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D&C tomorrow :(

meaganrnmeaganrn
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So I found out last Tuesday, when I was supposed to be 11w1d, that the baby no longer had a heartbeat (we had heard it at 6w) and had stopped growing around 7.5 wks.  Since it's been almost 4 weeks and my body has shown no signs of letting go of this pregnancy, I'm headed in for a D&C tomorrow.  

My MD gave me the option of waiting to see what happens naturally but it's heartbreaking to know I'm carrying around a little one that's already 'gone'.  I'm nervous but think it's the best decision for me.  

 I'm supposed to put Cervidil intra-vaginally tonight before I go to bed to dilate my cervix a bit and she warned me that the cramps can be pretty tough.  Has anyone been through this?

Anyways, I'm mostly a lurker but losing this baby has been so much harder on my husband and I than we even thought it would be.  Amazing how attached you become after only a few weeks.  After hearing the heartbeat everyone tells you you're in the clear and it just hit us like a ton of bricks...  

You're all in my prayers now, here's hoping we're all holding healthy, happy babies soon... 

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Re: D&C tomorrow :(

  • hkitty24hkitty24
    I don't have any advice or info regarding a D&C because I was only 6 weeks and m/c naturally but I wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss.  I hope everything goes well tomorrow and you can begin to heal physcially soon.  This is a wonderful place for support and info. 
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  • kjpamkjpam
    I am so very sorry for your loss.  We are here for you.   Sending you my thoughts and prayers.  BIG HUGS !!!
    5 ANGELS IN HEAVEN ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ -> miss m/c discovered on 4/6/09 at 9wks 3 days ( measured 6wks 1day ) m/c on 4/15/09 -> natural m/c on 8/27/09 at 8wks 1 day -> miss m/c discovered on 5/27/10 at 8wks 3 days ( measured 8wks ) m/c on 6/15/10 -> natural m/c on 1/27/11 at 10wks 3days -> natural m/c on 3/12/12 at 7wks ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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  • sarahandadam1029sarahandadam1029
    imagemeaganrn:

     After hearing the heartbeat everyone tells you you're in the clear and it just hit us like a ton of bricks...   

    I agree. We heard the heartbeat at 8 weeks on ultrasound and were so relieved...until the dr said that hearing it that early on ultrasound "doesn't count"...that it has to be heard on doppler at 12 weeks for us to really be in the clear. At the time I blew him off, thinking "Hey, we have a wonderful little heartbeat going strong in there...everything is going to be fine!" Wow, was I wrong. I guess now we know for next time. :(

    Best of luck tomorrow. I had a D&C on Friday, and it was actually much less traumatic than I was expecting. I hope yours goes as well!

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  • mary548mary548 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss and for what you're going through. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • colourful_dancercolourful_dancer

    i know how u feel ive just been thro the same thing!!! the hormone gel stuff really does give you bad cramps!! i was in hospital at the time so i have pain medication but yes the crampsget really bad! im sorry i dnt wanna scare you.... ive learnt that you only very have a safe pregnancey when the baby comes out cring and is checked and given the all clear coz anything can go wrong......i hope allis well tomorow and im prying for you coz i know how hard it is!!!!

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  • Lkat17Lkat17 member
    I don't have any experience with a d&c, but I just wanted to say that I'm so very sorry for your loss. (((big hugs)))

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  • bleujolibleujoli member
    Just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through your D&C today.
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  • daisy142daisy142

    I didn't take Cervidil so I have no advice there but I wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss. Ours happened much the same way as yours, we'd seen the heartbeat on two different ultrasounds and I guess part of you always wants to think you're in the clear after seeing that. Sending Ts and Ps and wishing you well as you recover.

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