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Would you leave LO with SIL & BIL who he didn't know?

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SIL and BIL live 1000 miles from us and haven't seen DS since he was 11 months. ?They're coming to visit, arriving next Thurs at noon. ?DH will pick them up from the airport and then go back to work. ?DH now wants to pick DS from daycare on the way to the airport, and let him spend the afternoon with SIL and BIL at our house.

I'm torn. ?I trust SIL and BIL - she's great with kids, and he's a doctor, so he'd be perfectly safe. ?But I'm not sure how DS would react. ?And they don't know the rules, DS's quirks, haven't spent time with him to know his schedule, understand his language/signs, etc. ?I'm afraid it will be a disaster but I know the reason they're coming is to spend time with DS.

WWYD??

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Re: Would you leave LO with SIL & BIL who he didn't know?

  • jillianfriesjillianfries
    No. Ry takes a little while to get used to people. I don't know how comfortable he'd be with somebody he basically just met.
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  • pete0121pete0121 member
    I would be nervous too.  I'm really big on C knowing the people he stays with, and knowing them well.  I want him to feel comfortable when we're gone.  Personally, I would not leave him.  Not because I don't trust my SIL & BIL...I do.  I just wouldn't feel like I was doing what's best for C when I was gone.
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  • pinksweetpea2pinksweetpea2 member
    No way.  

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  • 6fsn6fsn
    I would.
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  • iteachkiteachk member
    I think it depends on the child.  My kiddo would not do well with people she didn't know.  Trust your gut here.
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  • Payne2B2008Payne2B2008 member

    We are going thur the same problem here for my brothers wedding in July. I have family coming into town that has never met Mr.A. I have "wedding" stuff to do and my mom thought it would be a great time for him to hang out with them but after talking about it we decided that having him hang out at a friends would be better option for the few hours, plus it would be over a nap time & he is fine hanging over there,

    On thing that helped me with this is that the weekend is going to be full of craziness   and letting him have one "normal" day might really help him out. 


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  • j&jpj&jp
    I'm sure it depends on the child, but I know my DD would NOT be okay with that.  She really needs her time to warm up with people.  I'm sure they will have plenty of time to spend with her throughout the time they are here with you or your H present.
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  • Caroline&StephenCaroline&Stephen
    If I truely trusted them, I would.  Your LO isn't going to be scarred for life for being left alone with them.  Sure, your LO might be anxious at first because they don't know them but as soon as you leave I'm sure your LO will be ok.  My DD has her quirks & whenever one of the grandparents/aunts watches her I have this huge list of dos/don'ts.  I used to get so nervous and the funny thing is they always have a great time & she ignores me when I get home! :)  GL! 
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  • mittensonkittensmittensonkittens member
    We were in a similar situation with my parents a couple months ago.  They live 1000+ miles away and don't see him very often.  They came in late at night when DS was sleeping, and the next morning DH and I had to work but daycare was closed (I think it was good friday).  I was nervous about DS warming up to them so I stuck around a little bit to make sure he was ok, and he was fine, so I went to work.  I had written up some instructions and DS's schedule, and everything was just fine.  They all had a wonderful time. 
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  • Topi-JanTopi-Jan member

    I know I'm late to respond, but I agree that it totally depends on his personality.  Some kids would be okay with it, some wouldn't.

     On a side note, and I realize that it's probably  too late to do this for this upcoming visit, if you both have webcams then skyping is a great way to break the ice so he feels more comfortable with them.  

    Our whole family is 1500 miles away and we skype all the time.  Whenever we visit each other he lights up right away because he knows them and recognizes them.  Also, they get to see how he acts, communicates, etc.

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  • Belle15Belle15
    I would.  We went to a wedding out of state 2 weeks ago.  Two of my aunts happen to live there and offered to watch DD for the night.  I was torn, but at the same time I wanted her to get to spend time with them.  I put pics of them and there families in her little baby einstien photo book for her this way she'd get used to seeing them.  Not sure if it actually helped, but she had alot of fun with them. 
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  • LynnJonesLynnJones
    Yes.  They are family and as long as you trust them that's all that really matters.  Yes, your kid doesn't really 'know' them but after an hour together I'm sure he'll be fine and love them. 
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