Trying really hard to only feel happy for her...

itsmegin · June 2010

My SIL gave birth to a daughter last night. She wasn't due until Aug. 6, but my nephew was also born premature and he is doing fine. My niece is small but healthy and she and mom are doing great.

I truly truly am happy for them. I love my SIL, she is one of the sweetest people I know, and her DH is a Marine and I completely admire them for the sacrifices they make for our country. I wish nothing but complete happiness for their family. At the same time, I can't help but feel jealous and sad, even though I want them to have their perfect family and think they deserve it.

I'll be visiting them in July, I'm very excited but also nervous, hopefully that trip won't be too painful.

Chicwed · June 2010

i totally understand how you feel. we just found out that good friends of ours are expecting in december which makes it TWO couples that we're friends with that are due that month. when my husband told me over the phone, i broke down in tears. i think it's a completely normal reaction.

good luck when you head out to visit them. ((hugs))

BlakeG · June 2010

It's only natural to feel that way. My DH's best friend & his wife announced their BFP this weekend to us (she's only 5 weeks so there was no hint that this announcement was coming) and I cried at his kitchen table when he told us. Thankfully he knows everything we are going through so it was fine but I just couldn't hold it together. Sending hugs your way. Don't feel guilty about feeling jealous, it will pass.

jerriesgirl · June 2010

I think you are feelings are normal. By July, you may be at a point where the jealousy isn't there anymore. Don't feel bad. ((hugs))

kellbranc · June 2010

Im so sorry Ginger. I know how hard it is

My very best friend in the entire world is 21 wks pregnant and its so hard for me too sometimes..especially when she complains and I want to scream "do you know how luck you are"!!!!!!!!!!!!????????!!!!!!!!!!!

its ok and normal to be a little jealous

itsmegin · June 2010

Thanks girls, as always, you make me feel better. I can't admit these feelings anywhere but here, because I think people that haven't gone through this would think I'm just a jerk.

And I totally agree kell, on the complaining thing. It's completely my fault for lurking on boards where I don't belong, and I do not in any way blame the girls on the boards for complaining there, where everyone else is pregnant. But, when I read posts where they are whining over trivial things, like stretch marks, or when they make melodramatic posts about being outed on Facebook, I just want to tell them that these things are not a big deal. Be happy you are pregnant, and let the little things go!

I am sorry your BFF is whining to you, that's awful, I would think she would be a little more sensitive.

Michele&Chris · June 2010

Your feelings are completely validated - but the minute you see that beautiful little baby you will probably be filled with all the happiness that your SIL will have for you someday soon :-)

As for the people that b&m about their pregnancies... I told DH every time I felt tired, or crampy, or swollen that I loved every minute of it because I knew this tiny, little person was growing inside of me. I miss that feeling, but we can't fault the women who have nothing to compare it to...

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