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2nd Trimester
Stop Asking Me That!
"Have you picked out any names?" or "Have you decided on a name?"
I just want to say very curtly - I have, but I'm not telling you that.
I'm fine with the whole "Do you know what you're having" and "When's your due date" (although I laugh and say - sometime in October - she'll get here when she feels like it).
But the name question - which always seems to come as the third question in the baby inquiry sequence - is just starting to drive me nuts.
I just feel like it's such a personal and prying question. And it almost always seem to be asked in a judgmental tone.
Ah. Hormones. Love it.
Anyone have a good witty comeback to the question? Humor me.
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Re: Stop Asking Me That!
People started asking me what I was having at about 9 weeks. I just ignored it after a while. Or they would ask me in a sarcastic tone "how are you feeling?" with a big smirk. I'd just retort by saying "GREAT!" Since I was blessed with no m/s and have had a happy pregnancy.
I hate it when people question anything about my pregnancy. Yeah, I admit, I did it to pregnant women. Now I realize how annoying it is and I will never do it again, haha.
Tell them your naming him/her a crazy name like...Optimus Prime!
I agree. I understand that it gets annoying answering the same question 90 times a day, but I doubt people are asking just to be judgmental.
Or Neveah, tee hee!
They're just being curious. While I'm not sharing our name either, I admit a secret obsession with names and love to hear others'. Well, most of the time.
Either way, no comeback necessary. Just practice this line and repeat ad nauseum: "We're thinking about a couple, but won't decide on anything until we see her." Brushes them off gently and shuts them down until October.
i truly cannot believe how aggravated some people get over simple questions, even multiple times. Its conversation - superficial or meaningful, no matter.
for once I would like to hear from the people complaining about this question or that question - have YOU ever asked a pregnant co worker what they are having, will they find out the sexgender, what will the name be, what is the nursery theme, and how are you feeling? have you? I bet you have.
I have said "There are some we like but we're just not sure" and then they say "What are they?" and I say "We're not telling anyone our names, sorry." Then I change the subject.
I think they are just taking an interest but I still wouldn't tell because then they will tell you if they like them or not.
We want to tell my inlaws that we're naming it Setan Lucifer. We still might.
To me, it's a taboo question. I've never asked someone that question, because I've always felt it's a personal and I don't want to put them in an uncomfortable position or make them feel like they're put on the spot.
And I do think it's a judgmental question half the time, because most people will throw in their two-sense about name selection.
Just as with those people who give you unsolicited advice. There are some people you know who just want to help, and then there are others that think they know it all.
I have answered "We're still throwing ideas around and we'll decide when we see here" but there are those that will persist and say "Oh, you can tell me!" No I don't. Back off.
too personal?
get over yourself.
Actually, no I haven't asked some of those questions. I usually tell them they look great and typically ask them other things about their lives because I assume that they are over inundated with questions about the whole baby thing.
There are other things to talk about with a pregnant woman than their fetus. I respect that they have their own lives and interests. If they want to chat about the baby, I let them lead the conversation there.
And you know how "Minnesota Nice" they are trying to be
note to self: stop opening posts that indicate fury over being asked superficial questions in order to start conversation, you know, like regular people do all the time.
Apparently, I should name her ShaQuisha Loyalti or something similar.
Your baby's name won't be a secret when they get here--therefore, I don't think this qualifies as a personal question to get up in arms about. It will be common public knowledge.
FFS!