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VampyAuthor
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How soon is too soon?
VampyAuthor
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DH and I are talking about trying for another baby. We said when DD was about a year. Well with his deployment he was talking about maybe a little sooner (since he'll be gone at the end of this year till sometime next year) I would, if we conceived, be pregnant through deployment. Which doesn't bother me. My dr said trying at anytime was ok, he said everything checked out perfectly. But, how soon, is too soon? People will think we're nuts.
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Re: How soon is too soon?
Don't worry about what other people think.
Try when you and your H are ready
We just had our first, and I'll be 34 next month. We would like to have 3 so we'll be getting on it right away. My doc originally said a year, then he said we'd be fine to try in 6 months.
As far as what people say, we got criticized because we were pregnant right after we got married. I got the most criticism from my aunt whose daughter was pregnant before she got married. Insane. About our situation I said, people will say we didn't give the first one enough attention. My friend says, you know they never say that about twins, they never say things like oh man twins, one won't get enough attention.
In regards to charting and all that, I was pretty clueless too. I bought the book "Taking Control of Your Fertility." Now as it turns out, we never got to use it becuase we were pregnant right away, but it is amazing the stuff I didn't know about my body! If you know what to look for there are lots of clues. I bought a copy off of half.com for like $8 including shipping.
GL, maybe we'll travel through pregnancy again together!
Buy Taking Control of Your Fertility and read the tutorials on www.fertilityfriend.com
Don't worry about what others think; everyone is always going to have an opinion one way or the other. My two are 15 months apart and I got comments (during pregnancy) that were both positive and negative.
That being said, I think that it would be really hard to have two that aren't walking yet. But, most (not all) babies are walking around 12 months so if you conceived in the next few months you should be good.
Good luck!
We're going to start trying again in 6 months b/c I'm 37 and DH's deployments/sea duty starts up again in 2 years, so it would be nice to have our 2nd while he's still around.
At 6 week PP appt. my doc recommended I wait 6 months so that my C-section scar has time to heal. Which is fine by me. I can't imagine starting any sooner than that.
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Thanks so much!
Looks like there's a lot of us trying when DC is about 6 months. Who knows, we all may be pregnant together again!
If it is what you want, you think you can handle being pregnant with a baby while your DH is deployed, and your doctor says things are fine to do that, then by all means go ahead! Your kids would be close in age and great playmates!
More power to you. I had a horrible c-s recovery and a non-sleeper who used me as a human paci with my first! So I was not ready for the exhaustion and sickness of pregnancy till he was 2 years old! It has worked great for us - he's potty trained so only have one in diapers, in a big kid bed so we didn't have to buy another crib, etc. But sometimes I wish my kids would have been a little closer in age than almost 3 years.
www.fertilityfriend.com
It's a very helpful site for charting. Lots of great info. Also, the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a GREAT resource! Both we're very helpful for us. Without them it may have been years before our BFP.
This. I used the site for 3 months (3 cycles) before I got pregnant. Also, the ladies on the Getting Pregnant board (which is now Trying to Get Pregnant) were extremely helpful and supportive with charting. Some of them have been charting for awhile and really were my go-to girls for when I had no idea what I was doing. GL to you! Do what you are ready for
Wait Jazz....weren't you just having major issues with your husband? I'm not on here a lot cause of Livy's AR, but I seem to remember issues where he was abusive to you and didn't want anything to do with Brylee. Just because it's been better for a couple weeks doesn't mean all is well and you guys should have another right away. His behavior was pretty nasty and extreme. I'd think you should make sure that he's up to being a good father (for more than 2 wks!) to Brylee before bringing another baby into the picture. Also, consider how damaging it is for children to see one parent abuse the other. You need to give it time to make sure all is well....
I'd wait!!