Not happy with husband's work schedule

bgalante · June 2010

I'm starting really get bothered about DH work's schedule. It's been like this for years but now that we have LO it's much harder and I feel more alone. He works 2 wks days t-sat and then 2 wks nights leaving us with only Sundays. It's the nights that are the worst. Anyone dealing with similar situation?

Nurselorie · June 2010

Same here!! My husband works 5p-2am. It has worked out great for us since we are able to stay at home with the baby but I do feel alone. I try to remember that we are doing our best and his job requires him to work those hours (he is in sports editing) but it gets hard. Do you live near family for support? I don't and this is what I'm most nervous about with baby #2...

AZAudiGirl · June 2010

Not exactly the same, but mine travels a ton and on short notice. It has been this way for years and in the past I would just pack up and go with him to get away on a little vacation needless to say, those days for the most part are gone. I do get a little peeved when he has to go on short notice but for the most part by day two I have things under control. Then he comes home and everything goes a little bonkers again..it is a cycle

I know it is hard when you are used to your husband being home or some type of schedule that you can rely on and it gets changed or just having your daily routine mixed up a bit can be hard. Is there anything you can do to make the evenings he is gone easier? A friend or family member that could come over for a few hours?

jbl126 · June 2010

::raises hand::

My DH is a cop and he has the same schedule you described. He works tues-sat and for 2 week she works 4-12 and one week 7-4. I actually like his schedule because we get to have one day of the weekend to spend as a family. And on those weeks he is on night work, I have help from my mom or MIL. And there are nights where I actually look forward to being alone with the girls.

Once you get into a schedule I am sure you will be fine. Maybe you can find someone to come and help for a little.

erino&chrish · June 2010

Sort of. DH is a realtor and if he gets a new client he has to take calls at night, leaving me with no notice to do bedtime, get things ready for the next day, etc....He also has to work nights and weekends, and often at his clients' whims or when houses pop up, leaving me with little notice. The harder he works and the more calls he answers the more money he makes, but sometimes it's hard on me because I work also and the instability of his schedule is tough. BUT, he'll have some weeks that he doesn't have to work much. Just all depends on business. GL, I know how tough the nights and change in schedule must be. Try to find something fun to do on your own or a show you like for after your LO goes to bed so you don't feel so lonely.

Uiowachick01 · June 2010

ME, ME!!

DH works nights and even though I SAH I feel like we never see each other. I hate sleeping alone at night, and feel like I'm alone all the time. I just joined a whole bunch of Mommy groups and they help alot, maybe you could try to find some local groups. It feels good to have someone to relate to and hang out with.

Emilia0101 · June 2010

My husband is military and the phone rings in the middle of the night and he is gone within a few hours. I feel like I am always canceling on friends or I can't even book anything for myself because it always gets messed up by work.

1SwtWld · June 2010

jbl126:

::raises hand::

My DH is a cop and he has the same schedule you described. He works tues-sat and for 2 week she works 4-12 and one week 7-4. I actually like his schedule because we get to have one day of the weekend to spend as a family. And on those weeks he is on night work, I have help from my mom or MIL. And there are nights where I actually look forward to being alone with the girls.

Once you get into a schedule I am sure you will be fine. Maybe you can find someone to come and help for a little.

Like JBL, my husband is on a similar schedule. He works AM shift, PM shift and Midnight shifts, plus some weekends and OOT travel. He's always away. Mids are ok because he's home until G is in bed so he has time with her on that and the AM schedule. It's tough, but I do love my alone time with Gianna. I do wish DH and I had more time together though.

2bemrs.bailey · June 2010

My husband is in the military, so I def. understand. Being gone for 12-15 months is hard. The military does not care about families, even if they say they do.

sasa625 · June 2010

DH is a retail manager and doesn't have a set schedule. He is off one day/week to stay home with DD while I work. I work 3 days, so we only ever have 1 day together during the week. It's usually Friday unless he needs another day off for something. If we have an appointment or something else going on on his 2nd day off then we get no time as a family (and no time to work around the house, which is really starting to become a problem). He also either works from 7-5/6 or goes in around 11 and works until 9:30. That is also very difficult... I feel like I can never get anything done, especially if DD is having a particularly fussy day. It is definitely frustrating!

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