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What helped you heal?

Mommy2AJMommy2AJ
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I know everyone heals in their own ways, and I got this idea from the memorial post below. I was just wondering what you ladies did that helped you. For us, having him cremated and brought home was quite helpful. Also, holding a service was nice because it meant that our friends and family recognized him as a person and not just "that fetus." There's also the tree we planted in the backyard. So, what helped you?
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  • luvsbunnyluvsbunny member

    This board saved me!!

    I also have a "memorial box" with everything we had for that baby.

     

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  • lovesinthehouselovesinthehouse
    Hmmm...I like to read and talk to process, so being able to talk to my friends and reading through some good books really helped me process emotionally and essentially heal. I think openly talking about it with people as something real, something that hurt, something that just happens to people, helped me too.
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  • Sue&PasqualeSue&Pasquale member

    time. That and more time. but I dont think I will every get over it. I went to a support group that helped a little, this board helped, but honestly every month I am so depressed when I am not pregnant. also talking about it to my husband, mom and friend has helped too.

    But my husband says he wants his happy wife back. I dont think I will ever be HAPPY until I am holding my baby.

    good luck to you and hang in there.

     

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  • mandyjn16mandyjn16
    We had him cremated and then did a small service where we scattered the ashes. Also we have a memorial box with pictures and footprints. Looking at those things has helped, but therapy too!
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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    We buried Miller here at home and planted a tree.  I also have a piece of rememberance jewelry which helps a lot.  I also bake, a lot!  Something about working with the dough really helps me.
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  • kaydarkkaydark member
    This board and PL were absolutely life saving! Hearing from other women who had experiences like mine made me feel less alone and helped me work though my anger. Also,and as much as I hated it, time helped. Now that I am trying again, SAL gives me hope that someday I will have a healthy baby.
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