MIL spilling the beans!

Re: MIL spilling the beans!

• lgeorge06

  May 2010

  EXACTLY what happened to me... MIL couldn't keep her mouth shut for TWO weeks!! I was mortified to have a parent approach me AT my school to offer congrats b/c she lives next to my MILs card club buddy!! I was so hurt by this that I made my DH talk to her about it and she COMPLETELY denied everything at first, then finally admitted she told a few people. I still haven't completely forgiven her for that and so I'm VERY careful to choose my words when around her. We haven't told her about any of our u/s appts yet, even though we found out this weekend and I immediately gushed to my parents! 

  Now we are faced with telling her our LOs gender  to my ILs and I already know that she will blab, blab, blab to everyone and I will end up with EVERYTHING PINK! grrrrr... I will again stress to her how much I would appreciate her keeping it quiet that we're having a DD, but I dont think it will matter. I already know that there is a blowup fight going to happen in the near future, as everything has to be about her. She only wants to be involved when its convenient for her or there are others around that will gush about the baby and she can look like #1 grandma. My MIL was not around much when DH was young b/c she was pursuing her teaching career and extra activities, so I'm not surprised that she's only checking on me when she feels like it. We'll see if it gets any better, but she's got some crazy ideas for a baby shower a week before I start back to school teaching! She NEVER gave any consideration to my wishes or ideas!! 

   Grrrr... MILs!!! What are we to do! I don't forsee it getting any better on my end, hope its better for you! 

  

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• myoo

  June 2010

  Both my mom and MIL told people stuff they weren't supposed to....so we sat them down and told them that if they can't respect our wishes, we weren't going to tell them stuff before anyone else and they'd have to be ok with being 'the last to know'. They both said that they "were just SO excited" and "they didn't think telling a few people would matter".  So I understand how you feel! Good luck!!

  

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• Mabmin

  June 2010

  This is why we didn't tell our parents until 12 weeks. I knew that my parents could have kept a secret, but my MIL is awful.  She would have immediately told everyone.  DH's siblings tell MIL things and ask that she not say anything, but she tells everyone.  I sometimes wonder why they want to keep quiet the things they tell her, but the point is that she still tells everyone.  I didn't want to cause a controversy by telling my parents first so we waited until 12 weeks to tell both.  If we have another, it might be a different story.

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• abbythegirl

  June 2010

  Well, I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one dealing with this.  (I figured I wasn't.)  Here's a funny update - my belly started popping out in week 10 forcing me to start telling people earlier than I wanted to anyway!  Now I'm in week 11 and wondering how normal it is to look like this - but I'm pretty petite and from what I have read this just happens for some, even though it's my first one.  Anyway things with the MIL are fine now - I confronted her - nicely - and we worked it out.  (I think.)  I was glad I said something to her because it made me feel tons better just to get it off my chest.  Thanks all for sharing your stories too!

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