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UPDATE to the SAHM post but can't afford it...
UPDATE: 
I talked to my boss and she is willing to let me have a flexible schedule so I can WAH whenever I want 3 days a week or so and just come into the office for meetings. SO ladies, YES--it can be done. Thanks for those who were supportive and helpful......
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Re: UPDATE to the SAHM post but can't afford it...
That's wonderful!
I was offline when you posted originally, but I scanned through the responses. Just so you know, most of the flamers aren't regulars on this board. We're lovers, not fighters over here. Usually.
Thanks so much---yeah I figured as much---I've always lurked on this board and known you ladies to be supportive and sweet mammas! Thanks again
Haha. I didn't participate in round one - because wowsers!
Great news - sounds like a great deal you have worked out!
Ditto!
I responded, but I did find some of the other responses pretty harsh since we didn't know your entire situation.
I'm glad it worked out for you!
Ditto this this 100%. There's no way I could have time to do a job from home with my 2.5 year old unless I just sat him in front of the TV for 8 hours a day. However, I think this is a great solution for the short term until you can figure something else out.
Also, yes the serious flamers are not regulars here however some of the points were not intended to be flames. Just good info that staying home when you know you're in the red would not be the best idea. However, THIS solution sounds like it would mean that you would not be in the red...bravo! Congrats on making it work. Maybe those flames sparked you to get aggressive with asking for a solution at work instead of just quitting. Good luck to you!
It's a GIRL!!
You gals are really presumptious--who said I wouldn't have someone here while i WAH?????? Geez......give a gal a break! Of course I would have someone here, I'm not stupid....
Good for you.
And like the others said, ignore the drama llamas.
I'm glad that everything worked out and you were able to balance work and family.
Your response "SO ladies, it can be done" has zero to do with your original post. If you had mentioned that you were trying to work out an arrangement with your employer and had other possibilities on the table, I don't think anyone would have flamed you. When you say "who else stays at home and can't afford to, we're going to live in the red so I can be there with my child", you're not exactly painting a picture that you're doing this the right way. I'm shocked that you were actually surprised for getting flamed for making a statement like that. I don't think anyone would support SAH if it wasn't financially a good choice.
Um, you need to chill out a bit. These ladies are wonderful and were NOT flaming you. I thought the same thing they did- you didn't say ANYTHING about childcare and it isn't presumptuous for anyone on here to assume that you might not understand that life with a toddler is a whole different ball game from life with a small infant.
I have no idea what happened in your OP, but you either need to learn to phrase your posts better or grow a thicker skin. Lashing out like this on a regular basis is not going to get you anywhere on here.
Lashing out? Wow okay....i commented on something she said and aparently to you that's "lashing out" Whatever
Yeah, people can usually call it like they read it. And an attitude like that probably won't get you far on here.
FWIW, I've worked from home 20 hours/week for the last year. I started when my DD was 2.5yo. It's hard, but it's not impossible. For a while, I worked around their naps. Now, I work around preschool/activity schedules (my son is 5 and my daughter is 3.5). I return phone calls in the afternoon during their "down" time (as they watch a movie or as they play outside) but I get most of my work done after they go to bed. Sometimes, when I'm feeling overwhelmed, I have my husband take the kids on a weekend day so that I can put a full day's worth of work at the office in peace and quiet.
Oh, and I don't have any outside help.
Anyway, I just wanted to offer some encouragement to you. If you have help, great. If not, it's not impossible.
So good luck! I hope you're able to make it work as well as I have.
lmao- it has already gotten really old. And it is the OP who is being presumptuous- never did you say you were going to have childcare lined up- so yes- learn to phrase your posts better or grow thicker skin
Well, didn't you just show us. Huzzah for you.
Showed us what exactly??? I mean No, it can't (or shouldn't) be done the way it was presented in the original post. Working from home to make yourself ABLE to afford it means well, that now you CAN afford to stay home, so that is great. Had juggling work to make up the difference in the original post (as opposed to dipping into savings every month) been a presented option then everyone would have said...yes, absolutely...go for it...from the very beginning.
I read your original post long after everyone had had their say, and it seemed like some responders were pretty harsh. It's important to be long-term financially responsible, but life is not only about maximizing your income. Since you had a large safety net, my feeling was take a chance and do what makes you happy.
But sounds like everything worked out for you without having to leave your job. Good luck!