Pretty sure I have to sleep train tomorrow :(

schmoodle · June 2010

I hate it. I don't want to. But I'm going to have a nervous breakdown and am starting to dread evenings every night. No matter how much I don't believe it's natural for a baby to sleep alone in a crib all night every night without help, I also don't think it's natural to spend an hour + getting a one year old to sleep only to have him wake up 2-60 minutes later and start the whole process again (usually to no avail unless he's back in our bed). And I'm terrified to let him sleep in our bed indefinitely because as long as he's doing so I can't even consider having a second and the older he gets the harder I fear it will be.

I know he can sleep through the night and put himself back to sleep because he does it in our bed. I just can't spend 11 hours commuting to and being at work only to come home and spend the next 2-3 putting him to sleep (or trying) over and over and then going to sleep again.

And what if it doesn't even work?

I feel sick about this. I really don't want to sleep train him but I'm nearing the end of my rope and am sick of hearing how every other kid that was a terrible sleeper (even if not as bad as him) is miraculously sleeping longer and longer stretches at 11-12 months and he's just getting worse and worse. Lately every time we put him down he wakes immediately. And he's not approaching any milestones and he's not teething (and when those things have happened, his sleep wasn't affected in an obvious way, in fact at times they've coincided with his best stretches). He's just a crappy sleeper and always has been and now I'm pretty sure it's in part because we don't let him cry and bring him to our bed.

I don't want advice or suggestions. I've heard it all 1,000 times. I just wanted to vent. Thanks.

Nicole. · June 2010

No advice or suggestions- just sorry that you're feeling at the end of your rope Sad

JamaicaMon! · June 2010

*hugs* momma!

hannah&ben · June 2010

No advice here... just an extremely sympathetic ear. Henry is a crap-tastic sleeper as well. I'm sorry

((hugs))

Hannah

GypsyEsq · June 2010

Hugs mama. As I'm listening to A cry and fight sleep on the monitor while DH puts her down I'm wondering if we are headed the same way...

ela81 · June 2010

Good luck! My dd never gives us/herself 12 hours of sleep. A great night for us is 10 hours; not complaining but like you I always hear about 12+ hour sleepers...............wahtever to them;)

I hope it goes smooth. I'm sure it will be harder on you than on him.

yankee42 · June 2010

lady...no advice or suggestions...i know you have heard it all...

just know we are here, i am here..whenever you need XOXO

preheatedoven · June 2010

Sorry is all I can say. I hope he starts to do better and that if you do sleep train that it goes smoothly. ((HUGS))

LVBlvd · June 2010

Best of luck with whatever you decide to do!!

Carrie25 · June 2010

I'm sorry! But you CAN do this!

TheSkimmy · June 2010

Good luck!!!

happytracy · June 2010

I can relate. (((HUGS))).

jenber77 · June 2010

Oh, Schmoodle, that really, really sucks. I'm sorry.

Radler · June 2010

Big hugs. I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Good luck with the sleep training. I hope it's just what he needs to start sleeping better....

ejgballerina · June 2010

(((biggest hug ever)))

sasa625 · June 2010

I totally understand how you feel... DD has been getting worse and worse. She's had some good stretches, but lately it takes forever to get her to sleep, and then she's waking several times a night again. She's up every morning by 6-6:30 and is miserable all day because she's so tired (then gets over-tired, so she doesn't want to nap/sleep). It is definitely frustrating!!

Good luck with the sleep training... let us know how it goes!!

Waiting4baby08 · June 2010

Good luck. I know how much you must be dreading that, but hopefully it will be a quick process and you will have a perfect sleeper soon.

alison43 · June 2010

((((hugs))))

good luck.

sbride03 · June 2010

It's frustrating I had the same experience. This isn't meant as advice just my story- I ended up getting my son a toddler bed putting it in my room when he was twenty months. I slept on the floor and he's slept in it since. So I'm just saying if you are hesitant try not to feel pressure because "he'll never get out of your bed." I heard that from everyone but I just couldn't sleep train-tried but I couldn't and it worked out with an older infant. Again, please don't take this as telling you what to do it's just meant to be kind to yourself. Good Luck with your decision.

Million$$Baby · June 2010

I'm sorry sleep is still so rough. Good luck with the sleep training. We did it and were dreading it as you are, and it ended up being shockingly easy. I wish the same for you!

dana316 · June 2010

I have no advice or suggestions...I'm just going to send good thoughts your way...here's hoping that the sleep training is quick and painless for all involved.

(((Hugs)))

browneyedgrl4282 · June 2010

I feel bad for you! When Preston as about 10 to 11 months old we moved and the he was a bad sleeper in his crib and would only sleep with me! This was so hard on me because i was in my 3rd tri with Brady. Never had that problem with Jordana. So we did try CIO and it did work. It was a lot easier than I thought. It took only 3 nights to get him to go down with no problem. Now, we are going through a similar problem with Brady since his surgery. I think it is because of the pain from the surgery on monday and the cath.

desabean · June 2010

Good luck-- I know it's a tough decision to come to, but it sounds like you know it's the right time for you. I hope it goes smoothly.

JGirl2005 · June 2010

Hugs. Do what it right for your family.

somethingchangd · June 2010

I'm sorry. That sucks. it just does. Sounds like you're probably doing the best thing for everyone. I hope it's easier than you imagine. hugs.

(FWIW, Ollie's great 1 nightwaking stretch has ended and I've been up with him for an hour at night most nights this past week. Nowhere near as bad as what you're dealing with, but even the bad sleepers who got better get worse again sometimes. Misery loves company?)

LucyPevensie · June 2010

You know we never sleep trained either and sometimes - I wish we had! I'll say this - if you're going to do it - be consistent and loving. I'm not a fan of full-out CIO - Ferber's go in and reassure at various intervals makes more sense to me (although if your kid barfs from crying - that's where I draw the line and say CIO in ANY form is not for this kid. Not saying this will happen!! But Ferber writes about it and I've seen people post about it and always makes me cringe.)

You have to live your life. You have to get some sleep. He'll be OK. GL Schmoodle!

BeccaLandes · June 2010

I don't know how you've made it this long-- we brought our babies into bed two nights and I said, "forget it." And they were only about 2 months old.

Even if you think it is unnatural, you, your husband and the baby need sleep.

Good luck!

epphd · June 2010

(((hugs)))

lnle · June 2010

((Hugs)) I hope the sleep training helps everyone feel and function better.

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