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My husband is leaving me...

dianah36dianah36
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I'm not kidding. He just told me today that he doesn't want to be married anymore. He feels like he's in a cage. I don't think I can survive this.
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  • M.AmyM.Amy member
    Oh Diana. Could he just have been having a bad day? I am so sorry.  I left you a PM.
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  • busybeabusybea
    OMG!  My heart aches for you right now.  Have you sat him down and talked this over?  Are you both willing to seek counseling?  Having a baby is extremely hard on everyone, mother AND father.  I hope he just said this out of frustration.  My thoughts and prayers go out to you, hoping that this is just a phase that he's going through.  Left HugRight Hug
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  • steverstever member

    Oh no! I'm so sorry Diana.

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  • PeppernutPeppernut

    Oh, my god.  I am so sorry.  I hope it's just frustration talking...  I am soo so sorry.  How scary...

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  • daisydanadaisydana member

    Oh my gosh. Ditto on what Peppernut said. I really hope things don't go that way and it's just some sort of frustration that he'll soon realize was short lived.

     

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  • vanverthvanverth
    Oh no.  I hope that things get better for you.  I ditto the idea of counseling.  Both of you need to work on why he feels trapped.
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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member
    T&P headed your way.
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  • DaisiesinmygardenDaisiesinmygarden member

    Oh, wow. I am so sorry. I hope that it is just the frustration talking.

    And FWIW, you are stronger than you know.  

     

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  • KD288KD288
    Sweetie I am very sorry you have to deal with this. My DH said these same things over a year ago before H was conceived. It is a hard thing but do not give up. Recommend counseling. Dh and I went for a real long time and it helped us a lot. Dh now says he will never forgive himself for saying it. If you need to talk I am here.
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  • livvielolivvielo
    Big, big hugs to you right now. 
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  • JenniferTCUJenniferTCU member
    Oh D- I am so very sorry. I wish there was something I could say. Have you been having problems or was this out of left field? Would he be willing to go to counseling? I will keep you and sweet baby R in my prayers.
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  • superauntsuperaunt member
    OMG I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Hopefully this is just a bad day like a pp said. You will get through this!! :huge hugs:
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  • YaraCYaraC
    What?!?! I'm so sorry. I hope he is just confused right now and will come to his senses. I hope you have some support around you. We are always here for that too.
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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    T&P

    (((HUGS)))

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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
    Oh, I am so sorry Diana.  I hope that you two can work it out.  Ditto Noelle, you are stronger than you know.  ((HUGS))
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  • richelle021richelle021
    Don't underestimate your own strength.  I do hope, though, that this is just a passing phase and that your husband will agree to work through this with you.
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  • fiazofiazo
    OMG I am so sorry you have to go through this. Ditto everyone else's thoughts. Some guys do have a hard time with such a life change. I pray that you both seek counseling & that it helps.
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  • iluvtomiluvtom member
    I am so sorry and I hope it was just a bad day..My biggest (((HUGS))))~~
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  • carladilloncarladillon
    I pray that this is just a starting point for you and DH to begin to talk through his concerns.
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  • indianasunshineindianasunshine member
    Thoughts and prayers coming your way!
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  • kimisuejoiakimisuejoia
    T&P my dear...
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  • snwfieldssnwfields
    Huge hugs.
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  • nybor1975nybor1975
    I'm so sorry.  I hope you're able to work things out.
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  • KristelRobinKristelRobin

    Oh Diana, huge hugs coming your way.  I really hope that he will agree to go to marriage counseling with you.  Getting to the root of his feelings is so important, as the PPs have said.  DH and I have been to counseling a couple of times, and it has saved our marriage.

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  • leffe1leffe1
    I am so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. I will be praying for you and your family.
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  • ElizabethDElizabethD
    Try www.divorcebusting.com filled with amazingly useful information for the "leavee."  Good luck!!
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  • pahokiepahokie
    I am so sorry!  I hope it was just frustration and that you can work through things.  Remember that you are stronger than you think and can survive whatever life throws at you, and that you always have support here.  {{{HUGS}}}
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  • DragonflyerDragonflyer
    OMG, I am so sorry. T&P, hopefully he comes to his senses and realizes what he has.
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  • mama.bearmama.bear

    You are stronger than you know just like others have mentioned.

    Is your husband willing to try counseling? Having an outside party work through marital issues can really help. Marriage is hard. Marriage with children is even harder.

    I have been in your shoes. I'm here for you.

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  • PeskyPesky member
    I'm so sorry.  Ditto pps about counseling.  Lots of t&p for you.  Whatever happens, you can handle it.  Really.  Left Hug


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  • nisemsnisems member
    I'm so sad for you, and hoping that you guys can work it out.  Whatever happens, you know we're all here pulling for you and sending lots and lots of hugs.
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  • ml0904ml0904
    Oh I am so sorry, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I agree with the others about trying the counseling I have been in your shoes and while you don't think you can survive this today, you can and you will.
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  • Puckchick07Puckchick07 member

    Sorry to hear this. I do hope you work things out. If not...you CAN get through this!!

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  • ConnieBarnesConnieBarnes

    From my heart to yours, wish you didnt have to feel the pain of those words he spoke.  what you said about not surviving this cannot be an option!  Your baby girl is what you can focus on.  Perhaps what everyone has said will happen- counseling, or talking it out, but if it doesn't- its your job to stand strong for your sanity and for your baby!  If you are a Christian, you understand that everything happens for a reason- the road we choose isnt always the road God has already planned for us. This happened to me 7 years ago.  my heart sank to the floor and I was empty for quite sometime-until someone said I have two kids to live for and i needed to focus on a straight line.  The main thing is- no matter what happens, YOU HAVE TO STAY STRONG AND FOCUSED.  I'll be praying for you too!

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  • eee23eee23
    Thoughts and prayers go out to you. (((HUGS)))
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  • shelby9201shelby9201
    Hugs and prayers for you.  I hope this was just something he said in frustration and that this can be a starting point for conversation going forward.  Be strong and vent here if you need us!!
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  • orchidweddingorchidwedding
    Even if your husband will not go to counseling, see if you can get it for yourself (maybe a Licensed social worker).  It really will help when you can not think for yourself.
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