Tonight I sucked as a mother

cali_girl92504 · June 2010

After changing DD's diaper this evening, I clipped her paci holder back to her onesie and didn't realize I pinched her skin. She started screaming and I couldn't figure out why for nearly a whole minute. When I realized what I had done I immediately unclipped it then sat on the bed and cried with her. A lot. She fell asleep in my arms and I was still sobbing. I know it was an accident but I hated the feeling that she was hurting because of something I did. Still makes me cry just thinking about it. She has a little welt on her shoulder...a welt I caused. I suck. I promise you it will never happen again...my mom, DH and I will all make sure we're not catching her skin as we never want to hear that cry again.

As I cried with my baby I wondered how anyone could possibly hurt a child on purpose. It killed me to hear her screaming because of what I did. I really do hope there is a special place in hell for them. I cuddled her extra hard tonight while rocking her to sleep.

KelleyA · June 2010

Hugs! Those moments as mothers are so hard, but the fact that it impacted you so strongly speaks of the awesome mother that you are. She's ok and tomorrow is a new day!

kat.in.the.hat · June 2010

I once snapped Marion's belly skin in the side snap of a diaper. It made me want to vomit I felt so horrible.

CareBear01 · June 2010

Try having him roll off of the changing station when I took 1 step over to his crib for a SECOND to snatch his pacifier from there. I literally watched him fall as I tried to leap back to catch him. It was terrible - it left a nasty bruise - I was so mortified!!

SigmundsGirl · June 2010

HUGS! You are a wonderful mommy. You care so much for her and she knows that. The good thing is that babies don't hold a grudge. She has already forgotten all about it and will be full of smiles for you tomorrow.

melrrr · June 2010

hugs, for sure! I was once changing Tracey's diaper on a friend's changing table and she started screaming. I had no idea why. I was trying to calm her down but she kept crying. Finally I realized that her head was hard up against the wooden edge of the changing table (against the sharp corner, not just flast wood)! I just have a changing pad on my dresser, and it's contoured on 3 sides. This one was one of the open on either end ones. I felt AWFUL.

funnyvalentine · June 2010

I cut Wyatt's tiny little finger while trying to trim his nails when he was an itty bitty baby. I felt like complete crap. He stopped crying and was over it long before I was.

CallMeKel · June 2010

CareBear01:
Try having him roll off of the changing station when I took 1 step over to his crib for a SECOND to snatch his pacifier from there. I literally watched him fall as I tried to leap back to catch him. It was terrible - it left a nasty bruise - I was so mortified!!

I did this, too....but it was off a bad (when I was changing her diaper) at a mere 4 months! I felt awful for a long time after that!

TexasPaige · June 2010

funnyvalentine:
I cut Wyatt's tiny little finger while trying to trim his nails when he was an itty bitty baby. I felt like complete crap. He stopped crying and was over it long before I was.

Me too! I cried longer than he did. It took forever to stop bleeding, and I felt so terrible. I haven't used nail clippers on him since then. Filing them takes way longer, but I can live with that. Maybe one day I'll get over that fear!

So as you can see, you are not alone in having one of those whoops moments. Your baby has forgotten all about it!

Cajun_gal · June 2010

Try to not be so hard on yourself. I think things like that happen to almost everyone. I accidentally clipped Dylan's thigh with his carseat buckle over the weekend. It was awful, and he has a little bruise on his thigh now. Accidents happen. They suck. She thankfully won't remember and will love you just as much as she did before.

And, you caring so much shows that you're a GREAT mom!

kreeper611 · June 2010

Aw, you don't suck! Those things happen...and she'll never remember it. I pinched Cooper's finger in the car seat buckle once and it made me cry! Rest assured I always make sure his hands are nowhere near it now.

ayersfam20 · June 2010

BIG hugs! I think we've all had moments like that where we just feel awful even though we know it was an accident. I once rinsed Abbie off in the sink after a diaper explosion and without thinking turned the cold water off first. It didn't burn her or anything thank goodness but it made her flail and cry and i felt SO bad.

Just a month or so ago I was going to put a heavy vase back into the cabinet and didn't realize she was behind me. I turned around and whacked her in the head with it. She had a big ol welt and bruise from it and that is still the most awful cry and awful feeling!

cali_girl92504 · June 2010

Thanks ladies! I still feel terrible and wish I'd never done it but I feel better knowing I'm not alone in this club none of us want to be in. Ijust checked and she's got a little cut...right in that tender spot by the armpit. But she does still love me this morning.

rayskit10 · June 2010

funnyvalentine:
I cut Wyatt's tiny little finger while trying to trim his nails when he was an itty bitty baby. I felt like complete crap. He stopped crying and was over it long before I was.

oh yes! this is what i was going to post. i still get nervous cutting the boys nails!

PAGAS · June 2010

I feel safe to say that we have all been there. I have caught Finley's thigh in the car seat clip for just a second, but the screams were something I never want to hear ever again. I felt awful.

You are a great mom!

savannah11 · June 2010

About a year ago I shut O's finger in the car door. I had to fish my keys out of my bag to unlock the door and free him. Thankfully his fingers were still small enough that it wasn't broken but I felt horrible. We've all been there.

anna_j · June 2010

DH cut G's finger when he was clipping his nails---all 3 of us were crying it was terrible! DH still won't cut his nails.

G rolled off the bed the other day, talk about heart stopping!!! I freaked out cried, apologized for being an awful mother and took him to the dr. The dr. told me he was perfectly fine and I was being too hard on myself but god I felt absolutely awful.

It's so funny because when I told my friends about it every single one of them had a similar (or worse) story. It happens and it's ok.

anna_j · June 2010

DH cut G's finger when he was clipping his nails---all 3 of us were crying it was terrible! DH still won't cut his nails.

G rolled off the bed the other day, talk about heart stopping!!! I freaked out cried, apologized for being an awful mother and took him to the dr. The dr. told me he was perfectly fine and I was being too hard on myself but god I felt absolutely awful.

It's so funny because when I told my friends about it every single one of them had a similar (or worse) story. It happens and it's ok.

tammy79 · June 2010

ugh, I'm so sorry,I can tell you it happens to the best of us. I clipped DD litte finger when she was just a few weeks old it was awful, I think I cied for day. A few weeks ago she fell off the changing table after I stepped away for not even a second to grab her shirt that fell on the floor, I sobbed like a baby, she just looked at me like I was a nut.

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