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Stop worrying about progress/dilation/effacement...

EuroChickEuroChick
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For your own piece of mind ladies, this stuff means nothing in terms of delivering.  I have friends who walked around for weeks at 3 centimeters and othera who had absolutely nothing and then went into labour and dialated to 10 cm in a few hours.  Even the mucus plus can grow back.  Your doctor really doesn't know when you will go into labor and just because you have a lot of BH at 37 weeks doesn't mean the baby is coming any time soon.  Just relax, trust your body, and let things happen in their own time.
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  • rodiesmumrodiesmum member
    noted on this :) apologies if i asked too many qs as sometimes first timers like me have a tendency to become a worry wart =)

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  • EuroChickEuroChick
    Questions are good, but you shouldn't worry about these things because they mean nothing.  And shame on doctors for giving people false impressions...
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  • CoastieWife08CoastieWife08

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    Questions are good, but you shouldn't worry about these things because they mean nothing.  And shame on doctors for giving people false impressions...

    ITA 100%.  The thing that irks me the most on here is when women have Dr's and MW's tell them "You won't make it to your due date" or "Any day now!".

    It's so irresponsible and ends up making women feel defeated when their due dates come and go.

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  • EllaandLucaEllaandLuca
    Thank you ... and I completely agree ... it's already confusing enough ...
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  • BrittH05BrittH05 member
    AMEN! Yes
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  • Stacyc625Stacyc625 member
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  • izzybellaizzybella member
    imageCoastieWife08:

    imageEuroChick:
    Questions are good, but you shouldn't worry about these things because they mean nothing.  And shame on doctors for giving people false impressions...

    ITA 100%.  The thing that irks me the most on here is when women have Dr's and MW's tell them *~*~"You won't make it to your due date" or "Any day now!".*~*~*

    It's so irresponsible and ends up making women feel defeated when their due dates come and go.

    My 1st OB kept telling me this with DD, starting at 37 w. By the time I made it to my EDD I was so frustrated and over being pregnant that I asked for an induction and she agreed.  I switched OBs after that and my 2nd one honored my wishes to go into labor on my own even when I started begging for an induction at the end :)

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  • Chickpea2010Chickpea2010

    It was kind of fun to know at first, but I think I'm going to decline internals from here on out. Yesterday the baby's head was in the way and she couldn't tell how dilated I was (I still can't figure this one out - I need a diagram) and she said, "I could figure it out, but it would be uncomfortable for you and it doesn't mean anything anyway."

    My midwife just keeps telling me to stay loose, stay flexible, things will happen the way they're supposed to happen when they're supposed to happen.

     

     

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  • Mrs.HandyMrs.Handy member

    Yes

    This is why my practice doesn't do routine internals or growth u/s. Everything has been going on normally with my pregnancy so they're just letting things flow naturally and realizing the baby will come when he's ready.

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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    easier said than done Stick out tongue  and in my opinion...its part of the "Fun"...my nursery is set, my nesting is pretty much done...I'm bored.  I need something to obsess over, LOL!!  Stick out tongue
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  • anmorgan32anmorgan32 member

    imageMouseygail:
    easier said than done Stick out tongue  and in my opinion...its part of the "Fun"...my nursery is set, my nesting is pretty much done...I'm bored.  I need something to obsess over, LOL!!  Stick out tongue

    This. So very true. I know it doesn't necessarily mean anything, but it's still interesting to find out if anything has changed down there. 

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  • NewlyWeds13NewlyWeds13 member

    I agree that anything can happen and that you can be dialted and effaced for weeks or not and all of a sudden have a baby in 10 hours.  

    However, I don't necessarily think that wanting to know this is "worrying".  I love to know how my body is changing and progressing.  It makes me happy to know that my body is actually doing something.  It makes me feel in tune with it.   So-- i guess my point is that for some people wanting to know and keeping up with stats is not stressful or worrying... it is just their way of being happy and having fun.

    To me... being "relaxed" means not caring about it and to me that is stressful.  I say every mom is different and people should do what makes them happy and feel good.  

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  • jenniferuedingjenniferueding member
    So true.  I was 2-3 cm dilated from 24 weeks on with DD and she didn't come until 37 weeks (no bedrest).
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  • wifeandmamawifeandmama member
    True story!  I was hospitalized for preterm contrax at 27 weeks and had BH (and regular contrax!) CONSTANTLY from then on.. I think I was like 1.5 cm at 37 weeks and my doctor said "any day now!"  I was so psyched!  Not so much though!  I ended up having to be induced  at 41.5 weeks!  "Any day now" turned into "any time this month, maybe!"  
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  • kamiraekamirae

    imageEuroChick:
    For your own piece of mind ladies, this stuff means nothing in terms of delivering.  I have friends who walked around for weeks at 3 centimeters and othera who had absolutely nothing and then went into labour and dialated to 10 cm in a few hours.  Even the mucus plus can grow back.  Your doctor really doesn't know when you will go into labor and just because you have a lot of BH at 37 weeks doesn't mean the baby is coming any time soon.  Just relax, trust your body, and let things happen in their own time.

     

    This is why I'm glad I have no idea if I'm dialated/effaced or not.  At first I felt left out but them my mother brought it to my attention that I'm better off not knowing than anticipating something that doesn't mean anything.  :)

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  • libtenneylibtenney member

    imageMouseygail:
    easier said than done Stick out tongue  and in my opinion...its part of the "Fun"...my nursery is set, my nesting is pretty much done...I'm bored.  I need something to obsess over, LOL!!  Stick out tongue

    This exactly

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