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Is this bad???

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I have checked in with MIL twice today to see how she is doing with DS....when he goes to the sitter I dont check at all and if I do it's just because I'm bored.  It's not that I dont trust her but I just dont want to come to a baby that's a hot mess.
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Re: Is this bad???

  • Jen1231Jen1231
    Nah, I don't think it's bad.  I always check in on him when he's with my SIL and don't check on him when he's with my mom.  Hmm. . . don't know why. 
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    I have checked in with MIL twice today to see how she is doing with DS....when he goes to the sitter I dont check at all and if I do it's just because I'm bored.  It's not that I dont trust her but I just dont want to come to a baby that's a hot mess.

    That actually makes it sound like you don't trust her.  If you feel bad about checking up on her and she says something just tell her you were bored at work and calling gave you something to do.

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  • uofibabeuofibabe
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    imageuofihoard:
    I have checked in with MIL twice today to see how she is doing with DS....when he goes to the sitter I dont check at all and if I do it's just because I'm bored.  It's not that I dont trust her but I just dont want to come to a baby that's a hot mess.

    That actually makes it sound like you don't trust her.  If you feel bad about checking up on her and she says something just tell her you were bored at work and calling gave you something to do.

    It's just like another post I saw earlier today...I trust my mom more than DH's mom.  It's not that she's not capable of taking care of DS but she just doesnt seem to listen to what we tell her - he doesnt like to be held alot, he's on a routine of eat, play, sleep and likes to stick to that.  I'm sure she wont say anything about me texting her (at least not to my face) but when I get home I dont want DS to be all off just because of being with her for one day!!!  I like my baby on his schedule and STTN!

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  • lovebug630lovebug630
    imageuofihoard:
    imageiowagirl73:

    imageuofihoard:
    I have checked in with MIL twice today to see how she is doing with DS....when he goes to the sitter I dont check at all and if I do it's just because I'm bored.  It's not that I dont trust her but I just dont want to come to a baby that's a hot mess.

    That actually makes it sound like you don't trust her.  If you feel bad about checking up on her and she says something just tell her you were bored at work and calling gave you something to do.

    It's just like another post I saw earlier today...I trust my mom more than DH's mom.  It's not that she's not capable of taking care of DS but she just doesnt seem to listen to what we tell her - he doesnt like to be held alot, he's on a routine of eat, play, sleep and likes to stick to that.  I'm sure she wont say anything about me texting her (at least not to my face) but when I get home I dont want DS to be all off just because of being with her for one day!!!  I like my baby on his schedule and STTN!

    I know exactly what you mean. MIL is keeping DD one day a week this summer, and I am hating it. Last Friday was the first day, and I just told her straight out what I wanted. For example, I told her DD had to be put down to sleep with nothing but her soothie, since she put her down once with a thick burp cloth and a stuffed animal with a blanket. Not cool with me.

    I used to be timid about being honest with the ILs, but not anymore. Not when it comes to DD especially. Since Friday was the first time I'd left DD for more than 3-4 hours (I'm a SAHM mom), I told her I was nervous. She actually texted me a couple of times that day, giving me updates, which I appreciated.

    As far as your MIL not seeming to listen, mine usually is the same way. She's kind of flighty; she appears to be listening, but you can tell she's not. I'm thinking about making a list for next time. Maybe you could try that? Then she could refer to the list if she has questions. Maybe it's a problem of her not remembering what you want.

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  • uofibabeuofibabe
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    imageuofihoard:
    imageiowagirl73:

    imageuofihoard:
    I have checked in with MIL twice today to see how she is doing with DS....when he goes to the sitter I dont check at all and if I do it's just because I'm bored.  It's not that I dont trust her but I just dont want to come to a baby that's a hot mess.

    That actually makes it sound like you don't trust her.  If you feel bad about checking up on her and she says something just tell her you were bored at work and calling gave you something to do.

    It's just like another post I saw earlier today...I trust my mom more than DH's mom.  It's not that she's not capable of taking care of DS but she just doesnt seem to listen to what we tell her - he doesnt like to be held alot, he's on a routine of eat, play, sleep and likes to stick to that.  I'm sure she wont say anything about me texting her (at least not to my face) but when I get home I dont want DS to be all off just because of being with her for one day!!!  I like my baby on his schedule and STTN!

    I know exactly what you mean. MIL is keeping DD one day a week this summer, and I am hating it. Last Friday was the first day, and I just told her straight out what I wanted. For example, I told her DD had to be put down to sleep with nothing but her soothie, since she put her down once with a thick burp cloth and a stuffed animal with a blanket. Not cool with me.

    I used to be timid about being honest with the ILs, but not anymore. Not when it comes to DD especially. Since Friday was the first time I'd left DD for more than 3-4 hours (I'm a SAHM mom), I told her I was nervous. She actually texted me a couple of times that day, giving me updates, which I appreciated.

    As far as your MIL not seeming to listen, mine usually is the same way. She's kind of flighty; she appears to be listening, but you can tell she's not. I'm thinking about making a list for next time. Maybe you could try that? Then she could refer to the list if she has questions. Maybe it's a problem of her not remembering what you want.

    I wrote DS daily schedule out so hopefully she tried to go by it and I know DH said something to her about writing down his naps and bottle times for us :)  Might be a little OCD but I like knowing what my child did all day!

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