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TTC is Making Me Fat
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Obviously, my poor eating habits and lack of exercise are to blame, not TTC, but since DH and I started TTC, I've put on about 30 lbs. (Not instantly... but over the course of the year and a bit we've been trying). In the last three months, I've put on an additional 10lbs, and I know this is because when I get another BFN, or more spotting, I binge. I'm an emotional eater, and since TTC is an emotional roller coaster at times, it sure isn't helping things.
Yesterday, I got on the scale again, and cringed. That should have been enough motivation for me to put together a plan on how to attack this weight gain, but I sat down and started leafing through one of my old weight watchers books, and I just became overwhelmed. I did WW in my early twenties to lose 20lbs, and it was successful, but WW only ever works for me when I plan out and make all meals in advance, but when I sit down and try to think of meals to make, I can't think of anything!! If I do think of something, then searching for all the points values is a pain in the asss and it takes forever... WHO HAS THIS KIND OF TIME??? Obviously I did in my early twenties, but now.... I get up, I go to work, I come home, I work at home... I sit... all day. So I try biking to work...... I GAIN weight. Ugh...
I know my weight gain is my fault. I'm not asking for sympathy, I'm just frustrated with myself, and I need to vent. I know what I need to do to get in shape, I'm just really having a super hard time getting motivated.
Okay, I needed to get that off my chest, I don't expect anyone to read all this, but if you do, thanks for listening/reading.
Yesterday, I got on the scale again, and cringed. That should have been enough motivation for me to put together a plan on how to attack this weight gain, but I sat down and started leafing through one of my old weight watchers books, and I just became overwhelmed. I did WW in my early twenties to lose 20lbs, and it was successful, but WW only ever works for me when I plan out and make all meals in advance, but when I sit down and try to think of meals to make, I can't think of anything!! If I do think of something, then searching for all the points values is a pain in the asss and it takes forever... WHO HAS THIS KIND OF TIME??? Obviously I did in my early twenties, but now.... I get up, I go to work, I come home, I work at home... I sit... all day. So I try biking to work...... I GAIN weight. Ugh...
I know my weight gain is my fault. I'm not asking for sympathy, I'm just frustrated with myself, and I need to vent. I know what I need to do to get in shape, I'm just really having a super hard time getting motivated.
Okay, I needed to get that off my chest, I don't expect anyone to read all this, but if you do, thanks for listening/reading.
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Re: TTC is Making Me Fat
Good morning YNK. I read it all and I am sorry you are going through that. You may need a work out/ WW buddy that can hold you accountable. Maybe you can do it with your DH or maybe your BF. Even if they are not on the same playing field as you, it can help to be held accountable.
Good luck with everything!
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Ug I feel your pain.
I've put on 8 lbs since my wedding 2 yrs ago. I was in great shape for my wedding and now I feel I have "let myself go". My DH tells me I'm crazy and annoying.
When 1st TTC I was still all hardcore workout & stuff. then my 1 friend is like oh maybe you should tone it down & eat fattier foods. ummmmm I know that won't work but of course I do it. then I get KU and was not as cautious about what I ate and after I miscarried I started to eat to comfort my emotions.
Im 8 lbs heavier then I was and would LOVE LOVE LOVE to lost 10 lbs before getting PG again...which sounds like a not too daunting task. I've joined WW again. For some reason this weight just wont budge.
so now Im depressed that I am not pregnant AND not in my best shape. I could deal with being a few extra lbs if I were KU....but since I'm not its sad
I hope you do feel better by getting that off of your chest and you aren't alone. I've gained 12 pounds and I am on my 6th cycle of TTC; like you I work , go home, and work at home. I wish I had some words of wisdom but I just wanted you to know that you aren't the only one going through this. If I find something that works for me, I will let you know. Hope your Friday gets better soon
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I am in the same position -- I have put on at least 20 pounds since our wedding a little over a year ago. I feel like I have put on more like 30, but I am afraid to get on the scale. I did WW too a couple years ago and lost about 30 pounds -- I was so happy with myself and imagined myself maintaining for the rest of my life! Haha I was so delusional! I have just gotten so comfortable in my marriage that I really stopped caring for a little while. And now with TTC if I want to overindulge in something I have caught myself thinking "its ok, I'll be pregnant soon and won't have to worry about losing weight". I really have to work on changing that!
I hope you feel better soon and just know that you are absolutely not alone!
