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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
DH packed his bags (again)
DH has health issues and lately it seems like every single discussion ends in a debate. It's exhausting and I can't take it anymore. It can be the simplest thing. The other day I looked at him wrong supposedly and it sent him to tears, right before we had 16 people over for LO's first bday party. It was supposed to be a happy day and I tried to forget everything that happened and make it happy for our baby. Tonight I simply said I hope we are in a bigger house when they are in big boy beds b/c our cribs both convert to full size and we will be room sharing. Bad idea. I got a 20 minute lecture about how I hate MIL and living 5 minutes away from her and it went on and on and on. We are expecting baby # 2 in Sept. and I am high risk of pre-term labor and trying not to stress about anything. So I started crying for like 15 min and I couldn't stop. DH doesn't even ask me what's wrong until I come out of the bathroom. I said don't you dare even talk to me, I'm carrying your child and crying hysterically and you can't even help calm me down? He starts yelling, wakes up the baby, packs his bag and says it's over and proceeds to call me every swear word I can think of (in front of LO no less). I have no where to go, have been unemployed since I was layed off right before having LO so I don't know what I am going to do, where I am going to go and I am trying to put on a brave face for LO and not to stress for baby # 2. I like to think of myself as a strong woman but sh*t, right now I'm doing all I can not to fall apart. Don't really have anyone to trust IRL. One minute I am finishing up DH's "D-A-D" present and the next he's asking for a divorce and he's gone, leaving behind his LO and pg. wife?????? I am at such a loss right now. My mom may come over when she gets out of work. Thanks for listening.
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Re: DH packed his bags (again)
Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I will definitely pray for you.
Is there any way you could go to marriage counseling? Have you tried to talk to his family about it? Maybe they could convince him to give the marriage another try? It sounds like he's being selfish, but maybe it isn't irreversible. Maybe he will come to his senses. Having a baby definitely puts a strain on a marriage, but it looks like he is taking it way too far.
Hopefully your mom can come over. You shouldn't have to be alone right now.
Wow sorry to hear what you're going through. I will stay off my soapbox about husbands who disrespect their wives, let alone their pg wives, and just tell you that I hope things work out however is best for you and your LOs. I feel so bad for the women on here with husband issues. My divorce from my XH was the hardest thing for me to endure, and luckily we had no children together. I hope you have supportive relatives to lean on.
That sucks. Can you go stay with your mom or other relative? Please think about what watching dad verbal abuse mom is doing to your LO. It will teach him to treat women that way or her that being treated that way is
OK. It sounds like a very toxic relationship that needs some serious decisions to be made.
You need to get some financial stability as well. You say you are unemployed, you could try to find a job maybe even working at a large retail stores. Most states have daycare vouchers available for low income parents so they can afford to work. If you DH makes a significant amount of money it might be worth it to consult with a lawyer to see if you can get post-separation support from him through the courts.
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