belly touching

nikinikinine · June 2010

does it really bother you? IDK, maybe I'm weird, but I don't think I'll mind.

Kiki11 · June 2010

It doesn't especially bother me, but I do find it a little weird that someone will just touch my belly, especially without asking. I have been around a lot of pregnant people, even close friends, and I have NEVER touched or asked to touch their bellies. The only time I ever did was when my cousin put my hand on her belly and said, "Feel her move!" It just seems like a weird thing to ask. But even though I find it incredibly weird, I don't really get annoyed by it. I'm too happy to finally be experiencing it to mind I think!

smeyer · June 2010

Yes! It bothers me terribly. I'm a very private person and have had a hard time with the public's feeling that pregnant women are public property. IMO, if you weren't there when the baby/babies were conceived (by whatever means), you have no right to expect to feel them. I tend to walk around with a hand on my belly and don't hesitate to move my hand if I feel like someone's coming in for a grope. Guess I'm rude but I don't care in this situation.

smilee · June 2010

For me, it depends on who it is. I have some creepy co-workers that looked like they were going in for a belly touch and I had to do some side stepping.

Family and friends I did not mind- most knew enough to ask first.

Being pregnant is weird in that way. I never really paid attention to how much people pay attention to pregnant women because I was too busy avoiding them. I LOVE my belly, I really do, it is so fun to have and it was simply amazing to watch it grow... but it is funny, that is all people see anymore. When I see people in the halls at work, pregnancy questions are all I get , at stores, people smile and nod, "how are you feeling?" is the first question I get from everyone. Sometimes I feel like I am not me anymore. So in that sense, the belly touching an oohing and ahhhing has gotten old for me. I know this is a bit off topic, but kinda along the same vein.

Now I am so big and uncomfortable, I don't even want people to look at me much less touch me!

juliannat · June 2010

I'm like smeyer - I need my personal space!! So good idea about holding you OWN hand on your belly - I'll have to do that when I start to show.

krissyh21 · June 2010

When all it was was bloat it ticked me off - there was nothing to feel accept flab. Once LO started to kick, I didn't mind it when close friends and family did it. But it does get old fast. Especially when you know LO isn't being very active and Aunt Betsy won't take the hint that no matter how loud she screams into your tummy LO is not going to kick for her right now... and then of course there is some random stranger at the supermarket. Umm no - I do not know you, you do not get to touch me.

Shelley-Bean · June 2010

It actually freaks me out more than I thought. Maybe because I'm early, but even when my mom does it, it's an invasion of personal space. I have 1 co-worker who does it so I try to stand far enough away from that I can dodge it. If a patient wanted to touch my stomach, I know I'd not like it at all. After the whole H1N1, I've gotten out of the habit of shaking hands with the patient, so if it's not me examining them, there is no physical contact.

Maybe when I get bigger I won't mind as much.

AlissaCell701 · June 2010

I can't stand it and think it's kind of an invasion of personal space. You don't go up non pg people and start grabbing random body parts....so why does this rule get thrown out the window when you become pg?? .

I have my shower next weekend at home in MA and I am already getting comments on FB from my IL's and SIL that they cannot wait to touch my belly..umm NO Thanks... I.DOn't know how I am going to tell them "nicely" hands off..Any suggestions??

GenRN45 · June 2010

AlissaCell701:
I.DOn't know how I am going to tell them "nicely" hands off..Any suggestions??

i'm a fan:

ALY1981 · June 2010

I don't think it will bother me at all. It's an amazing thing!

newsbaby · June 2010

I don't care if its my parents or my sister or obviously DH. Everyone else better stay the hell away.

Quizzle · June 2010

I've mostly gotten belly touches from family, so I'm ok with that. My SMIL was watching my belly move last night, but not trying to touch, and that was fine, too!

I have gotten a couple of random touches from people I worked with, but fortunately not too many... I mostly get asked a LOT of questions, since I'm at basketball belly stage and evidently look about ready to pop. It sort of surprises me how much people comment! I also get comments because evidently while my belly is huge, I'm moving around a lot more easily than most people expect and I'm not all puffy.

LCB34 · June 2010

Yes it bothers me a lot. I don't even like my mom touching my belly.

It is just weird that people think it is now OK to put their hands on me. NMS at all.

laura&dan05 · June 2010

When I was pg with dd I didn't have a single person touch my belly except for DH and my mom once (after she asked first). I think it's really weird that people want to do that in the first place. I would never in a million years do that to someone or find it appropriate espeically without asking first.

2006july15bride · June 2010

GenRN45:

AlissaCell701:
I.DOn't know how I am going to tell them "nicely" hands off..Any suggestions??

i'm a fan:

Ok I need one of these because aside from DH noone is to touch me! I already had a friend do it and comment that there was something there already Angry Hands off biotch, I'm pregnant what's your excuse?

BizEB · June 2010

It's never bothered me. No one I don't know well has done it to me so it's never been a big deal.

Mrs.Kiltlifter · June 2010

I don't mind family and friends but complete strangers and my clients weird me out.

yodasmistress · June 2010

I doesn't really bother me per se. But I do think it's really effing weird so I internally give them the side eye.

LVBlvd · June 2010

I loved it in my first pregnancy at like 24+ weeks. Before then, I just felt chubby and bloated. But I loved my big belly when it came!

JGirl2005 · June 2010

I won't say that I'm ok with it from strangers but I deal. Two lady strangers have asked me before going in for the brllyrub. My coworker did it without asking. Last time this girl rubbed my belly forever but she is a friend not closebut....I tolerate it but prefer if people ask...strangers or friends

Babsie7 · June 2010

I think it depends on who it is. Close friends and family I don't mind, but when people you don't know that well do it, I think it's weird. A few of my female students asked to feel my belly and I didn't have a problem with it.

Villo24 · June 2010

It bothers me. I never thought it would. I have a small little bump and was at a wedding last night and I had a couple of people touch it. And these are all people I know and love, not strangers.

I don't think I will mind when the baby is kicking/moving and people want to feel the kick, but just to rub my belly was weird. But I say that now. ;-)

Cajunladybug22 · June 2010

BizEB:
It's never bothered me. No one I don't know well has done it to me so it's never been a big deal.

This!

WifeOfARedhead · June 2010

Mrs.Kiltlifter:
I don't mind family and friends but complete strangers and my clients weird me out.

this exactly! I actually enjoy family and friends.

Susan&Courtney · June 2010

ummm yeah. I don't really have a belly yet but when I told my grandmother that I am pregnant she rubbed my belly and I hated it. I just backed away. I think it is because I am very sensitive to my personal space and so it definitely bugs me when people touch me like that.

gramos1128 · June 2010

I loved it too when it was obvious I had a big belly to touch. I did find the early touching weird and I would tell people thats not a baby, just bloat and fat. But it honestly never bothered me to have people touch it. Of course no major creeps ever tried but some of my patients, like old ladies, would do it. I never cared. When you really think about what is going on there its hard to not be fascinated by it. Its amazing!

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