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Poll: big U/S tomorrow what to do?!?!?
DH and I have thus far been set on waiting until the day our baby arrives to find out the sex, but now our big U/S is tomorrow and we are so tempted to find out!
We are in a one bedroom house for right now, so we are not decorating a nursery which makes not knowing easier. We want the element of surprise but it would be so much fun to find out tomorrow. Should we be impulsive or patient?
We can't decide. Any opinions?? Thanks!!
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Re: Poll: big U/S tomorrow what to do?!?!?
We had a hard time deciding too, and at the last minute, we decided to find out. I am SO thankful we did. I feel like it's helped me bond with the baby, and I've had soooo much fun setting up the bedroom and closet and everything.
Surprises are fun, but I feel like we're a little bit more prepared knowing. I don't regret finding out at all.
So true!! Thanks!!
DH keeps saying the same, that it will help with bonding with our baby knowing if it is a 'son' or 'daughter'.
You will still have the element of surprise - the only difference is whether you are surprised tomorrow or on the delivery date.
My suggestion is to have the u/s tech write the sex (if they are pretty sure of the sex) on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope, then you and your husband can find out together at a moment you choose, whether that be in the delivery room or in some other important moment.
Don't feel like you have to decide about whether to find out before tomorrow. That is too stressful of a decision to make if you are still on the fence about finding out.
Have them write the sex down and put in a sealed envelope. It will buy you some time before you have to decide if you want to find out.
So excited for you for tomorrow!
We found out w/ DD, and when she was born it was still an exciting moment, without the "surprise" of finding out the sex. Knowing just makes things so much easier, and you have time to get used to having a boy/girl and plan for him/her.
Think of it as the "surprise" coming early, but you will still have intense excitement when they're born!
i agree that finding out at the u/s is still a "suprise". My aunt didn't think I should find out the sex of my baby but I'm glad I did. I was able to get the nursery ready and have cute clothes ready. After the baby was born I was so exhausted, I was glad everything was already done. Yes, you can do gender neutral but I rather have my pink stuff ready!
Also, you don't know what your baby is going to look like....thats a suprise for the actual giving birth too...good luck deciding!
Oh that is a fabulous idea! I am going for my ultrasound tomorrow and hope to find out the sex of my baby. The way the techs have explained it his/her little butt has been facing up and hiding the goodies! Wish me luck that he or she will be in the right position to find out who we will be welcoming in February. I can't wait to know - I want to have a name and just be prepared...and I do feel that it will help us bond with the baby. I am going to use this idea because I know he won't be at the ultrasound with me tomorrow. I would love for us to be surprised together!
Thank you so much for suggesting this!
We didn't find out and it's been awesome. It's so much fun to have everyone guessing - plus I got things I actually needed off my registry rather than a ton of 0-3 pink or blue outfits!
I don't care what anyone says, I'm bonding with my baby just as much as anyone who knows the sex - and we're so excited to have that "it's a..." moment in the delivery room
Ditto this. I still bond with my baby even though I don't know the sex. And although it is a suprise on week 20 ... it's kind of like opening a Christmas present early. I just would rather wait than spoil my surprise. That's just me though...
We also have a pool going with our coworkers, friends and family which is making it so much fun. People are betting money on whether they think it's a boy or a girl and towards the end they'll be guessing weight. Whoever is right or the closest wins the pot!! They've all said they'll buy a fabulous gift for baby with the earnings but really whatever they do, I won't mind. It's fun that everyone is participating and excited to know on the date of birth!
Its such a personal decsion and yet everyone in the world seems to have an opinion about it (Our friends, family, co-workers...) We have decided to wait and let it be a big suprise on delievery day. I'm bonding with my baby just fine not knowing, and we're not having any problems decorating the nursery. We have two names that we're solid on, so there won't be any guessing when they say "Its a....". My DH was really excited because he wanted that moment of going out to the waiting room with friends and family waiting to say what we had.
Love the idea of the envelope though too. I say wait, but thats just because we are. Can't lose either way. Good luck at your big u/s today and come back to let us know what you decided, and share your big news if you find out!!
Thanks everyone for your comments!! I think we are going to hold out and wait for the big day, but it sure is tempting to know that we COULD possibly know today.
I'll let you know how it goes!