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Help- to be a good wife or good mom?

LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member
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DH hasbeen out of the country for 2 weeks.  We planned to pick him up, but now he['s delayed until 5:30.  Dinner time.  Twins go up to bed at 6:30.    If he lands at 530 he will likely not get out of customs until 6:30.  All the kids will sleep in the car, further screwing up bed time.  But after being gone 2 weeks, and after a long flight, he'd love to see us waiting.  Do we get him, possibly screw up the night or tell him to cab it?  What's one night?  But the kids are just getting over a cold... ugh.  What's the right answer?
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  • twoasone1twoasone1 member
    I would go and get him.  I know if it was me coming back and DH didn't come and pick me up I would be hurt.  Maybe someone could come over and watch the kids for you so you could go?
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  • CityplannerCityplanner

    Personally, I vote cab.  

    While it would be nice to meet him in theory.  I think three overtired kids in a car who then have to get to bed is not the nicest homecoming.

    Maybe have them make cards or drawings to leave on the table for him welcoming him home? 

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  • MelTweMelTwe

    Personally I would take the kids and go.  Ultimately you are a good mom by showing them you are a good wife.  Life lessons. 

    But do what you feel is the best for your family.  GL!

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  • SmellygirlSmellygirl member
    imageCityplanner:

    Personally, I vote cab.  

    While it would be nice to meet him in theory.  I think three overtired kids in a car who then have to get to bed is not the nicest homecoming.

    Maybe have them make cards or drawings to leave on the table for him welcoming him home? 

    Aw...I like this idea.

    DH and I totally never mess with bedtime if we can help it.   I would just have him cab it.

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  • Jacques715Jacques715 member
    I would let him cab it. If the kids are going to be alseep when you get him and cranky when you get home no sense in him spending time with them then. You two should enjoy one another when he gets home and let the kids get a good night sleep so they will be well rested when they see their daddy the next morning.
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  • PoetSorrowPoetSorrow
    I totally love the idea of cards. Maybe even go as far as to make a little banner that says "welcome home dad" and a few balloons in the living room when he walks in. This way he knows there was some thought and excitement put into his home coming even though you didn't pick him up. The kids get to sleep on time, hubby feels like he was missed and loved...win win.
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  • cszlachtacszlachta
    I would take them and go, but I only have one, and she's an "on-the-go" kind of girl.
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  • LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member
    Okay, thanks ladies!  Verdict is... I'm going to push naps as late as possible, make cards while they're awake, and decide in the afternoon.  If we go, I'll feed them dinner picnic style at the airport.  If we don't, we'll have the cards.  Thanks for the thoughts!
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  • T_&_AT_&_A

    well, you've already made your decision, but I'd go pick him up.

    but we just have one kiddo, and he does ok with a delayed bedtime and/or being woken up and in the car.

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  • AZAudiGirlAZAudiGirl member

    I would vote cab also. It is a hard call but I think the babies sleep schedule is important and waiting for customs...ugh.

    Would he understand? 

    I struggled with this for awhile but DH travels so much that we finally just figured out that if it works with LO's schedule then I pick him up, if not he figures it out. 

    It is nice that he will be back for Father's day! Have fun :)

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  • gumiberggumiberg member

    imageLoveEeyore:
    Okay, thanks ladies!  Verdict is... I'm going to push naps as late as possible, make cards while they're awake, and decide in the afternoon.  If we go, I'll feed them dinner picnic style at the airport.  If we don't, we'll have the cards.  Thanks for the thoughts!

    i think that sounds like a good plan.  my DH wouldnt expect (or want) me to pick him up because he understands how important bedtime is!  but i'd probably put the kids to bed (630), get a babysitter, and go by myself.

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