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Be honest....

kc10786kc10786 member
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Tell me what it is like to have 2 children instead of one. We can't decide if we want to try for another this summer or not. How much harder is it on you, and your marriage?
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  • franciscazfranciscaz member
    Honestly it is hard but I LOVE it!  I always wanted my kids close together and it is hard but doable.  I think it is all about making time for each child, I try to take each one out once a week by themselves.  Also making time for each other, we go out on a date night EVERY week.  If you do that you will be good.  It won't be a piece of cake but it can be great!
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  • doctor girlfrienddoctor girlfriend
    this Q&A from babycenter raises some interesting points!
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  • CiconradCiconrad member
    It's hard.  I can't believe I ever thought having one was hard.  My kids are both "high needs" children so it's really challenging at this age.  DS #1 is crazy active and wants to be on the go at all times and always wants me to play with him.  DS #2 hates the carseat, won't sleep in a stroller, wants to be held/carried non-stop so it's just really difficult managing both their needs.  It will be great when they are older.  Ideally, I think 3 years apart wold have been easier on me but 2 years is better for them, especially since we have 2 of the same sex.
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  • KKMMexKKMMex

    Ours were 21 months apart and it was a super tough transition for me.  But - I think it really does depend on your circumstances.

    I'm a SAHM and DH was traveling frequently and working very long hours the first year after our younger daughter was born.  I felt overwhelmed and I was very sleep deprived.  It was not a happy time in my life, but now that our daughters are ages 4 and 2 it's wonderful!

    It takes a while to figure out the logistics of two children.  It can be tough to get out and about with both an infant and a toddler.  A lot of managing two children depends on how close in age they are, whether or not your older child is potty trained, whether you work or stay at home, whether you have family nearby, et cetera, et cetera.  If you SAH I'd recommend finding a preschool or MDO program for your older child, if you haven't already. 

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  • GLynn2009GLynn2009
    My first two are 18 months apart and it took some ajusting but not to bad. DS was older than DD but she tired to do everything that he did so she was broke from the bottle and diapers quite young. DD1 also walked very early tiring to keep up with her brother. DD2 is 15 years younger than DS and that has been hard on us as a family because teenagers and babies do not have the same schedule at all. I have more help but I have had to miss something that the older kids did because I had a infant. I worked full time with all three.
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  • married4lovemarried4love
    It was harder for me in the beginning, but now that #2 is nearing 1 year old, things are getting much better. They are starting to play together, eat similar things and we've got our routine down etc. The new baby stage is hard on everyone, but then all of a sudden it's over. It is harder financially of course. It's harder to get things done, to find time for yourself, but I'm not having a rough time with any of it. I know in a year or so they'll be off playing on their own and I'll have time back to do certain things. As far as the marriage, I think if you survived the first one, you'll be just fine. Things are actually much more relaxed and appreciated with the second because you're not constantly both worried you're doing something wrong.
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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    well i've got 3 --- had 2 at once the 2nd time around- and i LOVE it.  Watching them interact together is amazing.... I can't believe I ever worried about Griffin being upset he wasn't the only anymore... he LOVES his brothers and they ADORE him. 

    and when i watch the twins together I think "wow, having one baby is so boring- this is so awesome!", lol... because it really is so amazing to see 2 babies together all day long.

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