Those with 2 under 2

m0132 · June 2010

Be honest, how hard is it? I wanted to wait until Leah was 2 to try but then I changed my mind to 18 months, well DH wants to try NOW and it doesn't help that our friend (their first LO is 3 days older than ours) is pregnant again, so now he has baby fever even worse than before. I keep going back and forth about it, I'm just scared I will lose my mind..between DH working long hours, EBF and then having a toddler on top of it, I'm terrified I won't be able to handle it. Then I think about it and say "what's another 6 months?" If we try when LO is 1 then she will be almost 2 by the time the baby is born anyway, besides our first has been such an amazing, easy going baby that I think she will adjust well. Am I trying to make it sound like a piece of cake or is it really hard? If you could have waited longer in between would you?

Melanie.Brown · June 2010

Oh I'm waiting in anticipation for replies. I've been thinking the same thing.

We originally talked about spacing our children 3 years apart, but I don't think I can wait anther year and a half before trying again! We're thinking after DD's first birthday we will start trying again.

alli2672 · June 2010

I don't know it any other way, but it isn't hard. It requires a lot of time management, but really, how hard is it to push two babies on a swing instead of one or breastfeed while your toddler has his snack?

ETA: my babies are 25 months and 8 months.

mechanicsgirl · June 2010

Ask me in 2 months. I'll have 2U1 then.

BelleBaby · June 2010

Mine are the same age! I know that's hard. But that probably doesn't help you any!

Oh, and FWIW, I think I have lost my mind! Stick out tongue

chasbride07 · June 2010

My boys are 19 months apart. The reason why it's been difficult most of the time is because Jack hasn't been a very easy baby - colic/reflux up about 7 times a night until around 7 months. Since he's sleeping better it hasn't been as difficult. My older one is pretty good at listening so that helps a lot.

The hardest time was Memorial Day and the week or so after because DS1 started potty training and DS2 started crawling. It just made it so we had to be extra vigilant with both kids. I'm happy our boys are close in age but we plan on waiting until DS2 is around 2 before talking about baby 3.

bim38106 · June 2010

alli2672:
I don't know it any other way, but it isn't hard. It requires a lot of time management, but really, how hard is it to push two babies on a swing instead of one or breastfeed while your toddler has his snack?

ETA: my babies are 25 months and 8 months.

ITA. I haven't found it to be hard at all. DD2 is very easy going and a good sleeper, so that helps a lot. But overall I don't see how a larger age difference would make it any easier. Plus both nap at the same time so I still get a nice long break in the afternoon. Might not get that w/ an older child! I absolutely love having my girls 20 months apart and I would definitely do 2u2 again if I had the chance (DD2 was planned).

Plus, now that DD2 is getting older, they're starting to play together. Having them this close, I think, will be better in the long run because they'll be into the same things around the same time.

m0132 · June 2010

Ok you all make good points. I think DH is in more of a rush than I am because he is 9 years older than I am, I'm 22 so I feel like I have plenty of time to have babies but I guess you all are right that a larger age gap doesn't mean it will be any easier. DD is so easy going so I don't picture her being a big handful even in toddler years..I think when she turns 1 we will give it a try : )

jen1177 · June 2010

It has been pretty easy looking back at it all. DS was very easy going and loves his baby sister. We did lots of preparing for it. He had his own baby doll and everything. Now that they are getting older, it is getting more interesting, more fighting and such but all just normal sibling rivalry. But as far as the beginning, my best advice...try to tend to the toddlers needs before you have to sit down to feed the baby, etc.

jen1177 · June 2010

It has been pretty easy looking back at it all. DS was very easy going and loves his baby sister. We did lots of preparing for it. He had his own baby doll and everything. Now that they are getting older, it is getting more interesting, more fighting and such but all just normal sibling rivalry. But as far as the beginning, my best advice...try to tend to the toddlers needs before you have to sit down to feed the baby, etc. Mine are 15 months apart.

penguingrrl · June 2010

To be honest, I wish finances were in order to try for #3 in early fall! My two are 22 months apart and while it's not always easy it's a blast! My older daughter has no memory from before her sister was around, which has made many things a lot easier. And they are already the best of friends. Also, while sometimes I'm definitely pulled in two directions at once, having them close in age means they love to play together and as time goes by the gap between them will continually decrease in significance. Ask me how I feel in 13 years and it may be a different story...

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