Edited -- because I am bad at math
I can relate. I put on 10 lbs in the year after our wedding and I got to the point that I hated going shopping and trying on clothes. I also was embarrassed for my husband to see me naked, which I know is stupid, he loves me for who I am.
Over the past couple months I have been tracking every single thing that I eat and drink through www.thedailyplate.com and it has helped a LOT. I know that my portions before had gotten out of control (my husband doesn't eat lunch so he eats a lot at dinner and even though I DO eat lunch I was eating just as much at dinner) and I was just eating too much. It has really helped me to see what kind of calories I am taking in. I will look something up before going and grabbing lunch so I know I am making a good choice. I won't lie, I splurge every once in a while (reese's klondike bars are my weakness), but I keep track of it and it helps me stay in line. Over the last 2 months I've lost 8 lbs.
It can be a bit of a pain always needing to enter my meals and snacks, but I'm in front of the computer for a large portion of the day so it isn't too bad.
Also, I pack healthy snacks to munch on throughout the day (baby carrots, grapes, almonds, greek yogurt) and that stops me from caving and grabbing a huge muffin from the breakroom!
I'm not sure if any of that will be helpful, but it really has done wonders for me. Good luck with whatever plan you go with
I'm sorry you are feeling that way, but as you can see it's happening to all of us. I have gained 12 pounds in 2 months (the time I've been off birth control). The only thing I can possibly connect it with is the hormones for me. I work out MORE now because I've been off since the end of May (I work in a school district) and I've been more aware of what I eat. I agree that finding a friend to walk/run/bike with is a good idea. You can also write down what you eat each day. Not necessarily the calories or anything but so you are accountable. Share your list of what you ate each day with a friend, because you are more likely to eat well if you have to tell another person. I sometimes keep a photo of what I want to look like (a picture of myself a couple of years ago) on my dresser or mirror. I've always just started Jillian Michael's 30 day shred (and on day 10) when I don't feel like go to the gym or a lot of cardio, I can just do that because it's only 20 minutes long! She really works you but for not very long! I'm down 4.5lbs since I started!
Anyway, these are definitely just ideas. Just start small, like with one thing and add other things after a couple of weeks.
I could have written the exact same post YNK! And every cycle I don't get pregnant I say to myself "Now at least I can try and lose weight". But I never do!!!!!! Today I'm starting WW again. I'm even going to try and go to meetings. Seeing that I'm 24lbs above my goal weight it's going to be a little embarrassing
But I need to start somewhere.
I need to get control. Because being upset over gaining weight is silly - since I know the solution!!
OMG, you took the words from my mouth. Seriously, get out of my brain!!
I am the same way. I've done Atkins in the past and always, always, always had success with it. Now, not so much. I did WW and only lost 3 pounds in 3 months. I joined a gym and went religiously for awhile. Didn't drop a single pound. I get discouraged, stop working out/dieting, get depressed, start something new. It's a vicious cycle.
I just went grocery shopping and couldn't think of a single thing to buy so that I can at least stop eating out so damn much. I have no idea what to eat/cook. So, I get Chipotle Sad, but true. What is even sadder is that I CAN cook. I'm not a chef, but give me a recipe to follow and it usually turns out retty damn good. I enjoy it when I do, but I never know what to make.
I got so depressed recently about my weight and I just don't know where or how to get the motivation. I've tried the weight loss/diet/exercise buddy thing and it didn't work.
I forget, are you on metformin for PCOS? I'm almost to a point where I hope I am insulin resistant so I can take it. To at least try it and see if it would help me to lose weight. I know if I can get started, I'll be on a roll and most likely stick with it, but losing 3 pounds in 3 months ain't gonna cut it!
I'd be willing to do this!
Even if it is just a walk or something, I'd sure we'd both feel better knowing that we did SOMETHING. 
I know there's a workout check-in on this board too, but it would probably be better to get a message or something reminding you, ykwim?
Thanks! I'm going to check out that website, I've been looking for some type of tracker. Weight watcher's has an online version now too, and I was looking in to that last night, but I just didn't want to add another monthly fee to my finances without even knowing what all is in their online version. They should have a free trial or something.
