Is calling someone's baby a chunky monkey offensive?

alybookgirl · June 2010

My friend posted a cute pic of her DD on FB in her diaper and she is a butterball. I commented that she is a chunky monkey. She wrote back saying, "she's not chunky, she's a baby." Is that offensive? People tell me all the time that DD is chubby or comment on her fat rolls. I could care less. Aren't most babies a little chubby anyways?

cmrand4 · June 2010

Not offensive to me in the least...some people are just overly sensitive and looking to make a deal. I wouldn't give it one more thought if I were you.

livinreality · June 2010

I call LO a chunky monkey all the time... but he has had weight problems so it is nice to see the fat rolls!

MommaD2Be · June 2010

NO!! People are way too sensitive. I always call Jonathan chunky monkey. If you had said - "wow, she's fat!" I can see maybe taking offense, but COME ON! Clearly you were saying she was cutely chunky in an appropriate, baby-type way.

sam19 · June 2010

I don't think it is. Natalie is a little chunkster and I love it.

I think some people can just be really sensitive about weight at times.

fairychick77 · June 2010

I take it as a compliment when somebody comments on J's rolls. I love them.

saraprice · June 2010

I don't think so. Bailey was a big baby and everyone called her a chunky monkey. Kate is small and people call her a peanut. I don't find it offensive, I think chunky babies are adorable.

Jules G · June 2010

No, I don't think so. I call babies chunky monkies all the time. I love a chunky baby & I think it's cute! To me chunky=healthy.

ivs112 · June 2010

I would not be offended by that. You friend needs to get the stick out of her butt.

alybookgirl · June 2010

ivs112:
I would not be offended by that. You friend needs to get the stick out of her butt.

My thoughts exactly.....

mlwurster · June 2010

If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

stellasmommy · June 2010

not at all. she's being overly sensitive. i call DD (and other babies) chunky monkey all the time.

nolebride · June 2010

People need to chill the f out. I don't think it's offensive at all. Chunky monkey=adorable baby IMO.

BengalBelle · June 2010

It's not offensive at all. One of my friends called J a "precious fat potato" the other day - still not offensive. People love chubby babies!

Jules G · June 2010

BengalBelle:
It's not offensive at all. One of my friends called J a "precious fat potato" the other day - still not offensive. People love chubby babies!

LOL! That's so funny!

nolebride · June 2010

mlwurster:

If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

Gordito is diff than chunky monkey IMO. I've never heard anyone descrive a baby as gordito.

mlwurster · June 2010

nolebride:
mlwurster:

If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

Gordito is diff than chunky monkey IMO. I've never heard anyone descrive a baby as gordito.

Nope. Same thing:

gordito

in context | images

gor?di?to Masculine - Noun - Singular

Plural: gorditos
Feminine: gordita
Plural and Feminine: gorditas

chubby guy, roly-poly, dumpling

katiekate1974 · June 2010

mlwurster:
If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

I've battled my weight my whole life as well, and honestly, I think you need to re-evaluate your stance on this. JMO but not wanting to have your baby's weight referred to in any way is a sign that you're not comfortable with weight issues still--and THAT will translate louder than any baby nickname he might have. Now, when he's old enough to recognize the connotation of what's being said ITA, but I think most people would.

reannegummer · June 2010

nolebride:

People need to chill the f out. I don't think it's offensive at all. Chunky monkey=adorable baby IMO.

this exactly. I've never heard of people getting so offended about weight comments about their children until I got on the bump. Now I see posts all the time labeled "Vent: So and So called DD fat, etc."

I take it as a compliment when someone tells me my DD is chunky.

ToledoDeux · June 2010

No, not offensive in the slightest. Please reference my earlier post on this topic. lol.

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/37407814.aspx

mlwurster · June 2010

katiekate1974:
mlwurster:

If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

I've battled my weight my whole life as well, and honestly, I think you need to re-evaluate your stance on this. JMO but not wanting to have your baby's weight referred to in any way is a sign that you're not comfortable with weight issues still--and THAT will translate louder than any baby nickname he might have. Now, when he's old enough to recognize the connotation of what's being said ITA, but I think most people would.

