I just need to vent.
I have been speaking with our agency and they have all sorts of situations that they will be showing our profile to, which is good. But they all seem like pretty dismal scenes. Birth fathers planning to contest the adoption, high chances of moms parenting, extended drug use and worse...
I don't expect any situation to be perfect, but it seems that we get all the crazy situations. And to make matters worse, I inquired about a mom they told us a while ago they were going to show our profile to and it turns out she didn't pick us, and she had the baby and placed the baby. I can't help but feel that all the easy situations go to other people while we get the crap shoots.
I'm trying not to be down today, but I just feel that way. I swear every time they tell us about a mom they give us all the reasons to be Leary of the situation, knowing full well it might not go through. I am grateful they tell us, so we can be prepared, it just seems too much to take sometimes.
Re: feeling pretty glum.
Sorry you are feeling down.....I've definitely been there before.
This process is tough to say the least!
After a year and several months of waiting, we started to actively pursue situations outside of our agency. It gave me a sense of control (ya, right!!). I was so discouraged just sitting and waiting...and being disappointed.
Hugs to you
I'm sorry you're feeling down.
Your agency didn't tell you that the BM didn't pick you for that previous situation? Our SW told us that is the crappiest part of her job-calling the potential adoptive parents and telling them they were not chosen.
I hope your day picks up and you start feeling not so glumy.
I'm sorry you're having a rough time and that the wait has been so hard. It must be hard to stay positive when you are being told of all of the negatives. Yes, I would want to know the negatives, too, and be prepared, but it doesn't make it any easier.
Thinking of you, MayDay.
Sorry about the glum day. If it's any consolation, I'm with you. We had a potential match that I was very excited about. Just found out that the BM lied about everything (medical condition, drug use, etc), so we had to say no. This process is SO draining. But, I still hold out hope that you and I (and everyone on this board) will get to be mothers (oops, or fathers) soon.
Good luck!
While our agency is foster care, they do the SAME thing to us. We had to have long drawn out meetings over whether Jaxon would be a good fit, whether we'd be okay with him possibly not being able to return affection, etc. Then came Trent and we had to have long discussions about him and his drug exposure and what it could have done to him. They make it seem all scary, which potentionally it could be.
Sorry you're down today. Tomorrow will be better!