You might want to check out sparkpeople.com too. It's free and there are tons of support groups. I lost 15 pounds a few years ago and have used it ever since. Like you, my motivation is out the window since TTC and I've gained about half of it back. But I still try to log my calories most days. Even when I'm eating like a 500 lb teamster and seeing my calorie count is horribly depressing
hey erma, I'm not on metformin for PCOS because my RE doesn't use it. I was hoping he would because I heard that it can help with weight issues caused by PCOS. I'm not insulin resistant though, so that's just another strike against my being able to take it even if I went to another RE for another opinion. I know what you mean though, generally when I get a good routine going, I stick with it for a good while, I just can't seem to get going. The buddy system hasn't worked for me either because my buddy got pregnant, and just had her baby, and doesn't want to work out right now, and doing WW with DH doesn't work, because he can eat so much more than I can in terms of points!!!
It's so unfortunate that we don't live in the same cities, we could have a huge support group and all exercise together or something, LOL
I've heard the same thing about some REs. That is why I think I am going to go to an endocrinologist whose specialty is PCOS. My ob/gyn told me that I am not IR after only taking a fasting glucose test (not the glucose tolerance test with the sugary drink). From the research that this new doc has done, you really need to have a slew of b/w done, testing lipids, cholesterol, etc. to really know if you have an insulin disorder. Now, I just need to jump through a few more hoops to get an appointment with her!
Plus I am hoping and praying that if I were able to lose weight, my cycles will regulate and it will jump-start ovulation. They say even losing 7% of your body weight can make a big difference!
Yes! I had good success with sparkpeople.com too. I like the way the website is designed.
Also, I found that if I guilted myself into walking the dog everyday I felt much better about myself and didn't put my body into that 'eat to recover' from a hard workout stage.
Sparkpeople has a way to plan a walk and figure out how many miles it is, so you could plan a 1mile dog walk for everyday perhaps?
I gained about 20lbs after my wedding and I'm still about 10lbs from where I want to be, so I totally have these days.
Hang in there!
Absolutely all levels came back normal in my last RE appointment, and he had tested for IR (among other things), so I'm just dealing with polycystic ovaries, which is good. I've heard that losing weight can make a huge difference, which is why I'm trying so hard to find a system. You would think that knowing that I could start ovulating regularly would be a good source of motivation to get moving, I just need more energy, less worry!
In my last appointment with my regular doctor, he had suggested maybe I should take something for anxiety. I don't really like taking drugs that I don't personally feel I need, but after mulling it over for some time, I think maybe taking an anti-anxiety med would help curb my emotional eating among other things. I'd like to say for me that it's all PCOS and that's why I'm overweight, but the fact of the matter is, for me anyway, it's completely psychological. I'm upset, I eat. So maybe dealing with my anxiety will in turn help me deal with my emotional eating. Ugh... why can't things just be easy, huh?
Yeah, thedailyplate is free. There is a 'gold' version that you pay for, but I just do the regular one. You put in your height and weight, what your activity level is, and what your goal is, and it tells you how many calories you should consume per day to reach that. I've found that I always go over in the amount of protein and sugars that they have set out for me, but most of my sugar is from fruits and stuff in my morning smoothie. Like I said, it just keeps me accountable for what I am eating and it has made me really conscious of portions. My husband laughs when I count a serving of doritos out, but it helps to know that is the amount I can eat. Instead of having an open bag in front of me and then all of a sudden the whole bag is gone!
First off, let me say I am in the same frustrated boat as many of you (although mine has nothing to do with TTC). I take met and it hasn't really helped me lose weight--it hasn't been a magic pill for me and was quite miserable in the beginning. I started taking it in college and it was soooo miserable that I couldn't get out of bed and apply for summer jobs. I eventually stopped taking it because it made me feel so awful and when I told my endocrinologist that, he put me on extended release, which I think had just come on the market. It has been better on my stomach, but like I said, hasn't seemed to affect weight loss for me. It does make me feel better overall, though. Not trying to be negative, just offering my experience, I guess it could help with it for some people, though.
Has it helped in regulating your cycle at all? i just have heard that it can aid in weight loss and I would rather try that (if I am, in fact, IR) than Meridia or any other weight loss drug my GP suggested.
I don't know yet if it has helped regulate my cycle, since this is my first month off BCP's and I was on them the entire time I took it. Hopefully, I will know whether or not it has fairly soon. Definitely agreed that it is a better go to for this purpose than other weight loss drugs (I'm definitely anti weight loss drugs, it seems like they always find a problem with the drug down the road). I really do hope that it will help for you if you take it and just know that there is an extended release version that helps a lot of people actually stay on it. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you--and like I said, the cool part is that it did help me feel better, even if it didn't help me lose weight.