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Keeping baby's name under wraps

mjzmjz
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DH and I have agreed not to share our baby's name until he's born. What I struggle with is how to tell people to buzz off and still be nice about it. Impossible, right? No one is satisfied with my current response, which is "oh, we're tossing around a few ideas but aren't set on anything in particular." Instead of dropping it, they just keep prying on what our options are. I don't really know how to respond to that.

So far the issue has really just been with basic acquaintances (OMG, I couldn't wait for my hairdresser to be finished with my hair last week because she wouldn't let the baby's name thing go!), but we'll be around all our family in a couple of weeks and neither one of us has any ideas on how to tell our loved ones firmly but nicely we're not sharing the name until he's born.

I think we should just flat out say (nicely) we have his name picked out but aren't sharing it until he's born, but DH thinks that's rude. What do you think? How did you handle similar situations if you chose not to share your baby's name until his or her arrival?

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  • rach312rach312
    Just to mess with people I would be telling them some terrible mad up name that you have picked out and wait to see their reaction.  Some people just don't understand boundaries.  See, we had no problem telling people our names but some people were relentless over why we didn't find out the gender.  They just couldn't fathom why we wouldn't want to know.... *sigh* 
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  • EliStarEliStar member

    I don't think it's rude at all. I think if you politely say that the baby's name is a "surprise" and that you're keeping it to yourselves until he's born, that they will get the idea that you don't want to share it with anyone because you don't care to hear opinions. IMO, it's waayy more rude to pry into your reasons for not sharing the baby's name than politely telling people that the name will be a surprise for everyone at the same time.

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  • miamicubajammiamicubajam
    I would just keep blowing them off and telling them that you guys still are not set on any specific name yet. Mention that everyone drives you nuts with this question and hopefully they will back off. Don't mess with a pregnant woman with hormones. lol
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  • mjzmjz
    I like all these ideas! If we do decide to be a little more firm and say we have a name picked out, I like Eli's suggestion to stress how it'll be a surprise. Surprises are fun, right?! That puts a good spin on it, so thanks! :)
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  • cocojack10cocojack10 member

    imagemiamicubajam:
    I would just keep blowing them off and telling them that you guys still are not set on any specific name yet. Mention that everyone drives you nuts with this question and hopefully they will back off. Don't mess with a pregnant woman with hormones. lol

    Ditto.  Just say you haven't come to a conclusion yet... little white lie never hurt anyone!

    I have a few favorites, but refuse to even mention them to anyone when they ask b/c I'm scared of their reaction.  Even though I can care less, but I know they may get into Dh's head and the name may be axed quickly!  LOL  Since we don't know the genders yet, it is easy for me to say, "we haven't started searching b/c too many to choose from!"  LOL

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  • MrsLeannaMrsLeanna member
    I agree with Eli, tell people it's a surprise.  I can't believe people are so rude as to not understand that.
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  • ReiszsPiecesReiszsPieces
    We're not telling anyone either... I just keep telling people that it's a secret. :)  They'll get over it.  Eventually.  Like in August, when they find out.  Lol.
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  • allison8878allison8878 member
    Ditto saying that it's a surprise or a secret. We didn't tell anyone Quinn's name and we aren't telling anyone baby 2's name either. People would ask, try to guess, pester, etc but we stood firm and told them that it was something special that we were keeping to ourselves. I've also joked and said that since DH wouldn't let me keep the gender a surprise, that keeping the name a secret was my consolation prize :-)
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  • ANJ410ANJ410

    We decided not to tell people Adrianna's name until after she was born.  When people asked we came right out and told them that "it is a secret until she is born because we don't want other people's opinions."

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  • MrsJOSEnADRIMrsJOSEnADRI
    I don't think it's rude either to just say it's a surprise.  We meant to keep the name a secret, but neither one of us is good at keeping secrets/surprises. 
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  • miamicubajammiamicubajam
    GL on what you decide. In our family you mention the word secret or surprise and the more anxious they get. lol It would probably drive DH and I crazy to be honest. It's kind of one of those things like, "I have a surprise for you, but you have to wait to see it." Some people can't stand secrets or surprises so they get all worked up about it. Hopefully your friends and family can back off. lol
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  • MellyMelBMellyMelB
    Its not rude....its your perogative and YOUR BABY!
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