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My body is a fail

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I feel like my body is such a fail. I couldn't progress past 3 1/2 cm during labor (took 30 hours of pitocin just to get that far!) and had to have a csection and now my daughter is 7 days old and my milk still hasn't come in.

I feel like such a failure. I want to cry everytime I give her a bottle. She lost 9 ounces at her check up 3 days after she was born and she was weighed yesterday and has only gained 1 ounce back. I just wish my milk would come in and I could feed my baby myself.

What things can I do to help my milk come in?

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  • Blairy823Blairy823 member

    Just wanted to say Hang in there!!!

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  • tralfamadoriantralfamadorian member
    hang in there!! its clear you're a great caring mommy. what helped me was having/letting my son nurse ALL the time, even when nothing was coming out. i think this helped finally build it up. he nursed almost all day every day for a while but now its established. along with the normal advice of tons of water and eating oatmeal.
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  • PalanPalan member

    I could have wrote this, I still have "issues" with my delivery and my body's lack of progress. In regards to the milk, mine did not really come in until about day 10 with pumping, needless to say we were already on formula. I still pump and bottle feed BM along with FF as my little guy can not latch due to the size of my nipples (large) and the size of his mouth (small) so I feel failure all around, and he just refused the breast.

    I don't have much advice other than to breathe but know that you are not alone in your issues.

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  • RunKirstenRunRunKirstenRun
    This exact thing happened to my friend.  It took her about a week for her milk to come in.  Just hang in there.  Your body is not a fail.
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  • hydies33hydies33 member

    imagetralfamadorian:
    hang in there!! its clear you're a great caring mommy. what helped me was having/letting my son nurse ALL the time, even when nothing was coming out. i think this helped finally build it up. he nursed almost all day every day for a while but now its established. along with the normal advice of tons of water and eating oatmeal.

    I agree. Lots of fluids and lots of nursing.

    I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. Just know that you're not doing anything wrong! Try to not be too hard on yourself. ((Hugs)) 

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  • Mandy0809Mandy0809
    The same thing happened to me. All of it. Add to all of that no pain meds, and Strep B Positive, I was mess. I had the whole natural birth planned out. My heart set on it...Then hello Murphy's Law...My doctor was away and I had like three diff OBs the whole time I was in labor. Plus the whole no milk coming in and bad latch. I cried when I had feed her formula in the hospital... I feed via EBM and supplement FF. But pumping helps LOTS with getting your milk to come in!  So, you're not the only one totally disappointed with your birth experience. Pump pump pump.
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  • LoriZooLoriZoo
    relaxing and reducing stress is helping in producing milk and encouraging let down...it will happen!  you may want to pump, too...sometimes that helps...our doc wanted me to feed our lo 3 2oz bm bottles a day to ensure he was getting enough food...no problems w weight gain after that!
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  • seellsseells member
    Thank you ladies! It feels better knowing that I'm not alone with these problems.
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  • tecetece

    You so not alone ( read my recent post).  I felt the exact same way as you, but I just resolved to enjoy this time with my baby and to make sure he is fed and happy - be it breast or bottle.  Hang in there.  It will get better!

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  • heatherf307heatherf307
    First off, your body is NOT a fail. You created a life that was nourished and grew strong and healthy in that body. You had a difficult labor, yes, but that doesn't mean that you failed, or that you can't be the best mom to your little girl. Second, remember that each woman's body is different. I know it can be hard, but try not to stress over your milk not coming in. You were made for this. Your body was designed to be able to take care of your baby, and trust me, you can do it. Third, IDK if your pedi told you or not, but babies do sometimes lose some weight in the days right after birth. If your daughter seems to be doing okay to you, then trust your gut. In a few weeks, you and your LO will be nursing like pros, trust me. As far as things to get your milk to come in, try calling your local La Leche League chapter, they may be able to help. Keep your head up!
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  • KJNDML2KJNDML2

    Put her to breast as much as possible. Without that constant stimulation to release those milk producing hormones your milk will take longer and you won't produce as much as she is going to need. Even if you milk is not in and you still have to give her a bottle after you try to breastfeed, at least you will be well on your way to full production. 

     I know it frustrating. The first few days after my son was born, it was hell. I am a L&D and postpartum nurse so I thought I knew exactly how it was going to be - WRONG! Just stay calm and trust in your body. If your milk doesn't come in in the next few days, contact your care provider or, even better, La Leche League or a lactation consultant.

    Hope this helps :)

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  • lpstllpstl member

    You are not alone! I had so many issues with L&D, and then BFing that I was in pieces for those first few weeks. My milk took a while to come in, this is what my doula and LC told me to do:

    • Drink TONS of water
    • Nurse as much as possible 
    • Pump, if you don't have one already see if you can rent a hospital grade pump locally.
    My hospital told me to call and talk to one of the LCs if I had any questions, can you do that? If you aren't sure where you can rent a pump they should be able to point you in the right direction.

    Good luck, and try not to get down on yourself! Those first few weeks are overwhelming, we've all been there and I promise it gets so much better.
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