def got baby brain..

nilly5 · June 2010

As of right now, I know about 4 or 5 people that are pregnant, and I'm really getting antsy to start trying again. I know we could make it work w/ our budget and I know I'm ready to give DS a sibling, but I'm really worried that the BF wont agree. I'm wanting to wait until Sept to start trying again. But he's kind of content with just one baby, and I know he would tell me I need to get a job, which I plan on doing this July.

Anybody else wanting to try again soon but their SO either doesnt want to or wants to wait much longer?

dmogmo · June 2010

Sounds to me like there are more issues here....

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/38481823.aspx

Your (excuse me, his) money goes "mostly into beer and smokes"?

BallSox · June 2010

Snap.

Maybe you should poke holes in the condoms? I mean, once the kid is there, he can't really stop you, right?

Eta: You may "plan" on getting a job in July, but you do realize that jobs are few and far between, right? Maybe you could look into dancing--you know--professionally?

MrsVonKikabee · June 2010

diana82:
Sounds to me like there are more issues here....
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/38481823.aspx
Your (excuse me, his) money goes "mostly into beer and smokes"?

Good find.

I would be more concerned that he's all controlling of all the money and you don't discuss it. Sounds like you need to sit down and have a conversation with him about your finances and your desire to have another kid.

And what data are you using to think you can afford another child if you don't know where all of the money goes?

buckin · June 2010

Before another baby you might look into this:

danlexi04 · June 2010

I'm going to go ahead and suggest a better education and a job before you continue to procreate more children that will most likely say things like "I've been wanting." And beer and smokes? Really? Klassy.

I second Balls idea at least it would be some cash flow.

LucyAnnie · June 2010

buckin:

Before another baby you might look into this:

Notice how her top and her pants meet - you should try that sometime too!

Fashion aside - please discuss finances with your s/o. If its like this now chances are if/when you get married its not going to change. God forbid if something were to happen to him or you all split, you will be left with nothing.

nilly5 · June 2010

You know....I have to wonder why I even post on these boards anymore? Why do so many people critize everything?

Anyway, I'm not living in Seward anymore and where I'm at, there are many job openings.

I know where his money goes, I'm stating that I'm unsure of how much of it he spends on his beer & smokes. But, I do know he has cut back a great deal.

Also, I find it rude that you have the nerve to comment on my pants. Just so you know, I did not realize that by butt crack was showing until after the picture was taken....there was no need to comment.

The question I was asking on this board was whether or not someone else was having trouble convincing their SO if they would want another child or not...not for people to critize about my family life.

So thanks for the comments on my pants, I'll have to take that into considersation when I talk to my man about another baby.

Mama_SAS · June 2010

nilly5:

Also, I find it rude that you have the nerve to comment on my pants. Just so you know, I did not realize that by butt crack was showing until after the picture was taken..

And you posted it online anyway?

dmogmo · June 2010

Ok. Did you realize the butt crack was showing before putting it on the INTERNET? Just curious.

LucyAnnie · June 2010

nilly5:

You know....I have to wonder why I even post on these boards anymore? Why do so many people critize everything?

Anyway, I'm not living in Seward anymore and where I'm at, there are many job openings.

I know where his money goes, I'm stating that I'm unsure of how much of it he spends on his beer & smokes. But, I do know he has cut back a great deal.

Also, I find it rude that you have the nerve to comment on my pants. Just so you know, I did not realize that by butt crack was showing until after the picture was taken....there was no need to comment.

The question I was asking on this board was whether or not someone else was having trouble convincing their SO if they would want another child or not...not for people to critize about my family life.

So thanks for the comments on my pants, I'll have to take that into considersation when I talk to my man about another baby.

Putting the jeans comment aside - you both need to agree to this. There should be no need of convincing at all. A discussion about worries/concerns is fine, but if your s/o still does not feel ready then you need to respect his/her decision.

dmogmo · June 2010

Seriously though - if you put the details out there, comments on them are fair game. It's not real sneaky putting more info on one board thinking the other won't see. Grow up, work your shiit out and then talk about another kid.

nilly5 · June 2010

LucyAnnie:
nilly5:

You know....I have to wonder why I even post on these boards anymore? Why do so many people critize everything?

Anyway, I'm not living in Seward anymore and where I'm at, there are many job openings.

I know where his money goes, I'm stating that I'm unsure of how much of it he spends on his beer & smokes. But, I do know he has cut back a great deal.

Also, I find it rude that you have the nerve to comment on my pants. Just so you know, I did not realize that by butt crack was showing until after the picture was taken....there was no need to comment.

