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February 2011 Moms
MIL vent
So, we had a birthday party for my Grandmother and DH's Aunt yesterday...even though I haven't been feeling well I pulled myself together the best I could to pull this thing off. *pats self on back*
Well, I was talking to my grandmother, MIL and Aunt Jo (dh's aunt) about the food I made and all of a sudden MIL interupts and says "You're getting really fat in the face. Jo, isn't her face chunky now?" ... I just looked at her and so did my grandmother. And my evil hormones said "Do NOT talk to that woman the rest of the day!" ....but I regained composure and walked away without a word.
Really???? How hurtful is that!? I already feel like a bloated, frumpy mess...now you just stomped on my self esteem! 
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Re: MIL vent
Wow. That was just hurtful. MILs can be weird sometimes...
THAT's what my Grandmother said!...but of course we didn't want to say anything to her and start a family feud with the inlaws! We seriously just looked at eachother for 15 seconds then I walked away.
And it was just us 4, I really wish DH would have heard or even his sister would have put her in her place. My grandmother and I decided that I shouldn't say anything to DH because he will get upset with her then it will blow up into a huge family fight that I do not want to be the cause of. (that's how they are, everything gets blown up and exaggerated)
How rude! I woudl have started crying right there on the spot. I'm so sensitive about my weight right now because I never quite lost that newlywed weight and have packed it on since then. Now I'm the second heaviest I've ever been in my life and I'm (Godwilling) on track to gain at least another 15-20 lbs more!
I second that!
I felt like I was going to...so that's why I just stared at my Me-mom (using this whole grandmother term is not my thing.haha).
I hear you!...even though I didn't have long to put on that newlywed weight, I gained over 5 lbs on our honeymoon, now plus some since BFP.
HAHA! Trust me, I wanted to!
6/14/10 BFP; 6/30/10 Dx ectopic
11/16/10 BFP #2; DD born 7/26/11
That made me feel better
.. haha!
I wish I could say I've gained less than 5!!
Yeah, I am probably going to have to ignore a lot in these next coming months.
Thank you!!! ... I hope not too much has changed since April! Although, I have always had 'Polish cheeks' and my face is the first place you can tell that I've put on some lbs.... so I am aware, but it's rude to point out the obvious.
What a Jack-A**. Who says that?? You're a better person than I for not telling your DH. I probably would have, but my MIL has a history of saying dumb things at inappropriate moments.
During our wedding, my MIL talked to my Mom and I about how DH and his ex-girlfriend thought they were pregnant in high school. Awkward. My mom and I looked at each other like, "Did she just say that? At our wedding??" I had to tell DH, and he let her have it. It's not the first time she said something ridiculous like that.
I was at a 25th wedding anniversary party yesterday, and we were seated with this family we didn't know. And I was wearing this dress that fit me well a few weeks ago, and I didn't have much else to wear because it was so hot. I stood up, this woman pointed at my stomach and was like "you're pregnant." and I was thinking in my head.. that's rude. I looked at her and was like "Not nearly enough to be showing, thanks." and walked away. So I definitely know how you feel. It took all my strength not to be more nasty with her.
WTF! I would have wanted to flip out on her! That is so rude!
I had an aunt say something this weekend when we told her I was expecting, she said "Oh my gosh you are!? I thought you looked pregnant" Really...... wow considering I am only 8 weeks along how the heck could she tell that? DH brought it up later, he also thought it was pretty rude of her. And I know if he brings it up I am not being overly dramatic LOL
Thanks!
My MIL is EXACTLY like that! He was married before for a short amount of time and MIL hated her, well I have had to hear EVERY detail of that. When we were getting married it was "Well, at his first wedding blah blah blah". Now that we are pg, "It's well, something was wrong with her because she didn't want any kids with him". Now she has the audacity to say to me this weekend "I hope you're only planning on having one". WTF lady!!! GRRRRR!
Oh wow, that is SO rude of that family member. Did she already know? If she didn't I would have said "no, actually I'm not" and made her feel like an ass!
Oh I so wanted to flip! But, they are the type of family that would never speak to me again if I did. So, I just take it all in....hopefully I will not explode one day. It almost seems as if she is trying to see how much can take, so I will be strong!
Maybe your Aunt meant that you were glowing?
The best thing my MIL said was when my FH and I first started dating. She said "I know he still loves [his ex girlfriend], but I want him with you, not her!" I was like oook weiirrrd..
Well the lady at the party who said that didn't even know me! She was a neighbor to the people whose party it was. She decided that because my tummy was heavier than it should, and the fact I wasn't drinking alcohol, I just HAD to be pregnant. Lady, I could just be fat, and that night's designated driver!
K. After today, I need to vent. I got an email from my SIL this AM letting me know that people from my DH's family are inviting themselves over in a few weeks. She attached an email forwarded from my MIL. Basically, my DH has an aunt coming in from NC, who emailed him wanting to know if she could invite herself over one day next month - she copied his mom on this email.
His mom got the email before we did and invited my BIL,wife, and their 2 y/o over and also mentioned that another aunt,uncle, and 2 kids would be coming over also. She apparently, also sent DH an email asking if this was all okay, but didn't bother waiting for a response before inviting everyone.
I don't care if people come over, but it'd be nice if we could actually be factored into the schedule before everyone is invited.
This isn't the first and I'm sure it won't be the last time she does this - just wish DH would be brave enough to not just excuse it all the time.