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Don't want to tell anyone I am preggers till I know the gender...

lebeda777lebeda777
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Can I really wait that long though?  Geez, but I know people will have tons of stuipid comments.  I have 2 boys and am sure everyone will say " I bet you hope this is a girl" ...it took me a long time to get to this place where I am happy with either, but I don't want some moron to ruin that by saying something dumb.  Hate to wait to tell though too, so hard, want to share the good news!
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Re: Don't want to tell anyone I am preggers till I know the gender...

  • emiliemadisonemiliemadison member

    Personally, I can't imagine being able to get away with not telling people until halfway through a pregnancy unless these are people you never actually see in person.

    And besides, someone will always have a rude comment, even if you know what the sex is. If you ARE having a boy, they might still make "Oh, maybe next time you'll get your girl" comments. And if it's a girl, they'll say stuff like "Finally, you're getting a girl!" etc. You can never win.

     

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  • emilykristene2006emilykristene2006 member

    I would just blow off their stupid comments with something like this.

    Them: Oh I bet you're hoping for a girl!

    You: Actually, we're hoping for a chicken! But thanks for the thought!

    If they want to act stupid, make them feel stupid. 

    Congratulations, BTW!

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  • Mommy2AllieMommy2Allie

    I am PG with my third and and in a similar situation. My first two are girls and this one is a suprise. On top of that my first two are IUI babies and I know the first question will be..."is it natural?" from my IL's so we are waiting till 18 weeks to tell them. We dont see them much (although we did see them last week and decided not to tell them) They live about two hours away and dont come to visit often....

     

    I think it really depends on who it is too...My mom knows I am PG and she would NEVER say..."oh are you hoping for a boy"

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  • A-baybrideA-baybride

    Are you having an NT scan?  If you have it done at 12-13 weeks, the gender guesses are pretty accurate by that point.

    I don't tell anyone other my immediate family I'm pregnant until the 2nd trimester, so with DD I already had the doctor's guess that it was a girl by the time I told anyone.  With DS, I had a CVS done at 12 weeks, so by the time we started telling people, we knew without a doubt it was a boy.

    But like PP said, people will make comments you don't like whether you know or not and whether it's a boy or girl, so tell them you'd be thrilled with either and hopefully they'll zip it!  Congrats, BTW!

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  • elm1032004elm1032004

    I totally get where you are coming from even though I have one of each. I think it will be hard to hide it until you are 20 weeks and I agree someone always has a stupid comment.  Good luck and try not to let other people's comments get to you.  Congratulations as well!

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  • Jessica*FletcherJessica*Fletcher

    Congratulations on your pregnancy!

    I could have written this post a while back.  Same exact situation.  AND I pulled it off!

    I had 2 boys was pregnant with my third and wasn't ready for the insensitive comments, so we waited until I was 16 weeks and was able to find out the gender (a girl).   When we called to tell family, we got a lot of "I didn't even know you were pg," but by that point they didn't care and were just excited.

    It can be done, good luck!

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  • AnneUCSBAnneUCSB member
    I know how you feel.  But, to be honest, it didn't get any easier when you find out the gender (unless you have a girl).  I have 3 boys and when I was pg with #3, I didn't tell people until 14 weeks and found out gender at 16 weeks so I only had to deal with the unknown for 2 weeks.  When I did find out that #3 was a boy, people would make all kinds of insensitive comments like, "Oh, I'm sorry," or "Oh, I bet you were hoping for a boy."  I mean, I was telling people that I was having a HEALTHY baby and mostly just got pity from people.  It was hard.  Now he is here and beautiful and people are much more excited and most of the lame comments have stopped.  That said, I still get a lot of "THREE boys???  You must be busy!"  As if I wouldn't be busy if one of my three kids was a girl?!?
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  • *Amy**Amy*
    I did-to a degree. My immediate family and couple of close friends who I see all the time knew,   I didn't make a facebook announcement until the big u/s-so many people were surprised b/c they had no idea and hadn't seen me in the past 6 weeks (I didn't start showing until 13 weeks). It was the right thing for me-I heard enough comments from people I see on a regular basis. 
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  • rainbowfamilyrainbowfamily
    We're planning on TTC #3 this fall and are in the same situation (two boys) and I'm thinking of doing the same thing.  I know that I will be happy whether we have a boy or a girl and I just don't think I can handle the silly comments that people will inevitably make.  I know it will be hard but am hoping that I'll be so busy with the two boys that I have and our crazy life that the time will go quickly. :)
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