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MNmomofQ
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Why do people think it is alright to ask..
MNmomofQ
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Why do people think it is alright to ask if my pregnancy was planned or not? Several of my DH's friends wives who I don't know very well have asked me this. I managed not to get pregnant in my previous 27 years of life, pretty sure I know how babies are made, so yes this was planned pregnancy not that it is anyones business.
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"Seriously, it’s like we’re the velociraptors at the end of Jurassic Park circling our prey, and then the Bumpie tyrannosaurs come in and tear some **** up. Except instead of killing us, they eat Joseph Mazzello."-GOMI
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Re: Why do people think it is alright to ask..
People do not think! I mean, really! When I get asked that I want to be like, "Here's your sign!"
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I generally reply with "do you REALLY want to know? think about what you're asking".
Or if I'm in an especially b****y mood (and don't see them very often) I just go into a long story about how we screw like rabbits and did you know doing it doggy style can help make sure you get optimal sperm into the uterus...and then they usually get the point.
I get asked this all the time... My DH and I will be married 1 year this August, so people ASSUME that this pregnancy was not planned.
another question I get asked is: "why didn't you wait and enjoy married life first"
makes me want to scream
LOL I will try this next time
I think people tend to ask that based on their own thought process.
They are the same age as us and may not be ready themselves, so they think that the baby was a surprise or unplanned.
I've had tons of people ask me this too, but I don't mind telling them that DH and I planned our baby.
However, it does bother me when they continue to ask me why I chose to get married so young (I'm 27) and have a baby less than a year after we got married. As if my life were ending because we married and are now going to become parents!
I think I could make a killing on a prgnancy bingo card. We could have things like:
"Oh, it's too bad you're not having a [insert opposite sex of baby here]."
"Did you plan it?"
"You need to be careful, because when I was pregnant [insert horror story here.]"
"Oh, you should take my [out of date if not illegal and useless] baby furniture. It's in a box in the basement. I could let you have it for cheap!"
"You're not having an epidural, are you?"
"You're not having a c-section, are you?"
"You're not having natural childbirth, are you?"
"God, your boobs are enormous!"
I get the "aren't you a little old" comment. I am 31, not 61. 31 is NOT too old to have kids.
Just because I didn't have a baby at 22 doesn't mean I will not be a good mom. Hell I wasn't married, or even with DH at 22, so having a baby then wouldn't have been a good idea. At that age, I just happened to know how birth control worked and how babies come about that I knew how not to get KU. So just because you got KU at 22, got married to the douchenozzle baby daddy, and are unhappy in your marriage do not criticize me for having a child when I felt I could financially and emotionally care for a child. Even though I am "old."
WOW this is HILARIOUS!!!!!
I have heard every one of these questions...
People are just dumb sometimes lol
bahahahahaha I love it! Id play that! Add
"youre not having a 4D us are you?! what if theres something wrong with the babys face?!"
WOW this is HILARIOUS!!!!!
I have heard every one of these questions...
People are just dumb sometimes lol
This! DH and I will have been married for one year in Oct! People (even family) felt it was their place to ask-- some even asked if we needed time to be alone with our thoughts??? If we were happy about it???
Why the eff would I date the same man for 7 years, get married and then a)have sex unprotected b)tell people I'm pregnant at 8wks if I wasn't excited??
People just need to butt out. Whew. So glad I could type that out, but trust me-- it feels good to say it out loud to those who are particularly annoying.
Oh, and the part where my DH's brother told him his life was over... but Brother doesn't even have any kids yet... Sooo.... I say life is just beginning, and we're happy about it.
I have not encountered this but have felt the need to tell people this was a surprise pregnancy. I don't know why, though...
I suppose people are just curious and, in the age of TMI and no more manners, do not really care if their questions, comments, or bump groping is considered inappropriate.
Don't forget to add the one that's great for people who have been ttc for awhile now: Guess you're stuck now.
This is so awesome!!
I told a few people "yep, planned on getting stupid drunk one last time on NYE and having loud sex with my DH....luckily 40 weeks later we'll have a baby." Seems to shut them up really quickly...wonder why?
Or my other favorite "Is he a honeymoon baby?" No, dumb dumb - our anniversary is 7 days after my due date....do the math. I'm a human, not a horse.
My favorite was "Did you have a hard time?" This was dh's best friend's FI. No congrats, or yay, or when are you due? Nope, that was her first reaction.
Um, DH and I have been together for 9 years. Married for 6 months. We were NOT TTC before marriage. You do the math.
Damn, when is it ever appropriate to ask about someone's sex life?
This bugs the crap out of me too. I am still shocked when people ask this though. I've been married 5 years. WTF do you think?!?!
We get this all the time and its incredibly frustrating!
Oh I agree...
"was it planned" like do you mean to ask "did I know that having sex could lead to having a baby" UGH! My DD and this baby will be 22 months apart, we "planned" it as far as having sex in hopes of me getting pg. GEEZ, how personal is that...and how weird! Even if it wasn't "planned" who cares??