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God Parents?

Buttercup29Buttercup29
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Have you named your LOs god parents or guardian should anything happen to you or DH?

We have been wondering if there are any true ties to who you name as god parent vs. guardian should anything happen? The only reason I ask is that we can't agree on where the bean would go if we were gone. Anyone else in this situation?

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  • AshleysredAshleysred
    K doesn't have godparents.  She will go to my bestie and her FI if anything happens to us.  If she were to have godparents, it would probably have to be Timm's bro and there is no way in hell KiKi is going to live with him and SIL.
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  • natalee215natalee215

    There is no true tie to the god parents and the people or person whom you name to take care of your LO in the case that something happens to you and DH.  I think the role of god parent differs depending on your religion.  We're Catholic and as far as I know the role of the god parents is simply to help guide the child in the faith.

    We currently have 2 couples that we are considering for god parents, my aunt and uncle and Bri's brother and SIL.  I personally want to choose my aunt and uncle for the spoil factor :)  BIL/SIL just had their second baby a couple of weeks ago so I know that they're busy spoiling their own baby right now.

    We have yet to discuss what would happen to the baby god forbid anything were to happen to us.

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  • Buttercup29Buttercup29
    So is it safe to say that naming people outside of family is okay to do? We just don't have a family member we can agree on.
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  • Buttercup29Buttercup29
    imagenatalee215:

    There is no true tie to the god parents and the people or person whom you name to take care of your LO in the case that something happens to you and DH.  I think the role of god parent, differs depending on your religion.  We're Catholic and as far as I know the role of the god parents is simply to help guide the child in the faith.

    We currently have 2 couples that we are considering for god parents, my aunt and uncle and Bri's brother and SIL.  I personally want to choose my aunt and uncle for the spoil factor :)  BIL/SIL just had their second baby a couple of weeks ago so I know that they're busy spoiling their own baby right now.

    We have yet to discuss what would happen to the baby god forbid anything were to happen to us.

    Now it makes sense - I'm Jewish and DH is non-practicing Catholic - - so just trying to understand these roles. Regardless of faith, we would not want bean to go with family members. I guess it will come down to friends we really trust. That's tough.

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  • jcombsjcombs

    Yes on both.  We have DH's brother as guardian and my best friend as alternate guardian if something happens to us.  My brother is the financial guardian in the will.

    Godparents have absolutely nothing to do with who would get them if something happens to you.  But it is a good idea to get a will in place so they go where you want.  Otherwise family will most likely have preference if there is a court battle over the child.

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  • dexspsandqsdexspsandqs

    God parents are strictly for 'show.' You need to sit down and have realistic conversations about worst case scenario and think of suitable people for guardianship. 

    Then, you'd likely discuss the idea with them over dinner and come to a decision.  You'd then need to have the papers signed for guardianship with your lawyer.

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  • sarlahsarlah

    Exactly what all the pp's said.

    My aunt & uncle were godparents to me & my brother, and they were also guardians if anything had ever happened to my parents.

     

    It's always better to have things spelled out very literally & legally. My coworker was in the process of adopting his niece (her dad is unknown & mom is out of the picture). Well the niece didn't have a legal guardian named, but was baptized and had godparents. The godparents (of no blood relation) took my coworker to court and were trying to get custody of the girl. It was a BIG deal and my coworker seriously thought he was going to lose her. The court ended up siding with my coworker (and his wife) due to the blood relation and some other things I'm sure.


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  • DreamsBride411DreamsBride411 member
    We've named my bro and SIL financial beneficiaries and guardians of Mari if anything were to happen to us, however, my besties and her hubbs are Mari's fairy god-parents from my church and peter's bestie and FI are mari's Greek fairy god-parents. I always thought god-parents were to be the ones to offer spiritual guidance and counsel in LOs life should the parents be unable.
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