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? about a divorce when pregnant
I'm 9 weeks pregnant and I'm filing for divorce on Friday. My husband was physically and verbally abusive but I don't have any of it on record. I am going to try and get full custody of the baby. Has anyone been in a situation like mine where you didn't have any of your husbands violence on record but you still were able to get full custody when the baby was born somehow?
My husband left me 2 weeks ago and yesterday he finally admitted to cheating on me and seeing a woman he works with. I know it's only a matter of time before he shows her his true colors and his awful temper. But I know that he is in a new relationship high so it will be a while before he slips up. That's how it was when I first met him.
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Re: ? about a divorce when pregnant
I wasn't ever married but ds' dad became emotionally/verbal abusive right after I found out was pregnant and we were arguing over where to live...
In MN if you're married, it's automatically 50/50 physical custody UNLESS you can prove without a reasonable doubt that there's the possibility of harm around the child. as you're pregnant idk if the judge would agree for you to have 100% custody.
you may be able to get 100% legal custody but not physical custody
eta: from here on out, document ANYTHING and EVERYTHING even if you don't think that it means anything....
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I would keep a log and DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT everything. Chances are you will be able to make record of some things. I believe that you don't even have to worry about overnight visits until LO is at least 18 months old but I am not sure. Maybe some of the other ladies here can speak to this. My XH has supervised visits for approximately one hour a week so my situation is different. He has supervised visits due to a drug problem.
The court needs proof, is there anyone who would attest to the abuse, especially the physical? Did you ever go to work with marks/bruises, etc.? I have heard of coworkers testifying against an ex-husband. You need to do what you can to keep LO safe. Luckily you have some time as you are only 9 weeks along. Start thinking now of a good, safe, reliable person who can be there when you give birth, and make sure that if you don't want your H in the room that you make that clear. GL and please keep us posted.
I am so sorry and understand what your going through. My husband left me last monday, but he says I kicked him out.. I did pack his stuff b/c he didnt come home from work that night.. I'm 8 wks pregnant and heartbroken. In the beginning he was abusive both physically and mentally. I started standing up to him and he stopped.. At times he still is mentally abusive, esp this past wk. I've never documented any of the times in the past, but now wish I would have.. He all about acting like he's a saint and I'm the crazy right now..
Your husbands true colors will appear with this new one. I'd just sit back and enjoy the ride. I'd like to see what happens, he she throws him to the curb. I bet he will be trying his best to get back in the house with you.. Good luck to you, and I'm here if you need a shoulder to cry on. I know I do..
Starting now, document everything. Also, he doesn't sound like a real good guy so you can hope he just stays out of the picture on his own, then you wouldn't have to worry about it.
good luck
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