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To stay at home or work... that is the question

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I just went back to work this week and my husband and I can't stand it.  I get home around 7 every evening and only get to see LO for a couple of hours before he goes to bed.  Last night he was already asleep when I got home at 7 and slept until 6 a.m. when I woke him up.  I didn't even get to see him awake and play with him.  I hate this but I am not sure I should give up my career either but I miss my time with him and loved being a sahm.  I hate taking him to daycare, I know he is at a safe place but I feel he would learn so much more from me.  I use to constantly sing to him, read to him, talk to him, do tummy time, bumbo, go on walks, etc.  What are the pros and cons of each?  I'd love to hear from both working Moms and sahms.

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  • AlisonLynnAlisonLynn
    I just quit my job and I am so happy about it. I HATED my job though. I couldn't think about going back and leaving DS. I would never had been able to do it. I might try to get a part time serving job and serve tables just a couple of evenings a week. I couldnt imagine being away from him all day at this point. We are tight on money right now but it is worth it to me! Hope you can make a decision on what would be best for you. GL!
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  • mrsjennimrsjenni member

    Well I'm assuming that finances are not an issue here, correct?

    Personally, I could/would never want to be a SAHM.  It's just not for me... I love to work. I love my job.  I actually think working makes me a better mom because I'm happier.

    That being said... my kids go to my mom's house during the day and I only work from 7:30-4 during the week.  If I got home at 7pm, I'd go crazy not being able to spend more time with my babies.  It would break my heart!

    Have you thought about looking for PT work or maybe a new job that allows you to be home more often??

    It's a big decision that only you can make.  If you don't want to give up your career, then don't! But I think you have some options and can find a happy medium with a new or PT job.

    GL! 

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  • Reagan1010Reagan1010 member
    I was in the exact same position as you, but I only went back to work for 3 days.  I missed DS so badly and I was surprised that I didn't care about my career anymore.  In the past it had always been so important to me.  DH and I talked about it and decided that for our family, me being a SAHM was the best for us.  I absolutely love it and feel blessed that I can stay home.  GL to you in making your decision!
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  • sturgejesturgeje

    imageAlisonLynn:
    I just quit my job and I am so happy about it. I HATED my job though. I couldn't think about going back and leaving DS. I would never had been able to do it. I might try to get a part time serving job and serve tables just a couple of evenings a week.

    this is what i decided to do as well.  i'm also looking into selling tastefully simple or something like it for some extra money.

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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003

    It depends. Do you want a career later and will taking time off now kill your chances? Can you afford to SAH? Do you like what you do?

    If I hated my job I'd have a hard time working, but I love what I do so for me the choice was easier to make. Do I miss my kids at times, sure......but they also learn a ton at daycare/preschool that I could not teach them as well as their teachers do.

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  • mrstarawalshmrstarawalsh member
    I work 3/4 time 3 days a week. I feel I have the best of both worlds. I spend lots of time with my kids, have 4 day weekends, and don't have to send them to care since DH WFH. I also get to feel productive in the wider world and use my degree. If I had to choose, though between working full time and SAH I would SAH. I couldn't only see my kids a few hours a day 5 days/week and it would break my heart o send them to daycare since I could give them better care and opportunities myself. This is just me and I don't begrudge anyone a different choice but I could never be a traditional full time working mom and spend so much time away. I wouldn't have had kids if that were going to be the case.
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  • newsladynewslady member
    I would love to work part time because I would be using my degree but I am a news anchor and part time jobs are rare.  I loath only being able to see Sam for a couple hours each day so I feel strongly about becoming a sahm.  I didn't know if there was anyone out there that regrets quiting their job.  I like my job but I don't love where I work... it definitely isn't worth not seeing my child.  I just hate the thought that a daycare gets to spend more time with my son than me.  I feel like I am missing out on so much and LO will get to know the daycare more than me.  Money would be tight but that's not a big deal to me, we'd still be able to pay the bills on one income. 
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