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Did you SERIOUSLY ask me that????

Sugarpie3Sugarpie3
in 2nd Trimester

"So....do you know when you conceived?"

 WHA??  Why on earth would you care? Shall I paint you a picture?

Yes... someone actually asked me that.. 

 

What is the most inappropriate thing someone thought it was ok to ask when you were pg?

As for my response to the above question, I walked away in stunned silence.Indifferent

 

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Re: Did you SERIOUSLY ask me that????

  • aljonaljon

    They only time that would be an appropriate question is if it came from your doctor, midwife, or nurse.  I don't understand some people.  Do they want to know when and how, with details?

    So far I've only gotten one inappropriate question.  It was yesterday and a woman I had just met at a mutual friends house asked me if the pregnancy was planned?

    I had known her for all of a hour.  How is that question ok to ask anyone, let alone someone who's pretty much a stranger?

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  • hpfreak2011hpfreak2011 member

    when i was pregnant with my first, i wasnt married and had just broken up with the father. someone thought they would be funny and asked if i knew who the father was!!! i was not someone that slept around!! i had been dating this person for a while and it didnt work out. and this person had the nerve to ask me if i knew who the father was...... i was pi$$ed to say the least. excuse the language.

    with those kind of people/questions.... you really just need to walk away, and if thats not possible, try to very calmly explain that that kind of question is uncalled for besides the fact that your life and pregnancy is your business. not theirs. good luck... hugs

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  • Keddy15Keddy15
    Hahahahaha!!!  Was it someone you know who asked you?  I've always had a policy of, if their over 75 let it slide, otherwise I would have done the same thing you did.
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  • Keddy15Keddy15
    Oh, and the most innapropriate things I've been asked were if my 2nd DD was an accident (Old co-worker), If I liked my gynocologist (Over a family dinner by DH's step mother who never had kids), and did I get an episiotomy (Once again by DH's gem of a step mother, but she didn't actually say episiotomy, she motioned sissors with her hands and said snip snip.  This again in front of all of DH's family.)  Ugh.
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  • glittergazeglittergaze
    With our first, I was asked "Is Matt (my FI) happy to be having a baby with you?"  By my mother.
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  • TColemanTColeman member
    Wow! I thought the "was it planned" question was bad! I'd walk away too. People talk without thinking.....
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  • bdrobinsonbdrobinson
    The question that I have been asked on more than one occassion is "how long were you trying".  I find that so incredibly rude especially since we had to undergo mild fertility treatments (which no one knows about).  My response has been "Why do you ask?"
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  • michiganderrdmichiganderrd

    That's when I'd make a snarky comment like "No, I'm not sure of the day because we hump like bunnies." 

    I seriously can't believe someone asked you that!

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  • ginifredginifred

    I have been asked by a (male) co-worker if we conceived on New Years Eve.  DH and I went to a part at their house, and I got a little bit more than tipsy.

    I am good friends with this guy, so it didn't bother me that he asked, and he was joking around when he asked. 

    I responded by telling him that actually, the big ice/snow storm that we had two weeks later that shut everything down when is when it happened.

    With that response he covered his ears and ran the other direction.  I figure if he is going to ask that kind of question, he deserves to know the truth.

    Again, me and this guy are good friends, like since 2002, and we went to college together and had all our classes together.

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  • Sweets2005Sweets2005 member

    MIL asked me that, too!

    Well when we told her (for our 1st pregnancy) she says, "So it must have happened on...." Like why would she care? 

     

     

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  • LoveyFNRLoveyFNR member

    I have been asked by MANY family members if we got married specifically because I got pregnant. Ummmm......we got engaged in December, found out I was 6 weeks pregnant in April and were married in May. We had been planning the May wedding since day 1. Yes, we got married EXACTLY for that reason. Idiots.

    Gossiping family just want stuff to talk about.....and they sure do!

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