Seriously? It's common sense. (Board "rules" mentioned)

OCIrishBruin · June 2010

Okay - not to get up on a high horse or anything, but going through some of the drive-by posts (and related posts) has really started to annoy me.

I cannot stand when the offender claims ignorance - "I didn't know there were rules", blah blah blah.

When I joined ttcal, no one had to spell it out for me. It's obvious that you don't just jump into a board like that and start fishing, requesting support, or (heaven forbid) posting a bfp. It took me a good 3-4 weeks of lurking, posting support for others, etc. before I had the nerve to start my own post.

People make mistakes, and I get that, but seriously, when people get upset about being called out for breaking these "mysterious" rules, I just want to tell them to STFU and try to recall some of the things they learned in kindergarten.

Amanda78 · June 2010

ihearteddieboo · June 2010

Word.

Mrs.Brink · June 2010

priya&peter · June 2010

agreed! *runs off to ttcal to see what OC is referring to*

AppleRidge · June 2010

No sh!t. And how about the "rule" that if a whole bunch of people think you did something offensive, it was probably offensive. Rather than getting pissy, just apologize and move on.

OCIrishBruin · June 2010

priya&peter:
agreed! *runs off to ttcal to see what OC is referring to*

It was the post (I think last night) on PgAL where someone came from ttcal crying because they didn't get a warm reception when they posted their drive-by bfp. But, this has been a common theme lately and it is starting to p*ss me off. I am totally open to letting a slip up post go if the poster apologizes, but when they get defensive about not knowing "rules" I definitely give them the side-eye.

pepomntpat · June 2010

I agree!

someflower6 · June 2010

true. but people have different perceptions of what boards like this should be like. i mean, even before i posted on the FIRST TRI board, i lurked for awhile... but some people just jump right in. it happens all the time, on any board... suddenly someone has an issue and posts about it looking for "support" and gets all rifled up when they don't get any. i think it especially happens on the loss boards because people assume that anyone who has had a loss is always going to be sympathetic to someone else who has had one... what they don't realize is being sympathetic about a loss does not mean everything has to be warm and fuzzy.

in general, i find myself getting annoyed at people who JUST post about themselves. even if the person is a semi-regular, it gets old after awhile constantly offering someone support when they don't give it back.

OCIrishBruin · June 2010

someflower6:

true. but people have different perceptions of what boards like this should be like. i mean, even before i posted on the FIRST TRI board, i lurked for awhile... but some people just jump right in. it happens all the time, on any board... suddenly someone has an issue and posts about it looking for "support" and gets all rifled up when they don't get any. i think it especially happens on the loss boards because people assume that anyone who has had a loss is always going to be sympathetic to someone else who has had one... what they don't realize is being sympathetic about a loss does not mean everything has to be warm and fuzzy.

in general, i find myself getting annoyed at people who JUST post about themselves. even if the person is a semi-regular, it gets old after awhile constantly offering someone support when they don't give it back.

This really bugs me too. I remember a few people like that on ttcal (not sure if they are around anymore).

johannaknip · June 2010

Yes

pepomntpat · June 2010

It is true people have different perspectives, but that doesn't mean people have to accept them.

KAG30 · June 2010

I feel like a lot of people lack common sense these days.

~*BREN*~ · June 2010

KAG30:
I feel like a lot of people lack common sense these days.

Me too.

KelleyBean · June 2010

JuJuBe3 · June 2010

OCIrishBruin:
someflower6:

true. but people have different perceptions of what boards like this should be like. i mean, even before i posted on the FIRST TRI board, i lurked for awhile... but some people just jump right in. it happens all the time, on any board... suddenly someone has an issue and posts about it looking for "support" and gets all rifled up when they don't get any. i think it especially happens on the loss boards because people assume that anyone who has had a loss is always going to be sympathetic to someone else who has had one... what they don't realize is being sympathetic about a loss does not mean everything has to be warm and fuzzy.

in general, i find myself getting annoyed at people who JUST post about themselves. even if the person is a semi-regular, it gets old after awhile constantly offering someone support when they don't give it back.

This really bugs me too. I remember a few people like that on ttcal (not sure if they are around anymore).

Oh, they're still around. And great OP, OC!

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