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2nd Trimester
Another MIL post (shock!)
Ah - so, MIL has officially taken the cake. DH and I wanted it to be just us at the anatomy U/S, and she was throwing a tantrum over it. She finally asked a few weeks ago if we would do an elective 3D U/S if she paid for it. We agreed, and I even mentioned we couldn't afford it otherwise. She was fine with it, said when I make an appointment to let her know when and she'll take care of the bill because she wants to see her Grandson in 3D.
I made an appointment for the second Friday in July. I let MIL know who then told me that since she spent $2k in furniture last week and needs to get her truck fixed she can't afford it. I spoke to DH, and it was agreed on that we were not going to do it if we were paying for it. I think the 3D u/s can look a little creepy, and I have a u/s the last week in June to check my placenta so there is no reason to pay anything more then we have to.
Tantrum central AGAIN - now shes all pissed because we agreed to this elective 3D u/s and saying "Now I have to WAIT to see my grandson, which is very unfair!" Oh Christ, get over it. We agreed because you said you would pay - as of last Friday, she was asking when I was scheduling it so she could get the money - pfffffft.
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Re: Another MIL post (shock!)
I don't see why she thinks it so "unfair" to have to wait to see her grandchild...what the hell? Can we say "sense of entitlement"!!!?!
We agreed because she said she would pay - she can't pay, we're not doing it. DH was laid off and his last day of work is next week, and we have all the baby things to buy still. The $150 she was going to spend (that she thinks we are going to spend now) can go a very long way towards the baby.
I know - she acts like its her God given right to see him before he's born. I told her she can wait.. just like my parents, DH, DH's grandmother (who raised him, NOT his mother), myself, etc. She's all pissy about it now, but what can we do?
That's how we are, and actually have been since day one. DH hasn't been able to make my appointments with me, but he did take off for the anatomy U/S. He'll be the only one in the delivery room. We have family in town - ALL our family, except his father - but they know that if we want them somewhere, we'll ask. Except his mom, she's just a pushy B!tch.
O.M.G.
Your MIL needs to get a grip on herself, and her sense of self-entitlement. She does not NEED to "see" her grandson in 3D. Not to mention that there is no medical necessity for another u/s, 3D or not.
Just tell her that she can wait like the rest of the world. I would let her stew for a while, and then just nicely let her know that after thinking about it, unfortunately, an elective u/s is not in the LO's best interests (even if you don't agree with that, she deserves to hear that) for health and safety purposes.
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I'm like a lioness to those around me. I'm mean and I'll rip your face off if you mess with someone I love, and I'm about 100% positive my son will go in that category. DH is really backing me up on everything, which makes me so happy. He knows and has told her the only people in the delivery room are himself and MAYBE my best friend, and just because it's her grandson doesn't mean she comes by whenever she feels like. She can call just like my parents and our friends will.
OMG - seriously? Tell her if it were SOOO important to see her grandson she would have postponed buying furniture.
My MIL is C-R-A-Z-Y. I can't even begin to go into detail because it is so vast, but thus far during this pregnancy she has gone against our wishes to keep the pregnancy to just family until after the anatomy ultrasound and has told EVERYONE, including face book, and when we confront her about it her response is 'What?!?!?! We didn't keep OUR pregnancies from people and if I want to tell people about MY grandchild I will.' Gag me.
I emailed her just a little while ago and told her that I would not be paying anything, this was her idea, the $150 can be used for a crib AND mattress and if I spent that money, he can't sleep in a 3D picture of himself.. and I don't feel it's appropriate to do any more u/s then are needed. Here's something sad... I actually have a U/S the last week in June, and she has no idea. She'll throw a big temper tantrum because I don't want her there. They think my placenta is partially detached. So really they're not looking at the baby, but at myself.
Yeah, I told my DH that was what got me the most - "It's not fair." Well, whats not fair is you telling me I'm supposed to shell out money for something I do not want nor need. Argh! The only thing that makes me a little sad is that my mom wanted to go when we did it. However, she's not going to be upset.. hell if I told her I was paying for it, she'd just get mad. LOL.