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So, I told my boss

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We had a meeting scheduled for 2:30 today and he called to move it up to 10:30.  I didn't plan on it, but I ended up telling him about the two m/c, APS diagnosis etc. and I may have teared up/cried a little. 

How embarrassing.  I think it's just because I've never really said it aloud that much.  It's sad, even now.  I mean they were my babies, no matter how short a time I knew them.  Anyway, he said he was so sorry and shared with me that he and his wife had a difficult time.  They did two rounds of IVF (1st was a ectopic pg) before they were successful.  I was so shocked to hear this and grateful for his compassion.     

He'll keep quiet until I get a chance (maybe in the next couple weeks) to talk to the people who will back me up while I'm gone. 

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  • AppleRidgeAppleRidge member
    Congrats!  That's a big hurdle to get over, and I'm glad it went so well.  Good boss!
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  • sydney0928sydney0928

    I'm glad you got it over with! It's amazing the things you learn about people when you share your story, isn't it? (((Hugs)))

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  • Addicted2thenotAddicted2thenot member
    (((HUGS))) I am sorry that sharing your great news brought up bad feelings from the losses. Sounds like you have a great boss, I am glad that he was so compassionate. It always surprises me when I open up about my losses, how many people have suffered losses too & I never knew. 

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  • Amanda78Amanda78 member
    Good for you! I am glad he was understanding of your history and I hope it helps to have him know.  I'm glad he will keep your news quiet too.  It is your news to share after all!
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  • hking76hking76 member
    I'm so glad it went well.  Your boss sounds like a great guy, especially for sharing with you his family's journey.
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  • SonadoraSonadora member
    I'm glad it went well!
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  • OCIrishBruinOCIrishBruin

    That is such a great feeling - what a relief.  And, you are so lucky to have a boss that can understand, at least a little bit. 

     

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  • And KetchAnd Ketch
    That's great news!  It never ceases to amaze me how open people are if you just ask, or share your own story.  Glad your boss was understanding.
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  • momagain2009momagain2009 member
    What a relief that must be.  It's great that he understands too. 
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  • hopingwaitinghopingwaiting
    Glad he was sympathetic (and sounds like he'll definitely keep his mouth shut).  I totally know what you mean about getting emotional because of not telling very many people.  Totally cried in front of my old boss because she was the first non-DH non-BFF person I told.
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  • JaimieLeeJaimieLee

    I bet it felt great to finally have it out in the open to him though and I am glad that he seemed to really understand.  Big Smile

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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    That's great you were able to get that over with and that the meeting went well.
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  • StrunellaStrunella member
    What a nice boss! I haven't revealed myself at work yet...not sure when I'm going to do so.
     
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  • StaribethStaribeth
    I'm so glad this went well for you. Having a boss understand what this means will surely help out in the next few months. And I am sure you have nothing to be embarrassed about- it will always be difficult to discuss. 
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  • str8otastr8ota member
    Yay, this is great news! It's just one more thing you can relax about now :)
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  • celestej619celestej619
    Yay, I'm so glad you're talk went well.
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  • hutch0830hutch0830 member
    I'm glad to hear that! Yay for good bosses! I had a similar experience with our campus president. He revealed that he and his wife had a few m/c and that I should come to him anytime! And he's a few steps above me! 
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  • JacquiemarkJacquiemark

    ((HUGS))

    I'm so glad it went well and a boss that is very understanding. Although it must have hurt talking about it, you must have a sense if relief afterwards. 

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