all my tests good -- now what???
this morning I had the last test I was supposed to take -- my HSG. the doc called it "perfect." all the other tests (3-day, 21-day, transvag ultrasound) were normal. DH's sample was -- in our nurse's words -- "stellar."
this, of course, is all great. but it gets us no closer to why we're not getting pg. I thought the tests would show us something (hopefully something easy to fix). but there's nothing to fix. (I do think I might not have enough cervical mucus, so maybe there's something to do there. I'm using preseed. I had a chem pg back in april.)
we're supposed to follow up with our RE.
I can't help but feel somewhat disappointed that we don't have any answers. I admit it's so stupid to feel that way, when I know that other women are dealing with some serious reproductive issues. I need to get over myself!
thanks for letting me vent.
Re: all my tests good -- now what???
I know exactly what you mean. Both my and DH results were good too - my dr. told me I could be in textbooks because everything looks perfect. In her words, I have "unexplained infertility" *sigh*. While I'm grateful, it's also frustrating becuase if we knew what was wrong, we could be more agressive in working with it.
Sorry I don't have any real words of wisdom - just know you're not alone!
I'm glad your test came back normal.
It sucks not having answers, believe me I know. There were days where I wished that my results come back such that we would have to chose between IVF and adoption because we know which we would choose. The 'is it going to work again' each month is annoying and frustrating. I had the mentality that if it isn't just tell me so I didn't have to keep going through this. It's self defeating so try to focus on the fact that, even though you had a CP, your body did it's job, you got pregnant and even though it didn't work out it will one day!
I find myself getting into that mood but have to remind myself that I did it before I can do it again. Trust me it was hard because there were 23 months between my 1st and 2nd pregnancies but its the best way to do it.
*hugs*
it's definitely frustrating, no doubt. when we were TTC all my tests came back normal and DH's SA came back fine as well. but when we started to see an RE he had DH do another SA and with their stricter testing he felt DH had low motility and low morphology. We wound up doing 3 IUIs, the 3rd resulting in a chemical pregnancy, and conceived DD #1 via our first IVF with ICSI.
With DD #2, we tried 2 months on our own, then did another IVF with ICSI which failed. The very next month we got pregnant naturally.
All in, I have no clue why it took us 2 years to conceive DD #1 (had two natural mcs during that time). I kinda feel like since we got prego with DD #2 on our own that DH's 'boys' couldn't have been that bad and that maybe the RE's strict testing requirements were just too strict.
definitely frustrating, when unexplained. just keep plugging along and pursue any and all fertility treatments they'll offer you, if that's what you want to do. good luck.
I, too, have the dreaded Unexplained IF diagnosis...and it is beyond frustrating as others have mentioned. I'll echo pp to say that you're not alone and feel free to vent away (we all need to now and again)...that's what we're here for. GL!!
Moving forward with Adoption 2017!
your responses have me in tears. THANK YOU, THANK YOU for all of the positive energy and support. I fully expected to be flamed after my post. (I must say not all of the bump boards are as kind.)
it really helps to know that I'm not alone in my feelings. I called to make the follow up appt with my RE, and I have to wait a month! I should have known better than to wait until after the HSG to make the appointment. ugh.
well, by then I might know whether I got pg this cycle. I hope the HSG clearing-out-the-tubes thing is true. oh let it be true!
here's hoping for a tidal wave of BFPs on this board!!!