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I have mixed feelings.

SquishycheeksSquishycheeks
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DH is a candidate for a new position at his job that is kind of bittersweet. Right now he is working 70+ hours a week and it's so hard on him. I hate to see him so run down and worn out.

The new position would require him to travel between 4-5 states, but his daily working hours would be less. Instead of a 16 hour day, he could work a normal 8 hour day, but he would rarely be close to home.

His pay would be the same, but the position is a step closer to a higher paying promotion. 

Part of me really hopes that he gets the position because it would reduce a lot of his stress, but the other part of me hates the idea of seeing him even less than I do now.

Am I selfish for feeling this way? I don't want to tell him not to take it if it's offered because I feel like I'd be asking him to keep killing himself at work. I really don't want to be alone with 2 kids 90% of the time either.

 

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  • married4lovemarried4love
    Man, this is a hard one. I say if the promotion gets him a step closer to being more in control of his hours, then he should do it if it's short term. Long term traveling is going to be a lot on you though. 
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  • dragon_chicadragon_chica member
    Yes, you're being selfish BUT for understandable reasons.  I would feel the same way as you do.  You need to step back and look at the whole picture.  How would this benefit your family in the long run?  Do you think it will take years for him to get the promotion once taking on this new position?  Or, will it most likely be in the next year and making this sacrifice worth it?
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  • SquishycheeksSquishycheeks

    imagedragon_chica:
    Yes, you're being selfish BUT for understandable reasons.  I would feel the same way as you do.  You need to step back and look at the whole picture.  How would this benefit your family in the long run?  Do you think it will take years for him to get the promotion once taking on this new position?  Or, will it most likely be in the next year and making this sacrifice worth it?

    It could easily be another 5 years before the higher promotion is available. Nothing is really set in stone, and there is a possibility of something opening up sooner, but it would be a waiting game. 

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  • Temp534591562502098Temp534591562502098
    Blech. I honestly think your DH needs a new line of work. Are you a SAHM? I don't think either option is good for you guys. I think your DH needs to be with and help out with his home life and you two need more connection. If its hard with one, its going to be insane with two.
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