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Big Secret (vent)

morganoremorganore
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So when me and my husband decided to find out the sex of our baby...(which was pretty much immediately bc I'm extremely impatient with surprises)....my mom tried everything possible for weeks to get me to change my mind.....there was obviously no talking me out of it...so she was all "fine then I don't want to know" and I was all "fine I won't tell you then" and it has turned into a really tough situation!!! It is soooo hard to not talk about what we are having...grrrrr I wish I would've just said "too bad mom it's our child and we are telling everyone" but no instead I agreed to not let her or anyone in our family find out. And obviously it is wayyy to exciting to not tell a single soul, so I have told a few friends but it's dangerous when they are around my mom. At least I can shout it out on here......IT'S A GIRL AND I'M SOOOO EXCITEDDDD :) 
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  • Ivana_StolichnayaIvana_Stolichnaya member
    Psh...I don't have patience with that BS and I would blow it on purpose just to end the gender stand-off.  Casually and excitedly show her a pink outfit you just picked up and then go "Whoopsie!"  lol
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  • noliabluenoliablue
    I'd tell her anyways... She didn't say "No taksies backsies"did she? LOL
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  • MeanMommyLadyMeanMommyLady member

    We are in the opposite situation, we are team green and my mom thinks it is the meanest thing we could ever do to her.

    You may or may not be able to keep the secret from her for the rest of your pregnancy...and so what if you don't?  She is not going to love your daughter any less because she knew she was a girl before she was born...is your mom going to be in the delivery room?  If not, I don't see how her knowing now is any different from being told in the waiting room of the hospital after she is born.

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  • SaraMaeHeinickSaraMaeHeinick
    I think you should let it out! Wink
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  • morganoremorganore
    Hahaha love the ideas.... I've seriously had the urge to just leave the baby's bedroom door open so when she comes over she sees it...oops! My husband is really annoyed with the whole situation too....I don't see what the big deal is either...shes just a control freak...and she is def not gonna be in the delivery room with us!
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  • QtGinaJQtGinaJ
    LOL - I wouldn't "tell" her, but I'd register for PINK stuff!!!
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  • RitaT22RitaT22 member

    imageQtGinaJ:
    LOL - I wouldn't "tell" her, but I'd register for PINK stuff!!!

    Yea, how's that going to work with your registry? Does she expect you to register for gender neutral items too?

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  • deeswetnamdeeswetnam
    If your mom doesn't want to know then that's fine.  But to keep you from sharing your excitement with other family members is no fair either.  I'd tell them all and just give them the heads up that your mom doesn't want to know.  If they blow it it's out of your hands.  It's completely unfair to you have to keep YOUR secret if you don't want to.
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  • tiggergirl0325tiggergirl0325 member

    imagedeeswetnam:
    If your mom doesn't want to know then that's fine.  But to keep you from sharing your excitement with other family members is no fair either.  I'd tell them all and just give them the heads up that your mom doesn't want to know.  If they blow it it's out of your hands.  It's completely unfair to you have to keep YOUR secret if you don't want to.

    I agree!! Especially if she's a control freak--better for her to find out now that you are in control of this baby, not her. I'd tell whoever you want to tell, let them know that your mom doesn't want to know, and let the cards fall how they may.

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  • anvloveskmeanvloveskme member
    This is really not "about" your mom - if she was the one having the baby, she could decide if she wanted to be surprised or not.  What a pain in the a$$ to have to tip toe around her so she doesn't find out. 
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  • His-N-HersHis-N-Hers

    imageIvana.Stolichnaya:
    Psh...I don't have patience with that BS and I would blow it on purpose just to end the gender stand-off.  Casually and excitedly show her a pink outfit you just picked up and then go "Whoopsie!"  lol

    Haha... this.

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  • morganoremorganore
    Haha thanks ladies...you are def making me feel better...I have been so frustrated lately! It's so hard to not tell anyone or "pretend" we don't know so I am just going to tell whoever asks and if they spill the beans to my mom..that's too bad, she should've known it was a risk she was taking not wanting to find out....as for the registry...she threw me a shower with just family and my registry was gender neutral supplies only....one of my friends is about to throw me another shower and I registered at a dif store for all girl stuff :)
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  • nrbg116nrbg116
    My Dh's Mother didn't want to know either. I knew that I wanted to know right away but my DH didn't decide until it was about a week before the ultrasound. We told everyone it was a girl and his mom responded something like "you ruined it, I didnt want to know" we said "too bad- its our baby and we wanted to know and we weren't keeping it a secret for you!" She's over it, now she just bugs us about other stupid things... :P
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  • morganoremorganore
    Yes my mother is a big pain in my a$$...I told her she better just enjoy this while it lasts bc I'm never doing this or anything like it for her ever again bc it was wayyy too hard....(her comment back was..."well then you should not have found out")...ummm it's our decision, not yours.....thanks for letting me vent!!
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  • Lovies103Lovies103

    imagemorganore:
    Yes my mother is a big pain in my a$$...I told her she better just enjoy this while it lasts bc I'm never doing this or anything like it for her ever again bc it was wayyy too hard....(her comment back was..."well then you should not have found out")...ummm it's our decision, not yours.....thanks for letting me vent!!

     

    She does realize this is your baby right?

    Are you going to do your shower and get all gender neutral clothes and stuff just to appease her? 

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  • morganoremorganore
    apparently she doesn't bc she's been so selfish.....there ain't no way in H*%$ I'm getting gender neutral clothing...which is why I'm having a girl shower in a few weeks and she isn't invited :)
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    LOL - I wouldn't "tell" her, but I'd register for PINK stuff!!!

    LOL  I'd do this!   

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