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BFF stole my baby name:(

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"Ella" has been our baby girl name forever.  My BFF's sister just had a baby.  A few weeks ago, my BFF said they had chosen either Jordan or Taylor for the baby girl her sister was expecting.  In conversation, I confided in her my baby girl name - she says "wow that's such a nice name".  She knows about our stuggles TTC.

Just got a text:  "Baby Ella has arrived".    Shocked at the coincidence, I text back the obligatory "congratulations" and note that "Ella is my very favourite name".   She writes back:  "I picked it". 

I know I am being overly sensitive but her giving away my baby name is just throwing salt in the wound...Sigh.   She probably doesn't even remember where she came up with it from. 

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  • Nova726Nova726 member
    Oh no!  That's just wrong on so many levels. I'm so sorry.
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  • LifetimeOfLoveLifetimeOfLove member

    I'm so sorry you are going through this. That really stinks that she even commented with "I picked it". I'd be a little upset too.

    DH's friend just had a baby girl. There has always been a name that I was in love with. His friend does not not we are trying OR that I like that name. When they picked the same name for their little one, I was crushed! Obviously they can pick whatever name they want and the fact that they didn't know about us makes it different but it is still hard to hear it.

    I just hope your friend is more sensitive. She could have at least said, "I hope you don't mind but my sister and I were talking about names." Something to at least acknowledge it!

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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
    That sucks.  I'd name my child Ella anyway.  Ella is also our girl name (well, technically Elizabeth, Ella would be her nickname).  SIL is using Ellen if they have a girl...pretty close, but I had my name picked first so I'm not changing it.


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  • OKCgalOKCgal
    I've had this happen to another friend of mine.
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  • amy1004amy1004 member
    I would still use it.  If everyone tried to prevent duplicating names, I wouldn't have been one of four Amys all through school.  It is a beautiful name and you deserve to be able to use it. 
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  • OKCgalOKCgal
    and for that reason I keep my baby names quite until that blessed day does come :-). 
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  • BBColt78BBColt78 member

    That is crappy! I'd be really mad. I'm so sorry :(

     We just had a friend name her daughter the name we wanted. She didn't know, so it's not the same story. But I'd like to thank IF for a brief moment! My friend has had two kids in the time I have not had one. Sigh.

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    imageL&R70707:
    That sucks.  I'd name my child Ella anyway.  Ella is also our girl name (well, technically Elizabeth, Ella would be her nickname).  SIL is using Ellen if they have a girl...pretty close, but I had my name picked first so I'm not changing it.

    I agree with L&R and your friend needs a throat punch!!!

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  • sweetpea1010sweetpea1010
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    imageL&R70707:
    That sucks.  I'd name my child Ella anyway.  Ella is also our girl name (well, technically Elizabeth, Ella would be her nickname).  SIL is using Ellen if they have a girl...pretty close, but I had my name picked first so I'm not changing it.

    I agree with L&R and your friend needs a throat punch!!!

    This.  WTF.  

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  • MisNMisN member

    Thanks everyone - feel better after the vent and this will definitely not stop me from using it.

     

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  • Ski&Sail09Ski&Sail09
    My take on baby names is that as long as someone in the immediate family doesn't name the kid the same thing then it's fair game. My two BFF are both due in August and have both chosen the name Sophia for their girls. They talekd about it and didn't care they used the same name. She should have checked with you though.
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  • crushandtangcrushandtang member
    I'm sorry- I'm so worried that will happen to me I try to keep my baby wish names secretEmbarrassed
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  • lindsaymaealindsaymaea member
    I don't think your being sensitive. That's just wrong.
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  • imoveritimoverit member

    You have every right to be upset and I agree that you still should use Ella.  My SIL was trying to use our boy baby names for her 2nd child that my hubby and I have had picked out forever and I was not having it.  Then my FIL had the nerve to tell us that he thought it was very nice that she didn't use the names we picked out.  WTF?!  Even if I never have a boy and she used the names we picked out I would still resent her for being such a B**tch.  Sorry I'm just venting. Sad

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  • gymnst1013gymnst1013 member
    How rude!!!  However, I wouldn't consider it off the table for you.  I say if you want to still use it, go right ahead.
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  • JessJ222JessJ222 member

    imageOKCgal:
    and for that reason I keep my baby names quite until that blessed day does come :-). 

    Ditto

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