I understand what you are saying, but I feel that leaving the comments off the table will do more good. I wouldn't have as much of an issue with the comments at this age, but there is no good way to stop them when the children are older. I have learned with our families it better to not permit things from the beginning, rather than trying to stop them later.

nolebride · June 2010

mlwurster:
nolebride:
mlwurster:

If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

Gordito is diff than chunky monkey IMO. I've never heard anyone descrive a baby as gordito.

Nope. Same thing:

gordito in context | images
gor?di?to Masculine - Noun - Singular
Plural: gorditos
Feminine: gordita
Plural and Feminine: gorditas

chubby guy, roly-poly, dumpling

Perhaps it's the same by definition but I think the tone is different (just my opinion). I suppose if I spoke Spanish, I would be more used to that term and it probably would not bother me. Since I don't use it, it doesn't sound nearly as cute to me as "chunky monkey".

anarivera · June 2010

nolebride:
mlwurster:
nolebride:
mlwurster:

If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

Gordito is diff than chunky monkey IMO. I've never heard anyone descrive a baby as gordito.

Nope. Same thing:

gordito in context | images
gor?di?to Masculine - Noun - Singular
Plural: gorditos
Feminine: gordita
Plural and Feminine: gorditas

chubby guy, roly-poly, dumpling

Perhaps it's the same by definition but I think the tone is different (just my opinion). I suppose if I spoke Spanish, I would be more used to that term and it probably would not bother me. Since I don't use it, it doesn't sound nearly as cute to me as "chunky monkey".

I speak spanish and gordito/gordita is a cute nickname and we use it all the time for babies. I don't care when someone calls my girl gordita.

Besides, even when I don't have problems with baby weigth, I can understand some parents don't like their babies to be called chubbies or the opposite like peanuts, etc. You never know what is behind that, maybe their pedi has mentioned the weigth is an issue (too much or too little) and for them that could be sensitive theme.

katiekate1974 · June 2010

mlwurster:
katiekate1974:
mlwurster:

If she has had weight problems, then she could be overly sensitive to the comments. I have battled my weight all my life and have made it clear (well, trying to make it clear) to the family that comments like, chunky and gordito will not be allowed. I think it can have a negative effect later in life, if the comments don't stop.

ETA: I don't want any weight comments for DS or other future children-big or little.

I've battled my weight my whole life as well, and honestly, I think you need to re-evaluate your stance on this. JMO but not wanting to have your baby's weight referred to in any way is a sign that you're not comfortable with weight issues still--and THAT will translate louder than any baby nickname he might have. Now, when he's old enough to recognize the connotation of what's being said ITA, but I think most people would.

I understand what you are saying, but I feel that leaving the comments off the table will do more good. I wouldn't have as much of an issue with the comments at this age, but there is no good way to stop them when the children are older. I have learned with our families it better to not permit things from the beginning, rather than trying to stop them later.

Good point! Only you know your family!

mavilabride · June 2010

I would need to know what your exact comment was.

Posting a comment like "omg she's so adorable! What a chunky monkey" is obviously a compliment.

Posting a comment like "wow she's a chunky monkey" or "what a chunky monkey" or just "chunky monkey" could be taken as you are just trying to call her fat. Not that I personally would take it that way but when dealing with internet communication, you can't exactly deliver the tone. It's all about punctuation and the structure of your sentence.

m0132 · June 2010

I don't think it is at all. People need to lighten up. My LO is very small and I never get offended when people tell me how little she is or call her a peanut, it happens every day and I couldn't care less, I know she is healthy and people don't mean anything by it.

ksayles · June 2010

That is not offensive. There are 2 women that I run into on a consistent basis that say, "Oh, she is just the fattest baby!" That is not offensive to me.

Ivana_Stolichnaya · June 2010

I wouldn't find it offensive if it was said towards a baby, if she was a toddler or older, yes.

StrawberryBlondeMomma · June 2010

Jules G:
No, I don't think so. I call babies chunky monkies all the time. I love a chunky baby & I think it's cute! To me chunky=healthy.

while i agree that there is nothing wrong with chunky babies, babies can be little and still be healthy. my LO is tiny, but he is 100% healthy. i hate it when people look at me like i don't feed him enough just b/c he's on the small side.

*Caress* · June 2010

I don't think it's offensive at all. Some people are just way too sensitive.

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