1) one cousin who just gave birth last month and 2) another cousin who is pregnant and due 1 week after my EDD
I have three family friends that are due around my due date (one got her BFP the same day as me and has my same due date!) and the awful, mean, terrible side of me wishes it was one of them going through this instead of me.
I know it's horrible for me to say that out loud, but it's how I feel sometimes.
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When I see a pregnant woman I get really angry, even though its not their fault. I just want MY baby back!
I also feel angry sometimes. I even feel angry when I see women with a few children. I don't understand how some women have lots of children when I can't even have 1. Such BS!!!
Forty-something
TTC since 12/2007
3 failed IVFs
DE cycle #1: BFP then D&E at 12 weeks due to neural tube defect
DE cycle #2: Chemical
FET #1: BFN
Lining issues, pursuing adoption
I have three family friends that are due around my due date (one got her BFP the same day as me and has my same due date!) and the awful, mean, terrible side of me wishes it was one of them going through this instead of me.
I know it's horrible for me to say that out loud, but it's how I feel sometimes.
Yea it is horrible isn't it? But it's also horrible we have to go through our losses! I remember when I found out her EDD was around mine, I got annoyed because I didn't want her baby to steal my baby's thunder. Well, I guess I'm the one who feels stupid now...
I have a confession to make. If I don't say it, it's going to continue eating me alive inside. From the very first drop of blood 3 weeks after I got the BFP to the day before we lost Jasmine, I worried constantly that something was going to go wrong. I just somehow knew inside of me that we were going to lose her. Intuition maybe? Either way, we lost her. And I feel like my worrying and thinking for sure we would lose her caused us to actually lose her. I'm feeling guilty today. This is so hard. When does it get easier?
I have a confession to make. If I don't say it, it's going to continue eating me alive inside. From the very first drop of blood 3 weeks after I got the BFP to the day before we lost Jasmine, I worried constantly that something was going to go wrong. I just somehow knew inside of me that we were going to lose her. Intuition maybe? Either way, we lost her. And I feel like my worrying and thinking for sure we would lose her caused us to actually lose her. I'm feeling guilty today. This is so hard. When does it get easier?
I had the same "intuition". I didn't tell anyone besides my immediate family that I was pregnant and was waiting until after the big anatomy scan ... go figure, that was when we found out that our baby wasn't going to make it. While I hate it when people say "it wasn't meant to me"...somehow it kinda makes sense for me.
I was jealous of all the families with baby's and toddlers this weekend at the beach. I just kept thinking how bad I wanted that to be me, Jon, and Ella in a year.
Also, I probably have consumed 5 million calories in the last 3 days...and I don't really care.
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The day you first lay in my arms, you made my life complete. Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10 BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11
I was hanging out with my parents yesterday and when we were in Target and passed by the maternity section I felt like passing out. I wanted to throw a pity party. When I am in Target near my house and job I know how to avoid these sections. Then I saw a cute summer dress dress is the misses section and when I took it off the rack it turned out to be a maternity dress. Well, d@mn.
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We love and miss you Jillian (18w) and Peanut (6w).
Welcome to our TAC miracle Jacob!
I want to lose the extra pounds I put on during my pregnancy, but am making very little effort in the eating department...I eat what I feel like eating whenever I want.
BFP #1: 07/10/2009, Missed m/c, D&C 08/12/2009
BFP #2: 01/31/2010, Identical Twins died in utero due to TTTS, D&E 05/19/2010
BFP #3: 09/16/2010, natural m/c 9/21/2010
PCOS & Bocornuate Uterus Dx 1.4.2011
BFP #4: 01/11/2011
I found a newborn onesie while looking for polo shirts for DH I tried to hold it together, then I passed the baby section, I turned around and went straight to the parking lot and broke down
And today I ate an entire bag of Wise Potatoe chips in one sitting by myself...half of of it was not caring what I put in my mouth, half was being TOTALLY shocked to see that Wise is on the left coast now (best chips EVER)
My sister is due on the 12th and I just can't get exicted for her or my new nephew. My dad called to let me know she was started false labor this weekend and I just don't even want to know.
I feel so bad. This is their 3rd child, they've struggled for years with IF and this was a spontaneous miracle baby. I should be so excited for them, but I just keep thinking of myself.
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I am pretty convinced that my OB could have saved my pregnancy and didn't. So, I tell everyone I know that she's a baby killer in hopes that it will catch on. I clearly have not moved on from my high school mean girl days.
Re: Can we have a confession post?
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My second cousin passed away this week and I am dreading the funeral because I am going to see:
1) one cousin who just gave birth last month and
2) another cousin who is pregnant and due 1 week after my EDD
I feel so guilty for feeling this ...
I have three family friends that are due around my due date (one got her BFP the same day as me and has my same due date!) and the awful, mean, terrible side of me wishes it was one of them going through this instead of me.
I know it's horrible for me to say that out loud, but it's how I feel sometimes.
I also feel angry sometimes. I even feel angry when I see women with a few children. I don't understand how some women have lots of children when I can't even have 1. Such BS!!!
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Me too. If it's on tv I usually flip them off and in person I turn the other way.
I wore a tampon to a massage today.
ok, that's pretty lame, but it's all I got
Yea it is horrible isn't it? But it's also horrible we have to go through our losses! I remember when I found out her EDD was around mine, I got annoyed because I didn't want her baby to steal my baby's thunder. Well, I guess I'm the one who feels stupid now...
I had the same "intuition". I didn't tell anyone besides my immediate family that I was pregnant and was waiting until after the big anatomy scan ... go figure, that was when we found out that our baby wasn't going to make it. While I hate it when people say "it wasn't meant to me"...somehow it kinda makes sense for me.
Sometimes I forget how tender I still am. But then the dumbest things will bring me to tears and I'm a big mess all over again.
Also, I have 365 emails to deal with and I just don't feel like it!
m/c 6/10
I was jealous of all the families with baby's and toddlers this weekend at the beach. I just kept thinking how bad I wanted that to be me, Jon, and Ella in a year.
Also, I probably have consumed 5 million calories in the last 3 days...and I don't really care.
Oh don't feel guilty at all!!! I vote for, paying your respects and getting the flock out of there! I'm sure everyone will understand.
Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11
We love and miss you Jillian (18w) and Peanut (6w). Welcome to our TAC miracle Jacob!
BFP #1: 07/10/2009, Missed m/c, D&C 08/12/2009
BFP #2: 01/31/2010, Identical Twins died in utero due to TTTS, D&E 05/19/2010
BFP #3: 09/16/2010, natural m/c 9/21/2010
PCOS & Bocornuate Uterus Dx 1.4.2011
BFP #4: 01/11/2011
I found a newborn onesie while looking for polo shirts for DH I tried to hold it together, then I passed the baby section, I turned around and went straight to the parking lot and broke down
And today I ate an entire bag of Wise Potatoe chips in one sitting by myself...half of of it was not caring what I put in my mouth, half was being TOTALLY shocked to see that Wise is on the left coast now (best chips EVER)
My sister is due on the 12th and I just can't get exicted for her or my new nephew. My dad called to let me know she was started false labor this weekend and I just don't even want to know.
I feel so bad. This is their 3rd child, they've struggled for years with IF and this was a spontaneous miracle baby. I should be so excited for them, but I just keep thinking of myself.
LMAO!!!!