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Pregnant after a Loss
str8ota
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Oh MIL, WTF is wrong with you?!
str8ota
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Quick refresher: MIL is super passive-agressive, an unnecessary martyr for attention, says inappropriate things for attention and H is her only child and she decided in his late 20's that she finally wanted to mother him, when he was a child she could care less and was always out with whichever boyfriend she was dating at the time, leaving to FL for months at a time or moving in with her BF and letting h leave by himself in a rental house. I'm very thankful she lives 5 hours away
So yesterday, MIL asked what our plans for daycare are and I told her I have toured a couple of places and looking for PT. And in a dead-calm serious voice she says to me "I don't know why you haven't asked me to quit my job, move in and be your fulltime nanny".
My response: I couldn't stop laughing at her! Once the laughter did stop anger took over and I pretty much told her this is my child and if anyone is staying in my house fulltime and raising my child it will be me. Other than that DD will be going to a daycare 2 blocks from my office so I can see her at lunch.
Like I'm going to work FT so she can take care of my child and then I can take care of her. Whatev.
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Re: Oh MIL, WTF is wrong with you?!
Summer 2011
Oh she was serious. Didn't I tell you, it's she and h who are having this baby, I'm just the carrier
Every time she says something like "how's our baby doing?" I just want to puke!
Summer 2011
Oh yes, unfortunately, this is a familiar conversation. My MIL "offered" to do the same -- quit her job and take care of the baby while we are at work. She never mentioned moving in, but I figured that was a conversation for another day. Basically, I laughed and shot her down too. My LO will be going to a daycare where my SIL works and where my nephew will also be. My MIL has been told this numerous times. Somehow, it just doesn't compute.
My MIL and yours sound like one in the same. I feel your pain.
I thought she was going to start crying (she's a crier, she cries about everything) and could here it in her voice. Instead she said she had to go. Tootles!
I love the response, good for you!
My MIL said something similar after a bottle of wine at my Bridal Shower. She said when we had a baby she'd give us her house, she'd quit her job, we'd pay for a small condo for her and she's watch our baby full time. This led to DH not speaking to her until the night before the wedding.
Stand your ground sista! I know how it can go with crazy MIL's.