Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Can we have a confession post?

I baked cookies yesterday and I've eaten almost all of them by myself.
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Re: Can we have a confession post?

  • elisbuelisbu member
    DH and I both agreed we are going to each gain about 20 lbs over this loss. We just don't care about anything right now.
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  • I was at dinner with DH last night and a very pregnant lady stood up. That's all it took for me to tear up. I feel like such a huge baby!!
  • When I see a pregnant woman I get really angry, even though its not their fault. I just want MY baby back!
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  • My second cousin passed away this week and I am dreading the funeral because I am going to see:

    1) one cousin who just gave birth last month and
    2) another cousin who is pregnant and due 1 week after my EDD

    I feel so guilty for feeling this ...

  • elisbuelisbu member
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    1) one cousin who just gave birth last month and
    2) another cousin who is pregnant and due 1 week after my EDD

     

    I have three family friends that are due around my due date (one got her BFP the same day as me and has my same due date!) and the awful, mean, terrible side of me wishes it was one of them going through this instead of me.

    I know it's horrible for me to say that out loud, but it's how I feel sometimes. Embarrassed

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  • imageallybaby85:
    When I see a pregnant woman I get really angry, even though its not their fault. I just want MY baby back!

    I also feel angry sometimes. I even feel angry when I see women with a few children. I don't understand how some women have lots of children when I can't even have 1. Such BS!!!

  • imageallybaby85:
    When I see a pregnant woman I get really angry, even though its not their fault. I just want MY baby back!

    Me too. If it's on tv I usually flip them off and in person I turn the other way.

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  • I wore a tampon to a massage today. 

    ok, that's pretty lame, but it's all I got Big Smile

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  • imageelisbu:

    I have three family friends that are due around my due date (one got her BFP the same day as me and has my same due date!) and the awful, mean, terrible side of me wishes it was one of them going through this instead of me.

    I know it's horrible for me to say that out loud, but it's how I feel sometimes. Embarrassed

    Yea it is horrible isn't it? But it's also horrible we have to go through our losses! I remember when I found out her EDD was around mine, I got annoyed because I didn't want her baby to steal my baby's thunder. Well, I guess I'm the one who feels stupid now...

  • I have a confession to make. If I don't say it, it's going to continue eating me alive inside. From the very first drop of blood 3 weeks after I got the BFP to the day before we lost Jasmine, I worried constantly that something was going to go wrong. I just somehow knew inside of me that we were going to lose her. Intuition maybe? Either way, we lost her. And I feel like my worrying and thinking for sure we would lose her caused us to actually lose her. I'm feeling guilty today. This is so hard. When does it get easier?
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    I have a confession to make. If I don't say it, it's going to continue eating me alive inside. From the very first drop of blood 3 weeks after I got the BFP to the day before we lost Jasmine, I worried constantly that something was going to go wrong. I just somehow knew inside of me that we were going to lose her. Intuition maybe? Either way, we lost her. And I feel like my worrying and thinking for sure we would lose her caused us to actually lose her. I'm feeling guilty today. This is so hard. When does it get easier?

    I had the same "intuition". I didn't tell anyone besides my immediate family that I was pregnant and was waiting until after the big anatomy scan ... go figure, that was when we found out that our baby wasn't going to make it. While I hate it when people say "it wasn't meant to me"...somehow it kinda makes sense for me.

  • DH and I have done nothing today except sit around and watch Big Bang Theory. We just finally showered and got dressed and it's 2:40.
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    Sometimes I forget how tender I still am. But then the dumbest things will bring me to tears and I'm a big mess all over again.

    Also, I have 365 emails to deal with and I just don't feel like it!

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  • I was jealous of all the families with baby's and toddlers this weekend at the beach.  I just kept thinking how bad I wanted that to be me, Jon, and Ella in a year. 

    Also, I probably have consumed 5 million calories in the last 3 days...and I don't really care.   

     

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  • imagebridezilla916:

    My second cousin passed away this week and I am dreading the funeral because I am going to see:

    1) one cousin who just gave birth last month and
    2) another cousin who is pregnant and due 1 week after my EDD

    I feel so guilty for feeling this ...

    Oh don't feel guilty at all!!! I vote for, paying your respects and getting the flock out of there! I'm sure everyone will understand.


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  • I was hanging out with my parents yesterday and when we were in Target and passed by the maternity section I felt like passing out. I wanted to throw a pity party. When I am in Target near my house and job I know how to avoid these sections. Then I saw a cute summer dress dress is the misses section and when I took it off the rack it turned out to be a maternity dress. Well, d@mn.
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  • I want to lose the extra pounds I put on during my pregnancy, but am making very little effort in the eating department...I eat what I feel like eating whenever I want.
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  • AbbneyAbbney member

    I found a newborn onesie while looking for polo shirts for DH I tried to hold it together, then I passed the baby section, I turned around and went straight to the parking lot and broke down

    And today I ate an entire bag of Wise Potatoe chips in one sitting by myself...half of of it was not caring what I put in my mouth, half was being TOTALLY shocked to see that Wise is on the left coast now (best chips EVER)

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  • I'm eating everything in sight!!  Today I had chicken n dumplins and then a hot fudge sundae. 
  • My sister is due on the 12th and I just can't get exicted for her or my new nephew. My dad called to let me know she was started false labor this weekend and I just don't even want to know.

    I feel so bad. This is their 3rd child, they've struggled for years with IF and this was a spontaneous miracle baby. I should be so excited for them, but I just keep thinking of myself.

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  • I am pretty convinced that my OB could have saved my pregnancy and didn't.  So, I tell everyone I know that she's a baby killer in hopes that it will catch on.  I clearly have not moved on from my high school mean girl days.
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    imageMarriedaSportsNut:

    I wore a tampon to a massage today. 

    ok, that's pretty lame, but it's all I got Big Smile

     

    LMAO!!!!

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