeMrsTToBeMrsT member
    we took ds to a wedding when he was 2 1/2 months old. it was fine.
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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member

    I'd never bring a baby to a wedding reception anyway.

    We had a wedding to go to when DD was 5 weeks old. My sister came along and stayed in the hotel room with her so I could leave the reception to feed her as I needed to. If my sister couldn't make it the bride found a couple babysitters who were willing to do the same for me. 

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  • VampyAuthorVampyAuthor member

    imagemrs.jenni:
    I'd never bring a baby to a wedding.  Ever.

    Pretty much this for me too.

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  • terri_doula2010terri_doula2010 member

    I'm MoH in a wedding (in another part of the country) when DS will be 6 months. It is an adult only wedding, except for DS (who will be ringbearer) and a then 4mo old flowergirl. I'm worried about crying, but at least this was all the bride's idea and they will be quite cute.

    We're going to have a babysitter for the rehearsal dinner and the reception, though. Besides the possible nightmares of having babies there, DH and I don't get to enjoy ourselves much, and I'll be so tired that we are going for it!

    Now, the bachelore/bachelorette party is the problem for us...it is a coed weekend in a beach town. DH can't go and I can't afford to fly all the way across country, then drive 4 hours just to get to this place, plus pay for a babysitter for the weekend to be there too. Bride doesn't see why I don't just leave him with her mom several hours away and feed him formula for a weekend. I EBF, so I'm so not okay with that. She doesn't understand. I'm just going to be there for the baby-friendly things and maybe get a local sitter for one night out, but that's about it.

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  • jess60jess60 member
    imagechazlewo:
    Hmmm... I just took my 6 week old to a wedding reception this past weekend.  I'm an audiologist, so I'm certain it wasn't too loud...  DS slept through almost the whole thing, and since we had a lot of out of town family there that wanted to cuddle with him, DH and I were able to relax and we had a great time! 
    This except DS was only 3 weeks old (& I'm not an audiologist). We had a great time & no one could believe what a good baby he was & they all loved seeing him.

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