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NBR: Lost the center stone of my engagement ring!! :(
From as soon as I was able to get it back on my finger after DS was born, I've worn my engagement ring w/my wedding ring every single day! I had it on at work yesterday and even remember admiring how sparkly it was in the sun on the way home. I went to Toys R Us with my mom & DS to get her a car seat for her car (she is the babysitter while I'm at work) and a birthday gift for a party today. We get home, I pull up my shirt to nurse DS and see the prongs but no diamond!!! The center stone fell out somewhere in between coming to my mom's & getting back home. And to make matters worse, I had the ring on my insurance policy, but removed it in April bec I felt it was unnecessary and too much money. I felt like the BIGGEST *** ever!!!
I freaked out, knowing that DH would be pissed (not necessarily at me, but at the situation- this was NOT a cheap ring!) Well, to make a long story short, we wound up replacing the center stone w/a cz. The entire basket that the ring was sitting in had to be replaced too, as it seemed to be falling apart. WTF! When you spend thousands of dollars on a piece of jewelry this should NOT be happening!!!!!
On the positive side, the ring looks great. NOBODY will be able to tell, and I won't have to *** my pants if the stone falls oout. (This cz cost me only $20! The jeweler I went to took pity on me lol.)
And my dad made a comment that really made sense- if DH ever wants to hock my ring, then the marriage is obviously over, so F him!!!!!
Anyway it was very upsetting.
And to add even more to the story, we are supposed to go to a birthday party for DH's coworker's daughter, who is turning 3. DS slept all night, woke up around 4:30am (his normal wake-up time) to eat, and then slept until 6:45am!! AWESOME!! He felt a little warm so I took his temp, and he has 99.1 and diarrhea. PLEASE PRAY that this tooth cuts today!!!! (But now I am concerned about taking him to this party with the fever...........)
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Re: NBR: Lost the center stone of my engagement ring!! :(
That sucks
If you get it replaced in the future, make sure you take it in every 6 months to get it tightened and checked out. That really helps.
I can't believe you lost your stone! I can only imagine how you must have felt when you told DH. I think I would have thrown up as I told him. Have you tried looking for it? Maybe it fell in your car or somewhere around the house (dumb question, I'm sure you already did look for it!). At least the CV looks good
I hope DS's tooth comes out today! Hopefully the fever will go away as he's up and active before the party
This happened to my mom TWICE--and she found the stone BOTH times!!
she found out her ring didn't have enough prongs for the size stone she had....she had to go from a 4 prong to a SIX ----and it hasn't fallen out since. How many prongs do you have?? Maybe that was the issue?
I do hope you find it--have you tried to retrace your steps??
GOOD LUCK sweetie.........
Well what REALLY gets me is that I did have it looked at about 2 months ago. I didn't want to drive all the way to the store we got it from, so I went somewhere else. They said the stone was lose and they supposedly tightened it!!!
And when I said "we" in the post, I meant my mom & I. I DID NOT tell DH!!! He will go NUTS!!!!!!!
I was actually thinking of getting a cheap white gold band to wear from now on, and leave my diamonds in my jewelry box for special occasions only. (My wedding band is 5 stones and I will go BIZERK if that one has any issues!!!)
Yep I retraced my steps and didn't find it.
I had a 6 prong setting, so that should've been perfect for my 1 carat diamond.
The jeweler said the basket was too flimsy to support the weight of the stone, and they were surprised that it lasted as long as it did before breaking. WTF.
was the jeweler who gave you the CZ the same one who made the ring?
Where did DH get the ring from? In my book, it was defective if it wasn't constructed properly to hold the stone....i'd make a case to take it back to the jeweler and see if maybe they can help you out--OR take responsibility.....
I have been thinking all morning about your post and I have decided that I absolutely need to put in my two cents.
1. You NEED to tell your husband. While you may not be able to tell a diamond from a CZ, a trained eye can easily. If he ever takes it in even for a cleaning, most jewelers are required to notify you that you have a fake simply so you can't tell them later that they switched out your diamond. Someone in passing may mention it, etc. You do not want him to find out from someone else. Tell him what happened and let him help be your advocate.
2. Take your ring back to the jeweler who did the repair. See how long they guarantee their labor. Our jeweler guarantees his labor for six months. While it isn't their fault the diamond came out, they certainly hold a little responsibility seeing as you just got it tightened.
3. The jeweler who made the ring told you the crown was flimsy? That sounds so sketchy to me. They should have never put your diamond in a faulty crown. This is a problem, IMO. You should call them and explain your situation. Tell them it was their crown that was faulty, according to THEIR associates and see if they will do anything for you.
Most BIG jewelers have a lifetime guarantee against loss of stones. If you ever buy another diamond, I urge you to buy it from a place with lifetime guarantees. Diamonds are diamonds, they all come from the same place whether you buy it from Tiffany or Wal-mart. If you buy a diamond certified buy a reputable independent certification company, it really doesn't matter where you buy it.
Also, most insurances don't cover loss of stones. I don't know about your policy specifically, obviously, but in my experience they cover theft, loss, etc. Complete loss. Not loss of stones.
It's always disappointed to lose diamonds, and ESPECIALLY a 1 carat. I'm sorry. If it makes you feel any better, my grandma lost her diamond before I was born and found it again a few years ago. There is always hope!
ETA: I manage a jewelry store at a large chain.
Ugh, I'm so sorry..that sucks.
Btw, I didn't even know some rings had 6 prongs. My center stone is just over 2 carats and I only have 4 prongs. Hmm....
We are talking 3 different stores here. I got it from one place (let's call them store A), had it tightened & cleaned at store B, and went to store C last night to deal with this catastrophe. Store C is the one that told me the crown was not strong enough to hold the stone.
(None of the 3 are big chains.)
This one thousand times over. You should never hide something huge like that from your husband. You already said he'd be mad, but not mad at you. That's no reason not to tell him. Secrets in a marriage rarely remain secret and knowing that you not only chose not to tell him,, but developed an elaborate cover up scheme including a cheap fake stone, could build a lot of resentment and future mistrust. You're headed down a dark ugly road....turn back!
That makes me sick just thinking about that. Ugh.
I agree with the other posters about telling your DH. He will find out eventually, and I think it is just better to get it over with.
I have my ring insured with our homeowner's policy, and I have a separate policy for the diamond itself. It is about $75/mo additional, but totally worth it.
I have a 4 prong platinum setting with an almost 3 carat diamond, and nobody has ever said I need a 6 prong setting. I did have the entire crown replaced about 9 years ago.
All of this is SO true! My family owns a small jewelry store and we guarantee our labor for six months.
I am truly sorry to hear about this! I would be devastated! I wanted to offer you some tips that we give our customers when they call saying they have lost a stone. First thing is to check your pockets. If you had slipped your hand in and the prongs broke, the diamond may be inside. Second place to check is your purse or diaper bag. Rummaging around inside can snag a prong and cause the stone to come out in there. Another place we suggest is in bed. Most people don't realize how bad it is to wear jewelry when you sleep. My mom lost a 1 carat diamond when she was in Target (she wasn't sure where exactly she lost it at the time) but completely retraced her steps and was able to find it in the cart area of the store! (SO LUCKY!) GL to you, and like PP said, I think you need to tell your DH.