Question for all of you!!

soldierswife656 · June 2010

Ok ladies, I am torn between what I should do. My cousin has 6 kids and has only custody of 3 of them. She lives with a man that is for lack of better words, a pile of sh*t. He is abusive towards her kids and treats his 2 kids like gold. Only one of her kids is his. Her other kids are to different men. Her next to the youngest, Bryant, is my husband and I's GodSon. We would do anything for this little boy. He is 4 years old. I was there when she delivered him. He means the world to us. Last evening we were at the lake when I got a phone call from my mom. She told me that my cousins boyfriend beat her and she had to be taken to Pittsburgh to the trauma center. It was bad. She was unconcious until they got her out there and she finally came to. Ladies, the reason I am torn is because I do not want to let Bryant go back home. He told me last night that his "dad" (his dad is not her boyfriend, he just calls him that) hits him and his brothers AND his mom all the time. With everything that has happened to my husband and I, we are so scared that something bad is going to happen to Bryant. This man has done horrible things to these kids. He threw a brick, A BRICK at her oldest son and hit him in the head with it. Sammy had to get 19 stiches because of it. He also pointed a gun at Bryant's head and told him that if he wasn't good he would shoot him in the head. The feeling in my gut is so bad. I'm so scared for these kids. Her youngest is the bad mans only son that he has with my cousin. He is the only one that is treated "decently." Please give me your tips on what we should do. Thanks ladies!!

hellonwheels · June 2010

id report what is going on...get the kids out of that situation...its not healthy...then id talk to her...if she doesnt get out of that relationship she is going to end up a lot worse than what has happened...i think you know what i mean..she needs to do something too...
it all around sounds like a bad situation...you cant force her out of the situation if she isnt willing to do something...but id take it into my own hands to get the kids out of it....

thats my opinion anyway....

Mae925 · June 2010

I am so sorry to hear this. It breaks my heart cause we have gone through this with my sister and her kids. You have to support your cousin and help her the best you can. The police need to be contacted and he needs to be removed from the situations for good. I'm not sure what else to say but the kids come first! Protect them! Talk to the authorities because this is a scary situation.

I am so sorry again just be strong! ((HUGS))

magdalina.h · June 2010

You need to talk to your cousin about taking him out of the home.

jerriesgirl · June 2010

I think you should contact the police too and speak with your cousin about getting out of that relationship and seeking counseling for her and her kids.

I definitely think you should consider taking your godson in, if your cousin is willing to give you custody.You will definitely need to ask yourself are you ready to bring your godson into your house though. Abused kids oftentimes need counseling, so if you take on that responsibility you need to be ready for the good and bad days. Just want to make sure you look at all angles.

acast187 · June 2010

Am so sorry to hear about all this! I say talk to your cousin and let her know that you want to take bryant out of the situation and into something better! Dont yell at her or tell her its her fault.... I was in a bad relationship before and with all the screams and yelling I got from the guy I was numb to it and didnt really listen to everyone telling me to get out! Talk to her calmly and if that doesnt work and she doesnt do anything about it then report it! I hope everything turns out ok...Your in my T&P ::HUGS::

EricaK28 · June 2010

I am new here just found out yesterday I had a miscarriage. When my sister met her husband 3 years ago she stopped giving my neice all of her medicine and feeding tubes she thought she looked healthy and she did not need it. My mom reported her my mom had custody of Abby for 3 months. Social workers got involved Amanda and Chris got Abby back and were watched for a long time until they proved themselves. My sister still does not know that my mom turned her in and she will never know this. You can call the cops or human services for the child service hotline number. I hope this helps. I am so sorry you guys have to be going through this.

greenclown · June 2010

You need to report this immediately.

damabo80 · June 2010

Skip the talking to your cousin...her history has shown that she is not capable of making responsible choices right now. You can't wait around for her to "see the light". What if the brick is thrown just a little bit harder next time? Even if the BF treats one of the kids "decently", the kid is going to grow up with the knowledge that it is OK to throw bricks and hit other people. Just because he is not being hit directly doesn't mean that he is not being damaged, just the same.

Go straight to child protective services, please. Like, today.

bethskye · June 2010

Go to the police and child protective services immediately. Do not keep that child one more second without doing that. It protects you from kidnapping charges (crazy people allege crazy things), and gets the child in the state systems. It's an ugly situation, and it will get worse before it gets better. Make SURE they're aware that a number of other children are involved.

bethskye · June 2010

Go to the police and child protective services immediately. Do not keep that child one more second without doing that. It protects you from kidnapping charges (crazy people allege crazy things), and gets the child in the state systems. It's an ugly situation, and it will get worse before it gets better. Make SURE they're aware that a number of other children are involved. Keep in mind that your cousin is probably going to be furious with you. Don't expect sense from here. Do what's right. Hopefully she'll forgive you.

liveforhim · June 2010

Like most have said already, this needs reported immediately. It cannot wait, for fear of their lives being in danger as you said! I hope all works out. Will be praying for the situation.

hkitty24 · June 2010

Hey! I'm just now reading this post. I'm a Domestic Violence Program Director for the Domestic Violence shelter in my hometown. I agree with the previous posts and that you MUST report this. You can call your local Department of Social Services and report what is going on in the home and get help for the children. Has your cousin tried to leave him before? Statistics say that a woman will attempt to leave the abuser atleast 12 times before they finally do or are killed by them. I know it is hard to talk to relatives about such a touchy situation but she and the children are obviously in so much danger. Most counties across the state have programs like mine. There are outreach programs where women can receive counseling, support group and court advocacy. You can also call these places yourself and get advice. I am in Virginia so I will give you the Virginia domestic/sexual violence hotline number that can link you to whatever state you are in. The toll free hotline is 1800-838-8238. Be encouraging and supportive of your cousin but most of all protect those precious children and yourself!!!

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