The question I was asking on this board was whether or not someone else was having trouble convincing their SO if they would want another child or not...not for people to critize about my family life.

So thanks for the comments on my pants, I'll have to take that into considersation when I talk to my man about another baby.

Putting the jeans comment aside - you both need to agree to this. There should be no need of convincing at all. A discussion about worries/concerns is fine, but if your s/o still does not feel ready then you need to respect his/her decision.

Thank you for actual advice!

And to the others, YES I still posted my buttcrack on the internet....and I DON'T CARE! haha

oh-zysbaby · June 2010

It's called "crop". That's all.

caffinated_tulip · June 2010

Given all available information, you probably don't need to have another kid right now.

danlexi04 · June 2010

If you need to be told by internet strangers that you shouldn't have to talk your SO into having another child, your butt crack picture is the least of your troubles. Just sayin... Huh?

LucyAnnie · June 2010

danlexi04:
If you need to be told by internet strangers that you shouldn't have to talk your SO into having another child, your butt crack picture is the least of your troubles. Just sayin...

This is what really concerns me. Wouldn't it be common knowledge/sense to understand that this is something that you both have to agree on? Coming to a message board asking how to get your s/o on board is not going to win you brownie points.

Putting the baby talk aside as well, why wait until July to start applying for jobs? Why not start now?

mmm brownies....now my tummy hurts even more

nilly5 · June 2010

danlexi04:
If you need to be told by internet strangers that you shouldn't have to talk your SO into having another child, your butt crack picture is the least of your troubles. Just sayin...

We've never even talked seriously about it. He has said he wants to wait, and this was before DS was even 10 months old. So I guess my real question would be how do I even bring up another baby. But it already seems like everyone had made up their minds about what they THINK they know about MY life.

And yes, I realize that I put it out there on the internet, and that is fine, whatever. But I still wonder why I post here.....some people are just plain rude and honestly, why do you all feel the need to just point & pick at every little thing? There are ways of saying what you need to say without being so rude or make "witty" comments.

Anyway, I'm going to talk to my BF tonight about the subject and see what he thinks. If he doesnt want to try again, then we wont. Simple as that.

BallSox · June 2010

nilly5:

Anyway, I'm going to talk to my BF tonight about the subject and see what he thinks. If he doesnt want to try again, then we wont. Simple as that.

I'm glad strangers convinced you to respect your boyfriend's wishes about him bringing more children into the world.

danlexi04 · June 2010

nilly5:

danlexi04:
If you need to be told by internet strangers that you shouldn't have to talk your SO into having another child, your butt crack picture is the least of your troubles. Just sayin...

We've never even talked seriously about it. He has said he wants to wait, and this was before DS was even 10 months old. So I guess my real question would be how do I even bring up another baby. But it already seems like everyone had made up their minds about what they THINK they know about MY life.

And yes, I realize that I put it out there on the internet, and that is fine, whatever. But I still wonder why I post here.....some people are just plain rude and honestly, why do you all feel the need to just point & pick at every little thing? There are ways of saying what you need to say without being so rude or make "witty" comments.

Anyway, I'm going to talk to my BF tonight about the subject and see what he thinks. If he doesnt want to try again, then we wont. Simple as that.

If you wonder why you post here, then don't. Nobody is going to beg you to continue to post. To be honest, I'm usually don't answer to many posts with snark but you were just asking for it with this one.

Manalyzer · June 2010

oh-zysbaby:
It's called "crop". That's all.

You spelled crack wrong.

LucyAnnie · June 2010

danlexi04:
nilly5:

danlexi04:
If you need to be told by internet strangers that you shouldn't have to talk your SO into having another child, your butt crack picture is the least of your troubles. Just sayin...

We've never even talked seriously about it. He has said he wants to wait, and this was before DS was even 10 months old. So I guess my real question would be how do I even bring up another baby. But it already seems like everyone had made up their minds about what they THINK they know about MY life.

And yes, I realize that I put it out there on the internet, and that is fine, whatever. But I still wonder why I post here.....some people are just plain rude and honestly, why do you all feel the need to just point & pick at every little thing? There are ways of saying what you need to say without being so rude or make "witty" comments.

Anyway, I'm going to talk to my BF tonight about the subject and see what he thinks. If he doesnt want to try again, then we wont. Simple as that.

If you wonder why you post here, then don't. Nobody is going to beg you to continue to post. To be honest, I'm usually don't answer to many posts with snark but you were just asking for it with this one.

BAZINGA

buckin · June 2010

Since your explanations didn't help clear it up, and you didn't care for the responses, see if this helps.

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