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Are your parents divorced?
jonnygurl76's post below made me wonder, why did your parent's get divorced? My parent's got divorced because my Dad cheated on my Mom with her best friend.
I was just wondering what you went through? Is it always a bad thing or do people just fall out of love?
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Re: Are your parents divorced?
My mother is incapable of a normal healthy relationship, hence she is on her 3rd marriage.
She has cheated on this husband with my dad (her first husband) if that is any indication of her relationship skills.
Mine are divorced, and you would have never thought they would be such great friends now! My Mom and her husband hang out with my Dad and his wife. Seriously, they are all such good friends. I am so lucky to have atleast gotten that out of all the drama from when they were married.
Why they'd get divorce? To be short and "sweet", they were young and didn't get along. They didn't know how to weigh real issues, everything was a battle. At some point in my childhood, I vowed not to repeat the same mistakes, and to give my child a stable home with parents who loved each other and got a long. As a kid, there was nothing I wanted more for myself and I hated being one of the few kids in school whose parents were split.
My parents divorced for many reasons but I do think they fell out of love with eachother. It all started when my mom was injured in a car accident and their relationship just went down hill from there. She depended greatly on my siblings and father alot more than ever before and I think my father couldn't handle it.
They were planning to seperate right after my mom had her last back operation but she ended up having a stroke. Out of guilt, my father stayed with her until they both couldn't stand the relationship any more. They finally were divorced 6 years after my mom's stroke and are finally on better terms. It was very ugly though there for a while and both of them were putting me in the middle. Now, they are both living seperate lives and are happy for the most part. They each still occasionally put the other one down when I talk to them but I finally told them I didn't want any part of that. If they wanted a good relationship with me, they needed to be civil. So far they are.
My parents got divorced because my dad was a really bad guy. He was intimidating and abusive to my mother, drank all the time, had started doing drugs, and simply wasn't parenting. I'm really grateful that they were divorced, because it gave me a shot at a better (though still broken) childhood.
I think God created marriage to show what can happen when He unites two imperfect people. In marriage, two sinful people come together and their self-sacrifice-- the very thing that makes marriage work-- points to the power of God. Having said that, this is an imperfect world full of imperfect people, and sometimes divorce is called-for. BUT, I don't think "falling out of love" is a good reason for divorce, because in marriage we promise to love one another even when it's hard, or when the feelings aren't there anymore. God isn't only concerned with our happiness, although He's glad when we are happy with what He's doing in our lives. God intends marriage to first and foremost make us holy.
My parents divorced because my dad was a raging, abusive alcoholic. He hit my mom over the head with a frying pan one night. I was about 12, and when he put the pan down, I grabbed it and told him if he ever hit her again, I would smash his skull with that same pan. I don't know what came over me, but I guess it was because I'd watched her be abused for so long.
Dad was also bipolar, and back then they didn't know as much about how to treat it. I think he self-medicated with alcohol and drugs. It's sad because our relationship was so rocky, and he died while I was out of the country a few years ago. Thank God my DH encouraged me to visit him in the hospital several times (he had a stroke) before we left. It was so sad, and I still mourn him, even after everything he did. I truly think he didn't know how to deal with his mental illness.
almost the exact same thing, except my father hit my mom with the telephone (they were bigger and much heavier in the 80's) and it was my brother that stepped in and got my dad to stop.
i think because my parents were married at 19 with a baby that they never really had a chance.....my father felt tied down way too young and used the alcohol to try to escape it.
my dad died at 48, i was only 26. and even with everything that went on when i was younger, i still love him and mourn him everyday. but i would never enter into a relationship with anyone that drank.....my DH knows this, it would be the ultimate deal breaker in our relationship.
My parents divorced because one of them is BSC and the other one cheated.
It was really hard on us kids when they divorced and I regret living with one parent instead of the other. But I'm glad they divorced. It took 5 years, but in the end I realize that their marriage was hurting everyone involved. At least some of us have had some healing in the meantime.
My parents divorced when my brother, sister and I were quite young still and had everything to do with marrying young and my dad not being ready to settle down. He cheated and was not always nice to my mom.
I didn't see him much for awhile...until he met and married my step-mom and she played a big role in him seeing us regularly. I'm really close to my step-mom but not my dad. That is more of a surface relationship.
Wow, some you girls went through some bad things. It seems like it was in everyone's best interest for all our parents to divorce.
Sometimes I wish my parents had divorced. When I was 8, I was crying because they fought all the time and I told my mom I was afraid they were going to get divorced (a bunch of my friends' parents were divorced). My mom calmed my fears by saying, "Don't worry honey, we need each other for financial reasons." Gee, thanks mom. They couldn't live their lifestyle without each other (i.e. buying whatever they want and taking several vacations a year), so instead we get to hear them fight all the time.
If find it interesting though that my parents and DH's parents are the only ones of all their siblings that have never been divorced.